A FWB with a younger lady has turned into a relationship but my friends still tease about her. How do I turn this around?
Q. I want to start off by saying I know my actions were uncalled for and I truly am sorry for the details I shared andhow they effected everyone. I'm 41 years old and this winter I met a 22 year old student and "hooked up" with her a few times. I...
A. 27 June 2014: It depends what kind of guys your friends are and how you bounce off each other. I was in a similar situation to you, I'm in my 40s and dated a much younger girl a while back, all the guys at work made jokes about going to nativity plays, do I need ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for his friends to insult a guy who puts his Bf first?
Q. Is it normal behaviour for a man to insult their friends for putting their girlfriends first? My best friend goes out with my boyfriend's best friend, and the other day the two guys started talking about going to Amsterdam for a lads weekend. ...
A. 2 February 2014: You are over-analysing it. Yes, some men talk like this, some do not. It's up to this guy to be a man and do what he wants to do himself, not what others want him to. His decision and he can deal with the consequences. He is not a p**** yet, but h... (read in full...)
He pulled away after sex? Why?
Q. I got chatting to this guy online but during that I was also dating another man, so the other man was still the focus of my attention, I ended up ignoring the online guy and he left me alone. Weeks later I regretted ignoring him and thought abou...
A. 1 February 2014: You met, you had sex, he wasn't interested in a relationship. That's it. There's no mystery. Why do you feel so used?... (read in full...)
Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 26 November 2013: I have been in your exact position before, and I made the wrong decision, I strung it out.
Take my advice now and end it. Now. He's a big boy, he will handle it. It is blatantly obvious that there is no future in this thing so look after yourself... (read in full...)
Serendipity after a summer camp. Not Quite!
Q. I met a guy at a church Summer Camp I volunteer at every year. He was coming from another state on a mission to help in the camp. We talked a lot during camp and when he left he gave me his phone number. We spoke a bit on Facebook but not too much...
A. 7 September 2013: Don't bother with him any more. What a hypocrite and he's just using you for a bit of fun. As you get older you'll see that just because someone claims to be religious and goes through the motions, whatever that religion is, doesn't necessarily make ... (read in full...)
He's not that close to this girl who he used to have a crush on, so why did he get up at 5.30am to meet her at the airport?
Q. Hi everyone! I love my boyfriend we get on but sometimes he drives me crazy! We have been together 4 yrs and live together, he has a few friends but hes really close to this family who have 2 daughters! He was in the same year at school with one ...
A. 6 September 2013: I think it's wrong. You don't visit someone's house to be insulted, ... (read in full...)
I sent a male friend a topless photo of myself and the guilt has been eating me up ever since
Q. hi.. so i'm stumped and feeling guilty. i've been with my boyfriend since i was 17 years old. i'm now about to be 22. he's my first real boyfriend and i love him to pieces. the reason why i came to this site, is because in early 2011, my best friend ...
A. 6 September 2013: YouWish, I apologise - I hadn't read the question correctly. I didn't realise she was actually with her boyfriend when she sent the picture.
That said, aren't you still being hard on her? No need for guilt, just move on and accept a mistake ... (read in full...)
He's not that close to this girl who he used to have a crush on, so why did he get up at 5.30am to meet her at the airport?
Q. Hi everyone! I love my boyfriend we get on but sometimes he drives me crazy! We have been together 4 yrs and live together, he has a few friends but hes really close to this family who have 2 daughters! He was in the same year at school with one ...
A. 6 September 2013: I'll be blunt. Your boyfriend needs to basically grow out of this ridiculous situation and fast. Which is more important to him, seeing you happy or flopping along like a puppy whenever these people call? There's more to this than meets the eye if ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend? His girlfriend's family don't accept him!
Q. My friend's 19, and he's told me he's started dating this Indian girl who's lovely. I'm happy for him, however, it's the reaction of her parents that worries him (she's Muslim but not by choice). She does not want to be Muslim, she is not at al...
A. 6 September 2013: He does have a choice to finish with her and back out of this complicated situation. Good for her in rejecting religion, it would be great if he could support her but - does he know what he's getting into? ... (read in full...)
He isn't well off financially and spends most of his time with his children. This things bother me. How should I feel?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have been in a relationship with a man for about 7 months. I really do love spending time with him, we have a lot in common and we get along very well. He is funny, fun-loving, smart, understanding, reflective, and I find him very ...
A. 6 September 2013: You're young enough to move on from this. He sounds like a really great guy and will be a fantastic husband for someone, just not for you. If this is a taste of what future life will be like with him, and it's not working, then try and begin the end ... (read in full...)
I sent a male friend a topless photo of myself and the guilt has been eating me up ever since
Q. hi.. so i'm stumped and feeling guilty. i've been with my boyfriend since i was 17 years old. i'm now about to be 22. he's my first real boyfriend and i love him to pieces. the reason why i came to this site, is because in early 2011, my best friend ...
A. 6 September 2013: Relax. Stop feeling guilty. It wasn't "wrong" at all. Besides, if your current boyfriend is any kind of man he won't feel threatened or put off by this, hey we all do crazy things when we're young right?... (read in full...)
What should I prepare for when visting an escort for the first time?
Q. I'm 27 years old and a virgin, and I always thought about waiting for the right girl that I liked or was into me, however I just grew impatient. I'm shy, I don't feel comfortable in myself so I feel that I'm not any girls type and not attractive to ...
A. 6 September 2013: Visiting this escort won't change you, you'll still be the same guy afterwards. Is this just because you need sex, or is to somehow boost your self esteem?
Just work on becoming the man you want to be, then get out there and mix with people. ... (read in full...)
Online dating: How long do you wait to ask someone out on a real date?
Q. I have been messaging this girl on a dating website for 3 weeks. How long do you think I should leave it until I ask her out for a drink?...
A. 6 September 2013: Ask NOW, but next time don't leave it so long. It's not a huge thing to ask for her number if you've been getting on well with messaging a few times, once you've texted a couple of times you ought to suggest hanging out.
This only applies to onlin... (read in full...)
Need to get over someone quite pronto...too distracting!
Q. I feel like a right mug for feeling this way about someone...almost like an infatuated teenager who is inferring way too much for their own good. I was hoping for a sympathetic ear to give a bit of advice on what the decent thing to do is in this ...
A. 3 September 2013: You're seriously going to wait until then to "pry"? Why don't you just suggest the two of you hang out sometime? No work, no friends, the two of you? What's stopped you doing this so far? Stop the elaborate plans, "game", all of that, just be normal ... (read in full...)
Why do the men orgasm so quickly with me?
Q. Almost every man I've been with reaches orgasm quickly. Anywhere from one to five minutes. They say it's because I feel so good. My natural secretions are plentiful and have been described as slick and hot. I've also been told I'm tight ...
A. 31 August 2013: There is nothing wrong with you. I think you've possibly just been very unlucky with the men you've dated, hopefully soon you'll meet a guy who is better in bed.... (read in full...)
I think I have a physical sexual problem but don't want to tell my mom! What should I do?
Q. I don't know if I should be asking for this kind of advice on here or not but I don't know where to go with it. I'm shy and don't want to speak to/show my mum, but I have a problem with my vagina, i don't know how to explain the problem and i am not ...
A. 31 August 2013: Nobody knows who you are, where you are, anything...there are no trolls here either so you may as well give some of the ladies here a few details, they may be able to set your mind at rest. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any good tips for a really inexperienced girl for when it comes to enjoyable sex?
Q. i have recently met this guy who i really like. Although we aren't about to have sex at the present time, i am really worried about it. i am not a virgin but have only have sex twice before when it was really awkward. i didn't know what to do and ...
A. 14 August 2013: If he is as mature as his age may allow, he would take all this into consideration. Just take it slow.... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I like her and can't wait for the next date but not come across as an annoying idiot?
Q. Hi I just met this girl, she is much younger than me, but this isn't the first time I've hung out with a younger girl so I am aware of any potential pitfalls. She was very nervous about meeting me and backed out once, but the second attempt it ...
A. 14 August 2013: Thanks for all the replies. I did text her and it turned out she'd had a bad day at work and did appreciate me texting. I decided to leave it a day as I was going to a gig the next night, when I came out and got back to my car she'd texted asking if ... (read in full...)
Nearly two years after breaking up and I'm still not over her
Q. Why do I still cry now and again over a break up that happened 20 months ago? We were together 5 years then she ended it saying she wanted to be on her own. Within a month she had someone else. Only after the break up did I discover she had...
A. 12 August 2013: It will pass. either put some effort into meeting someone else or stay away from dating for a while and do something different. You might surprise yourself. I was with my ex-wife for nearly twenty years in total, they said it would take me years to ... (read in full...)
Do you think this text was meant for some-one else?
Q. Do you think txt was meant for someone else? Jsut want to know if you think im being paranoid or is this dodgy, A guy I have been seeing for a year now has been away to a friends birthday for the weekend. He has sent me a message everyday while he's ...
A. 16 December 2012: As already suggested, call him. Don't sound crazy, just calmly let him know that this is suspicious.
I'll be honest, it does not sound good. Don't be fobbed off. If you don't like his answers, get out of there. Cheating should not be tolerate... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I've not met properly but have a huge crush on her?
Q. There's this girl that I've not properly met but i added her on facebook after a party over a year ago.. I started talking to her on it a few months ago rarely and I really like her. I've got a massive crush on her but because I've never actually ...
A. 3 June 2011: Who initiates these chats? She or you? If she does, there may be hope, unless she sees you as just a friend...although you may have already put yourself in that position with your chats, we don't know! But you can't have too many friends, so nothing ... (read in full...)
I cant continue this LDR but I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi After ten months of a long distance relationship, I can't go on. I love her, love my time with her, but the relationship model is all wrong, it's not working. We have just done the "time to think" thing, I know we are finished, so does she, we ...
A. 1 June 2011: Thanks for all the advice. I really cannot go on, just the drive over to hers is putting me in debt from the costs, I am convinced now that unless you both have a definite shared goal, long distance relationships just do not work out. I am in the ... (read in full...)
How can I make friends with girls?
Q. Hi I am 17 and I am shy. I don't have confident because i cant speak English fluently. How can i make friends with girls? I really want to start a relationship but i just don't have any female friends. My class has no girls, I am in male canoeing...
A. 31 May 2011: Small steps first...just get out and about in amongst girls, smile, say hi, keep doing that. As your confidence grows, you will get talking to them. ... (read in full...)
There's this girl...should I cut her out of my life for good?
Q. I need a little advice. I want to apologise in advance for this being so long, but I'm really stuck here. So about 4-5 years ago I met a girl online. We quickly became friends and talked very regularly. After a few months I found myself having mo...
A. 31 May 2011: She is using you. Man up and ignore her. She is a classic attention seeker, her boyfriend would have been furious if he knew about her chatting to you, I know I would have been. Get on with living your life with your girlfriend in the real world. If ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to watch porn on the Internet?
Q. Is watching free porn on the internet illegal? If it's not, then why does anyone bother subscribing or paying for porn?...
A. 31 May 2011: He means downloading...yes it is illegal, just like downloading music, "normal" films, I'm assuming that you do that too? Until iTunes do porn, it will always be illegal, we all do it, but there is always that tiny chance they will catch you.
... (read in full...)
My daughter's is obsessed about Michael Jackson and wants to follow in his footsteps
Q. hello all, i hava a problem with my 13 yr old daughter, most young girls have an obsession with a singer at some point i know but my daughters is michael jackson it has been going on since she was about 7 and its worrying me as it seems to be ...
A. 25 December 2010: She didnt ask for a glowing endorsement of Michael Jackson, she asked because shes concerned about her daughter being bullied...calm down with defending MJ will ya?... (read in full...)
My daughter's is obsessed about Michael Jackson and wants to follow in his footsteps
Q. hello all, i hava a problem with my 13 yr old daughter, most young girls have an obsession with a singer at some point i know but my daughters is michael jackson it has been going on since she was about 7 and its worrying me as it seems to be ...
A. 24 December 2010: Why are you asking this on this website? This is a phase and she will change, bullying is disgusting and wrong whatever the reason, so just try and address that first and leave her to her MJ obsession for now...why him though? Were you a fan? ... (read in full...)
She's totally ignoring the fact that I sent her three messages!
Q. I'd like some advice please regarding a potential new relationship. A new girl started at work a few months ago. We get on really well, and have been getting to know each other. I recently suggested going out and we arranged it for the day afte...
A. 21 December 2010: I would write this one off and forget about her. She's "just not that into you" my friend.... (read in full...)
Don't all guys like anal?
Q. Don't all guys like anal? My boyfriend of 2 years begged me to try but now won't even come close to that region...i feel embarrassed cause i thought all guys liked anal. help? :( ...
A. 19 December 2010: Sounds like youre pretty open minded with regards to sex...I suggest you find a guy who is too...but dont be used!... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to feel there should be nothing hidden in a relationship?
Q. I moved in with my boyfriend to then find out he had been cheating on me with several women throughout our entire relationship. I have since tried to trust but told him it will take some extra steps on his part to help me rebuild the confidence. ...
A. 15 December 2010: How did you find out about the cheating? If you were looking at his phone before you had suspicion, then your relationship really was doomed from the start.
If not, then please leave this man now. He is treating you like an idiot, you do not trus... (read in full...)
We don't get many chances to go out alone because she has a child, but always manages to find time to go out with her friends!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years and she has a child, so we don't get many chances to go out on our own. However she seems to find time to go out with her friends. But on those occasions I'm not allowed to go. When I mention we should go ...
A. 13 December 2010: You've just answered your question yourself there mate...you're not allowed to go out when she goes out in mixed company? I hear alarm bells...don't be a mug, find out whats going on, if you have suspicions, move out!... (read in full...)
Lowering testosterone in women really seems like a bad idea..
Q. Women: Have any of you ever been prescribed a drug, or known someone who has, that is meant to lower testosterone to help with acne? My dermatologist forced it onto me only recently(I can't remember the name of the medicine.) I was alright with...
A. 10 December 2010: Its commonly thought that men only need testosterone and women only need estrogen. The truth is that while one will dominate, we do need an amount of the opposite hormone too for good sexual function. But - everyone is different! Try it and ... (read in full...)
We don't get many chances to go out alone because she has a child, but always manages to find time to go out with her friends!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years and she has a child, so we don't get many chances to go out on our own. However she seems to find time to go out with her friends. But on those occasions I'm not allowed to go. When I mention we should go ...
A. 10 December 2010: This may sound harsh, but it sounds like she just wants you for a babysitter...is the relationship OK apart from her nights out? I don't want to make you paranoid my friend, but Id wonder whats going on when she's out with her friends...... (read in full...)
How do I make our sex life more satisfying for both of us?
Q. Every time I have sex with my wife it only last for about 3 minute. Not to mention that we don't have sex that often only about once every 2 weeks. How do I lengthen that time of the sex? And sometime, most of the time I just don't feel the s...
A. 10 December 2010: The reason it doesnt last long is because you don't have it very often...you say the sex lasts minutes, well that will give you completion but not your partner...spend time on the sofa before you go to bed, kiss her, feel her body, make her want you ... (read in full...)
Long Distance has killed my relationship... help me get him back!!
Q. So, I've been with my boyfriend, for about 11 months. He lives 70 miles away, about an hour and a half in up the motorway!! He has two jobs - a full time 8-5 weekday job, and does shifts in a bar over the weekend! We were going along quite nicely, ...
A. 17 October 2010: When a guy says he needs a break, it usually means he's thinking of how to get out of the relationship...70 miles is not long distance at all, its an hours drive tops, even if you lived by him you'd be in the same situation with regard to his ... (read in full...)
Left with the tattoo, but not him!
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for like about three years, about five months ago, we got matching tattoos. I got his initals and he got mine. We both got it on the back of our neck. Now we are broken up and I am trying to get over it but everytime I ...
A. 1 July 2009: Memories of what? A brief fling and a mistake? Get it lasered off, a lot of tattoo studios now have their own laser removal rigs, ask around, or get it done at a clinic.
Failing that, have a tattoo artist do a cover up job on it!
It's part of ... (read in full...)
Assertive dating techniques - jump at opportunities to define what is acceptable
Q. Hi.. so im generally good with the confidence and self esteem thing - but lately im paying more attention to it, as i go after high quality game... Scenario: recently i went on a date, left her alone the next day (i have a life/etc) - nex...
A. 30 June 2009: Mate, I have to say, you come across as one of those "pick up artist", "mystery method" type guys. No problem there, good luck with it, but one of the previous answers was spot on, it's not always applicable to the real world.
There is a big age ... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: Do you look like a porn star? No? Then why do you expect men to give you porn star sex? The majority of men look at porn for their own private pleasure, not for tips and advice.
Sex is a two way thing, you need that "vibe" to click together, whic... (read in full...)
Is there life after a marriage breakdown?
Q. OK, it's over. If you read any of my previous questions you can chart the decay and destruction of my marriage, it's all there. We're now going to seperate. her choice, not mine. She says she needs to "find herself" and decide what to do with her ...
A. 8 May 2009: She won't go to counselling, she's afraid of what might come out. I think her secret life has gone on longer than I suspected, and with more men. It's about 4 different guys from what I understand. I can't tell her what I really think of her becasue ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks she is in love with another man yet our marriage is still good!
Q. My marriage is in trouble again. My wife had a fling last year with a guy she used to bump into while out clubbing, all very casual, but destructive and hurtful nonetheless. I gradually uncoevered the whole thing, and...I forgave her. She said she ...
A. 24 April 2009: Thanks for the advice...it's a lot more complicated than I could ever hope to put down in written words but thanks anyway.... (read in full...)
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