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*ayney82
writes:Do you think txt was meant for someone else? Jsut want to know if you think im being paranoid or is this dodgy, A guy I have been seeing for a year now has been away to a friends birthday for the weekend. He has sent me a message everyday while he's been away telling me how much he loves me etc, which is unusual as I am not clingy at all and would not expect to hear from him while he's away with friends could be booze making him soppy , so this morning he txt me telling me he love me, I txt back how is wkend etc, he replies having fun etc, end of conversation, then. Few minutes later I get another txt from him saying , you are beautiful I'm so glad I bumped into you x. I instantly thought that message isn't for me , so txt him back saying , you didn't bump into me!? X , he hasn't replied all day and my gut is telling me that it was meant for another woman, he is a bit of a lady's man but I normally him the benefit of the doubt, just why would he send that to me ? and how should I handle it , don't want to be involved with a womaniser, but dont know for sure as I don't know his friends have no way of really finding out,
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reader, aavon82 +, writes (17 December 2012):
I'm sorry, but I think that text was meant for someone else. You say that your gut is telling you that it was meant for another woman and I believe that intuition is a powerful thing. Life has taught me that your gut instinct is correct 99% if not 100% of the time. I agree with what honey pie has said, he's having an 'oh shit, what do I do now?' moment, which is why he's gone quiet. This is one of those times when a call or a face to face conversation trumps a text message. The sooner you speak to him, the sooner you'll know what's going on.I wish you all the best.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 December 2012):
 You have caught him out, that's why he has gone quiet...probably working on a lie to cover his arse!!
I'd love to know what his excuse is!!
The text isn't proof that he has cheated but I think it's fair to say that his eyes have been elsewhere!!
If he fesses up, you can probably overcome it, but if he makes up some lame ass excuse, it's probably time to dump him!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2012): That text wasn't meant for you... oh boy
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Are you in a committed relationship with him? If yes, then you need to be very cautious because that text definitely wasn't meant for you. If its a casual relationship where you are just seeing each other but are also open to dating other people, then just accept that he met someone while he was away and he's been flirting with her. Hard to accept, I know, but that's how things are. As of now, ascertain the status of your relationship and if you are dating, then call him and ask him what that text meant. Either way, he seems to have a roving eye and is looking at having a good time.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 Yea from what you write I would "guess" it was not meant for you. Or he would have elaborated not ignored your reply. I think he had a "OH Shit moment" and figured silence was easier then the truth or taking the time to make up an elaborate lie.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (16 December 2012):
 No I don't think you're being paranoid and yes the text is dodgy. You need to talk to him.
I agree with the point aunt honesty is making. Describing the relationship as "seeing" a guy makes it sound non-committal. After a year, it should be more than that (unless you want casual). I wonder if that's his definition of the relationship, or yours. It does make it sound like it's more casual than serious ....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 Call him and talk to him see what he has to say. Is he actually your boyfriend or someone you are just seeing? Has he offered any kind of commitment? If not then really he has done nothing wrong if he is talking to other women, you say you have been seeing him for a year, but is it casual? If so then I suggest ending
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reader, DKW +, writes (16 December 2012):
As already suggested, call him. Don't sound crazy, just calmly let him know that this is suspicious.
I'll be honest, it does not sound good. Don't be fobbed off. If you don't like his answers, get out of there. Cheating should not be tolerated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): Well, obviously it was meant for another woman. You need to speak to him.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (16 December 2012):
Call him.
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