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writes:I got chatting to this guy online but during that I was also dating another man, so the other man was still the focus of my attention, I ended up ignoring the online guy and he left me alone.Weeks later I regretted ignoring him and thought about him often, mainly because the other guy wasn't working out but something drew me to this guy. He texted randomly one day and we got chatting again. He kept inviting me to his house but I kept saying no. Weeks later I ended up going to his flat, we had sex, it was nice. Week later it happened again, and again, until the 4th week. He then pulled away, when I started to get feelings for him. I started to like him, he would text me all day and call me for up to an hour at night. It just stopped, he didn't wanna see me again because Apparently I said something that annoyed him, which to me sounds like a silly excuse. He then said it was the date of his mums death coming up she's been dead for 3 years, and he was busy with work and he's had a lot on his mind. And also went back on the dating website. During the 4th time we had sex, he couldn't stay hard and that's when he's avoided me. He still texts, he still wants to phone me. But what's the point and he doesn't wanna see me or make any plans to fit me in again. What does he want ? I'm confused! Do I get back online and date again? I feel embarrassed, rejected, and totally used as if he's emptied me inside out, took everything from me physically and left me emotionally.
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reader, DKW +, writes (1 February 2014):
You met, you had sex, he wasn't interested in a relationship. That's it. There's no mystery. Why do you feel so used?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 February 2014):
He didn't use you, he just didn't want the same thing as you.
In the future, to avoid this from happening again, you should wait to have sex until the guy's actions signify his intentions. Talk is cheap!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 February 2014):
 What he's looking for is someone to fill in the emptiness. If you went from just chatting online to going to his house after his insisting, it means his intention is not dating. He just wants some sex and a girl willing to do the travel. Maybe he wants to see you again just to prove that he can get hard so that you won't end this with the idea that he can't perform. There is little emotional involvement from him and it all ended when your remark hurt his sensitive feelings. What you said to him could be true, but he just can't handle it. He needs someone to worship him and never sees his weakness. You definitely should go look for someone else. He seems so sad with his life and your continued contact would just drag you down. You might be initially drawn to him because you sensed a calling to nurture him or something. He had not done enough to earn that. Texting all day and talking a lot is not a sign of emotional involvement but rather using you as a clutch to gain confidence in women again.
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