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writes:I have been in this relationship for 8months and a bit and i feel like i do so much stuff for him. latly i have felt so unappreciated and like i dont exist around his friends. its not like him to do this. so i asked him if he could treat me better and be more romantic(like his old self) and he promised me he will. but it NEVER happens. im so hurt i dont know what to do. any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, nightwalker  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Girl, show him that you do exist!!! Where some new underwear, not fully covered lets say.. and plus when you go out with his friends some sexy beautiful clothes that will shock everyone wouldn't hurt!!! If his friends notice you than for sure he will...trying being a bit more alive and crazy!!! Live your life... do some stuff that would make him surprise and he would love!!! Oh and plus sometimes a bit jealousy reconnects.... make him crazy!!! ;)
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reader, EllsworthT  +, writes (25 August 2009):
Get used to it, honey. The flowers and romance don't last forever. You're too young to be so serious about guys anyway. Stop putting out and go have fun with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): what kind of stuff do you do for him ,, why can't you start being romantic,, and if you didn't get what your waiting for start asking why did he change...
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Actions, tend to work better than criticism. Continue to be your self with him, loving, sweet and smile... but start doing less and asking for more (but not critically-no tears, whining, evil eyes, ect). If he wants to be with his friends make your own plans happily, find ways to make yourself happy- and to let him miss you some. Ask for flowers if you want them. Ask for him to take you to your favorite restaurant, to rub your feet, be specific in what you want(and give him credit for it even though you had to ask... and if he doesn't don't criticize, but continue to ask for things even when you know the answer will be no.) Remember keep being loving, sweet and smiling... and when he does do something good make sure he overhears you brag to your girlfriends about how romantic, sweet, loving, he is. Make sure you are giving him lots of appreciation for the things he does do. "Baby, I just love the way you..." "Thank you" "Your the best" "Its so sexy when you..." (BE SINCERE!)If after about a month of you doing this you don't see any progress... tell him simply that your needs are not being met and that although you love him, you cannot be with him without getting your own needs met. Again don't be critical and do not list all the things you do for him, just keep it simple, be firm and walk.Then go out and have fun and ignore him... let him regret and appreciate you. Maybe you will decide to take him back and maybe not. (You'll have the advantage!) Hope this helps. Good luck.
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