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female
age
51-59,
*imberlyb6886
writes: Almost every man I've been with reaches orgasm quickly. Anywhere from one to five minutes. They say it's because I feel so good. My natural secretions are plentiful and have been described as slick and hot. I've also been told I'm tight although I can accommodate almost any size and it goes right back to the way it was. I've never had a negative comment from anyone, but for some reason their inability to hang for very long leaves me feeling that there is something wrong with me. If there isn't oral or other stimulation enabling me to reach my orgasm before we begin having sex, they get their orgasm quickly and ultimately I end up having to use manual or mechanical stimulation to reach my orgasm.I just want to know if is possible that it is the anatomy of my sex organs causing the quick orgasms, or could it be something else?
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reader, kimberlyb6886 +, writes (1 September 2013):
kimberlyb6886 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to all who took the time to answer. I confess I get more turned on and definitely less inhibited than when I was younger. I've been with experienced lovers and have also gone the masturbation first route. Usually there is a good bit of talk about what we want and expect days or weeks before we actually hook up. There have been quite a few that completely stop and go down on me, change positions, etc to try and keep from coming so quickly. But I am not in favor of them stopping because I prefer to get off during intercourse. The longer we go, the more intense my orgasm, including squirting, will be. And getting off at the same time is definitely the ultimate, sending me to multiples. More often than not, they want to get me off after they orgasm because they couldn't hang as long. They've also said that the stroking before they come, feels almost as goodas coming. I guess I was under the impression that it/ we all felt the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): it's not only the genitals. there are other factors, like being playful, being kinky or naughty, seductiveness, smelling good, looking good, etc. obviously you have many of those values which send men up to the skies in no time.
I totally understand that your needs must be satisfied. there are things you can do to make your partner last longer. but i suggest a different approach.
from my experience, the best way to make it work for both the male and the female is to take turns and satisfy one another. for example, he can go down on you (from what you described, you must be delicious and fun to play with), and when you had enough, he can go in and finish happily in 5 minutes or less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): They're selfish. They are too wrapped up in their own sensations.
Why not ask them to masturbate before seeing you that way they will physiologocally not be able to orgasm as quickly
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (1 September 2013):
Is this with guys the first time, or is it with relationships of longstanding? The first (few) time(s) with a new girl are OMG. Over time with the same girl, getting to know her, well, that's quite different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): You are normal, just that your genitalia is somehow tight and 'sweet'. But the sensation can be minimized if your partner uses a condom. I have been with different ladies and I can tell you that, I can last an hour with some but with my current girlfriend, only half an hour because shes very tight and juicy.
You have to make them play with you for a long time and enjoy yourselves before penetration.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): Here's what's causing the problem:The men you are with are selfish in bed. They don't care enough to take the time to please you and are only in the business of getting themselves off. In order to not look like complete pigs, they turn it around to make it appear as if they are flattering you "Oh, baby! I couldn't even help myself because you are so hot and wet!" Puh-leeeeze! Get yourself an experienced lover who is also a gentleman in bed. Not some creep who acts like an inexperienced 16 year old who gets his business done in 60 seconds and leaves you to figure out which vibrator to use to climax. Girl, you deserve better than to believe these lies.
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reader, DKW  +, writes (31 August 2013):
There is nothing wrong with you. I think you've possibly just been very unlucky with the men you've dated, hopefully soon you'll meet a guy who is better in bed.
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