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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know what happened, whether she ignored me or was fake, I only messaged her when she messaged back, her profile no longer exists!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt may have sounded a iffy, but she agreed to it! Now it's just of when!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe hasn't replied yet; I did send her the message at 5pm yesterday though! Just got to be patient!
This is what I put:
Shall we meet in the middle of us both (that didnt sound very good!) What I meant was can you get to kent or do you want me to take you somewhere closer to you? If it's here, I know a few restaurants and bars that we could go for a drink in
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionChange a bit?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 September 2013):
 Just ask her to meet you at such and such restaurant/bar/shop and let her figure out her own transportation. After the first meeting things will change a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't really want to tell you what her job is (it is in the adult industry but she's not a hooker dont worry - thats just wrong!).
Should I ask her if she drives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I asked her for a drink, her reply was 'yeah that sounds great!'; couple of issues now:
1) While we were messaging, I did not think of the travel; am I allowed to say where she lives?
2) One of the answers mentioned other men asking her out; I don't think a lot of men would put be able to handle what she does for a living, its quite controversial.
3) Do I mention my Cerebral Palsy now or when we meet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2013): 1 week absolute maximum! You need to see if the chemistry is there in real life
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 September 2013):
Go for it, you snooze you lose.
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reader, DKW  +, writes (6 September 2013):
Ask NOW, but next time don't leave it so long. It's not a huge thing to ask for her number if you've been getting on well with messaging a few times, once you've texted a couple of times you ought to suggest hanging out.
This only applies to online dating of course...it's a crowded place and you can bet there are other guys interested too, the more assertive ones who arrange dates sooner rather than later are the ones who will be successful with this kind of thing.
It doesn't have to be drinks, as others have already said - be a little different from those other guys. Sober daytime coffee is better from my experience, or go see a band play.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 September 2013):
 3 weeks? If you really like her,,,, then you are 20 days late....
Good luck.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (6 September 2013):
 No time like the present. Otherwise it may not happen. All the time you're hanging around waiting for the "right time", she could be meeting someone else who does ask her out quickly. Just go for it. Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 Ask her out now. Why waiting ? If she is on a dating site, supposedly she wants to date, i.e. get to meet people in real life , not just find a pen-pal.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 September 2013):
 I would ask her out. You don't really get to know a person just by IM'ing back and forth in the same way as you do talking face-to-face.
Maybe ask her out for coffee instead of drinks? If the date goes well then dinner and/or drinks?
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