I don't know if I want to miss out on an opportunity with someone so amazing for a trip..
Q. Alright so I really need some help. I am beyond confused and stressed out and dont know what to do. So back in June I had decided I was unhappy in my home town and wanted to finally travel, which is something I have always wanted to do and never ha...
A. 6 October 2010: He knows its important and understands and would like to come out here, but he owns a business back home and its not so easy for him to leave. He is however trying his best. As nice as it is here, Im just having a hard time fully enjoying myself out ... (read in full...)
Why do I always feel so depressed when I end a relationship, even though I know it was the right thing to do?
Q. Hi. My question is regarding a person's feelings when a relationship ends. I've been in a few of relationships and I've personally been the one to end all of them except for one. I really have never been in a relationship where I was CRAZY about the ...
A. 22 February 2010: I am the exact same way, and would like to see the responses you get because if I wrote the question it would probably be word for word but from my female perspective. I broke up with my boyfriend 3days ago, I know it was the right thing to do... ... (read in full...)
Am I just fooling myself trying to believe that he is not cheating?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. Husband is from a different counrty and speaks excellent english. We have had a great relationship I thought. I have been back and forth from the US to his country and last year when i returned to his country, I ...
A. 17 February 2010: With everything you have just said, my first thought is 'cheater'. There's just to many incidents here that he always seems to blame on someone else. I think you need to really talk to him about this or leave him.. he is clearly cheating on you and ... (read in full...)
I cant help but feel like I got myself into another horrible situation way too soon
Q. I don't even know where to begin... but I am in need of advice... Back in June I had left my fiance of 3years because I didn't feel he was the one for me, and he was becoming overly possessive and controlling, to the point where I would get "punishe...
A. 17 February 2010: Thank you all so much for your answers. I agree with each of you. I made the decision yesterday to email the landlord to try and break the lease hopefully she does. I told him I did this then I came home to a perfectly clean house and dinner on the ... (read in full...)
Does he secretly have feelings for the ex - since he refuses to drop her as a friend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. Before that, he was in a relationship for 10 months, and I was always his best friend. Toward the end of his past relationship, he was saying he loved me. When they broke up, we started going out. ...
A. 23 February 2008: I was in an extremly similar situation but the only difference is I wasnt friends with my fiancee's ex. You need to get him to stop talking to her NOW. I was like you i didnt do much about it, eventually it got to the point where she would try ... (read in full...)
I feel threatened by my wife's ex, with whom she maintains contact. How can I drive these feelings away?
Q. My wife has an ex...I have have always been able to put my past relationships away, to an imaginary place of non-existence. I can't seem to do it with hers...It hurts...they have contact by email and phone(at her work). I feel betrayed... I wi...
A. 23 February 2008: I have been in a similar situation, and trust me if you dont do anything about it now it will get worse. I was like you and just sat back and let it happen until eventually my fiancee's ex decided after much contact she wanted him back, and if he ... (read in full...)
His ex is making me self-conscious and driving me insane.
Q. My boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and a half. It has been a good relationship and he is probably my first real true love in life and he swears that I am the only one for him and he could not live without me. I've grown very insecure...
A. 13 January 2008: I had the exact same problem... My fiance had been talking to his ex about 6 times a month for 4 months until I found out about it.. This was 7 months into our relationship, and I was heartbroken as this girl had previously caused our relationship ... (read in full...)
I really feel his ex is trying to come between us, with actions she has undertaken, manipulation, gossip. Do you think I am overreacting?
Q. I just wanted people's views on the suituation I am in. I have been with my boyfriend 9 months. He was with a girl for 4 years before me, they had been split up for about 5 months prior to us getting together. In that time, my boyfriend said...
A. 5 December 2007: Wow your situation is very similar to mine... my fiances ex even went as far to hack into his email and try to send me messages saying "im cheating on you" even tho he was sitting right beside me when the messages came in... she also would do ... (read in full...)
Do I have reasonable grounds to be feeling insecure and jealous?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over a year we live together. I just don't trust him and just feel that he's not in love with me anymore. The lack of trust started when we first started dating. I saw on his myspace he was messaging back and ...
A. 5 December 2007: I found out 4 months ago my fiance was talking to his ex behind my back for about 3-4months... I still am not over it and have talked to him about it a million times and have gotten all the answers i could possibly want, but i still wonder a million ... (read in full...)
Every time my ex calls I feel like I love her again but I am getting married to somebody else.
Q. My ex gf keeps on haunting me whenever she calls. I find myself in a position of loving her again since we never collided with her. I started building another relationship with another lady since she was awaY 4 7yrs without communication. I am int...
A. 5 December 2007: If you plan to marry this woman, you HAVE to end all contact with your ex. How do you think she would feel if she found out your ex was calling and it had you confused when your suposed to be getting married... Im sure you wouldnt like that ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to trick me into ending my marriage?
Q. I am a married woman ( 6 years) who has been having an affair with a younger man for four years. My lover and i only see each other once every two months or so, we usually spend one night together during that time, although we speak and or text ...
A. 8 October 2007: Nobody can tell you what to do here but you. Its how you feel.. What person do you feel more strongly towards... And also you have to understand you would be leaving your husband for a cheater. If this man your seeing on the side has a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
He's chatted up other girls and I'm afraid he's going to leave me again.
Q. i am 19 i have been with my 19yr old boyfriend since we were 16 and we have a son together. although having a child young we have always been a strong couple and have always loved eachother. problems started earlier this year my boy friend b...
A. 8 October 2007: Your situation worrys me a bit. Is he going to leave you everytime he thinks he has feelings for someone else? This wasnt fair to you and to your son. He was clearly being selfish, However there is hope. Since you began dating at such a young age ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I have written a few times recently. I had found out my boyfriend was talking to his ex about 5 times a month for 3 months and he had lied about it.. Now his ex is pretty much crazy, she had hacked into his email before and tried sending me messages...
A. 8 October 2007: Thank You so much for your responses. They really helped. After I found out about the calls my fiance was more then willing to get rid of his cell phone, and got a cell phone with my phone company so we could be on a couples plan. He even chose to ... (read in full...)
I like him, and my parents like him. He likes me... But his parents don't! How do I overcome their negativity?
Q. Hi. Well where do I start...my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, and got together when we were both 18. My family have welcomed him with open arms, however his family are not keen on me, and are not very nice to my bf. They pile loads of...
A. 7 October 2007: If you two love each other thats all that matters. It does not matter who does or does not like your relationship, you guys are the one in it, and if thats what you both want then dont let anyone come between that or ruien it!
Good Luck... (read in full...)
Ive been in a relationship for 3 yrs but ive found out my guy went to my cousins for sex. I was told it didn't happen but I dont know what to do?
Q. I am in a relationship for 3 and half yrs two years ago my bf kissed my cousin. now i have just found out when i was out of town for one night he called to her house again looking for sex. it didnt happen or so im told anyway. i love him to bits ...
A. 25 September 2007: Oh its not a problem at all. I feel the same way.. There are times lately when im really happy with him and were having a good time with nothing on my mind.. then all of a sudden out of no where what happened will pop into my head, and ill start ... (read in full...)
I want to spend my life with him, but I need to be able to trust him
Q. wen i first started to date my bf i was warned about him and people would say that he's no good, but i liked him so much i carried on going out with him but it always played in the back of my mind. i got told that he was interested in this girl and ...
A. 24 September 2007: Hey I was wrote you a response before, and I was just wondering how everything was going now???
Let me know
Good Luck!!... (read in full...)
Ive been in a relationship for 3 yrs but ive found out my guy went to my cousins for sex. I was told it didn't happen but I dont know what to do?
Q. I am in a relationship for 3 and half yrs two years ago my bf kissed my cousin. now i have just found out when i was out of town for one night he called to her house again looking for sex. it didnt happen or so im told anyway. i love him to bits ...
A. 24 September 2007: Hey, just checking to see how your feeling now??
Iam still feeling much the same, its getting a bit better. Im guessing it takes a while to get over. As you are in the same position as me, we both heard our boyfriends cheated and they tell us no..... (read in full...)
We're ok for the time being, but I can't help but have this feeling that we're going to break up.
Q. I feel like we're going to break up, and it's all because of my paranoia and jealousy... Problem is, I love him so much it hurts everytime I think about it. I'm going through a lot of stuff at home, which is making me more messed up, but he...
A. 24 September 2007: Wow you sound alot like me. My boyfriend and I had problems with his ex trying to break us up and her telling me he was sleeping with her. (which he wasnt). but I have trust issues from past relationships also. and I have a HUGE fear of being hurt, ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. We slept together but he hasn't said about getting back together yet?
Q. Hi I need some help in a confusing situation. Me and my ex broke up about seven months ago because of a stupid misunderstanding, we were both very stubborn about it but hurt feelings got in the way of sorting it out earlier. anyway as time went by ...
A. 24 September 2007: No he clearly wouldnt bother texting you and continuing conctacting you if there wasnt feelings there. He wants to talk to you for a reason, and i assume thats because theres still feelings, so if you like this guy then say something to him to see ... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking my boyfriend has cheated?
Q. What do you do if you suspect your boyfriend who you have a perfect relationship has cheated... but they swear on everything they didnt? How do you deal with this? I cant see him doing it, but I cant help but continuisly wondering 'what if' even tho ...
A. 24 September 2007: Thank you very much for you responses. His ex girlfriend who he lied about talking to, and i found out and he came clean and admited speaking with her and started to cry telling me hes sorry and didnt tell me because he didnt want me to think it was ... (read in full...)
What do you do if you suspect your boyfriend who you have a perfect relationship with has cheated but they swear they didn't?
Q. What do you do if you suspect your boyfriend who you have a perfect relationship has cheated... but they swear on everything they didnt? How do you deal with this? I cant see him doing it, but I cant help but continuisly wondering 'what if' even tho ...
A. 24 September 2007: Thank you all very much for your responses... and to "hello dave" non of the signs you mentioned are there.. hes with me all the time, we are each others best friend.. he doesnt go to bars, and he comes home from work right on time. He does buy me ... (read in full...)
Reading her journal, I found out she has been with over 100 men, random men. I'm disgusted, don't know what to do.
Q. So I'm having a bit of an issue with my fiance's "loose morals" before we met. Why is this an issue now? Well, I stumbled upon her journals... I know, I made a mistake (trust me, I would have rather not known). So "A" and I have been togethe...
A. 23 September 2007: Honestly, I will not lie.. If my boyfriend had a journal and i had stumbeled across it, I would read it as well. And honestly, that would make me sick to. Nobody likes to know there partner has been with ANYONE else as its an unsettleing thought, ... (read in full...)
Helppp!!! How can I control my jealousy?
Q. I am going out with a boy I have been chasing up for a year now and finally he says he loves me a lot and I really do believe him as we wouldn't be together otherwise as he has never had a girlfriend before and he used to blow girls off a lot, which ...
A. 22 September 2007: We all get a little jealous from time to time, but you seem to be pushing it to far. It took you a year to get with this guy, im sure you dont want to ruien it, and thats exactly what jealously will do. Who cares if he says hi to other girls, he ... (read in full...)
Tips on staying on top? I'm embarassed when me and my bf have sex, as I'm still not experienced despite of my relations with men.
Q. im really embarassed about this question! ive been with my boyfriend for a year and ive been with over 15 men but im still not experienced with sex! i feel really emabarassed when me and my bf have sex! ive never been on top and wouldnt have a clue ...
A. 22 September 2007: Honestly, I dont even know how to explain what I do. Perhaps I suggest you watch a porno, and get some ideas from there, its easier to see something then to hear it. Thats what I would do anyways.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
She told me she needed a short break, should I call everything off or wait to see what happens?
Q. Ok. My girlfriend and I have been together for quite a while. I know that she's in love with me and I know that im in love with her. But yesterday she told me that she just needs a break. She told me that right now she's just really stressed out and ...
A. 22 September 2007: If she really needs the space then give it to her, but I get the feeling your worried she will leave.. So during these 3 weeks take time to yourself as well. Space is important, and shes probably asking for it so she doesnt leave. I highly doubt ... (read in full...)
My bf told me he slept with a married woman 14 years ago, should we continue this if our moral compasses are so far apart?
Q. My boyfriend slept with a married woman about 14 years ago at work. He wants to forget about it but since he has told me, it practically broke up the relationship because it is something I would NEVER do (I've always thought people who do this are ...
A. 22 September 2007: Yah it sucks, but you know what its in the past.. You were not with him then and its done and over. We all do things sometimes we wish we didnt, and yes what he did is definatly far from moral, I dont agree with that at all. As it basically says ... (read in full...)
Wondering if a good friend of mine is gay.
Q. Alright, so I'm just wondering here if a good friend of mine is gay, I'll try and make this breif... He's been going with a girl for a couple weeks, and he tells us (the guys he hangs with) that he's doing stuff with her... But the other night ...
A. 22 September 2007: Your only indication that hes gay is that he didnt want to touch this girl he was seeing... So what perhaps hes a gentalmen, or maybe he was shy.. It does not at all mean hes gay. And just because you live with a gay person it does not make you look ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me and have I made it obvious that I like him??
Q. hi,im a 20 year old female and im rather confused at the moment...i seem to be highly attracted to "pretty boys" one in particular i went to primary school with. i moved towns when i was 11 and lost touch.however,recently around a year and a half ...
A. 22 September 2007: I think its pretty clear he likes you, he seems to be pretty persistant when it comes to spending time with you. However I dont think you have made it clear that you actually like him. Perhaps you should flirt with him more.. Instead of you saying ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a boy who is not my bf, how can I sort out who I like and what to do?
Q. hi. im 15 and have been with my boyfriend now for just over a year but i think i have fallen out of love with him already, we have been sexually active for 7 months and i have got to admit we are alright in that department but i just cant love him ...
A. 22 September 2007: Do not cheat. Im sure you wouldnt be happy if that were to happen to you. Give your current boyfriend some respect and just leave him, dont hurt him anymore. Its perfectly normal to feel how you are feeling towards him, you are young, and ultimatley ... (read in full...)
20 and never kissed a girl. I'm always told to "be myself," advice, please?
Q. i'm 20, I am a confident person, I'm nice and I have a sense of humour. How many girlfriends have I had - 0. How many have I asked out - 7 I think. I have never kissed a girl let alone had sex and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. One girl sai...
A. 22 September 2007: Where were you when I was single? haha Sorry my boyfriend and I have issues with his ex so the fact you have never had a girlfriend is very appealing.. I would suggest you dont change anything, you sound like a great person, and someone just as ... (read in full...)
I keep wondering if his ex is trying to ruin our relation or he really has been cheating, as she claims?
Q. I had written a post a few weeks ago about my boyfriends ex.. which was.. She emailed me and told me my boyfriend and her had been talking and that they were sleeping together.. I was furious.. Now I didnt believe her because shes been tr...
A. 22 September 2007: Thank you both very much for you answers. And I have already blocked her from my email so she cannot contact me.
Its just the fear I have that he lied to me about something more if he lied about talking to her. I really cant see him cheating on m... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid about his ex and now he isn't replying to my txt asking for us to talk! Can anyone help me out?
Q. hi. i wrote in yesterday about the contact between my bf and his ex, and how i went through his phone. i decided to ask him straight out about his feelings for her.he told me that he speaks to her on the odd occasion as he is grateful to her as she ...
A. 22 September 2007: I was in a very similar situation, I had also found out on my own that my boyfriend had been talking to his ex for about 3-4 months about 5-10 times a month. Before I found out the truth, he lied to me about it, which is when i went searching.. When ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. We slept together but he hasn't said about getting back together yet?
Q. Hi I need some help in a confusing situation. Me and my ex broke up about seven months ago because of a stupid misunderstanding, we were both very stubborn about it but hurt feelings got in the way of sorting it out earlier. anyway as time went by ...
A. 17 September 2007: How did it go?? :)... (read in full...)
We're ok for the time being, but I can't help but have this feeling that we're going to break up.
Q. I feel like we're going to break up, and it's all because of my paranoia and jealousy... Problem is, I love him so much it hurts everytime I think about it. I'm going through a lot of stuff at home, which is making me more messed up, but he...
A. 17 September 2007: Well you didnt so much indicate why you think you might break up.. If you really love this person as much as you say you do and he loves you then you should be able to work it out.. but i can say much more then that as i dont know why you think he ... (read in full...)
I have small bumps around my genital area... Should I be worried??
Q. Hi, I have small acne like bumps around my genital area.. they look like normal acne and there are only 3 of them. should i be worried?...
A. 17 September 2007: It is very possible that you have HPV, look it up on the internet you will find pictures and information to help you compare to the bumps you have. Hpv causes genital Warts, but they can be treated and do go away, the virus usually stays with the ... (read in full...)
Ive been in a relationship for 3 yrs but ive found out my guy went to my cousins for sex. I was told it didn't happen but I dont know what to do?
Q. I am in a relationship for 3 and half yrs two years ago my bf kissed my cousin. now i have just found out when i was out of town for one night he called to her house again looking for sex. it didnt happen or so im told anyway. i love him to bits ...
A. 7 September 2007: Your welcome, and I totally understand where you are coming from... My boyfriend ex told me he would come see her before work in the morning, which i knew wasnt true as he works at 7 and leave at 6:55. However for a while it made me nervous when he ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. We slept together but he hasn't said about getting back together yet?
Q. Hi I need some help in a confusing situation. Me and my ex broke up about seven months ago because of a stupid misunderstanding, we were both very stubborn about it but hurt feelings got in the way of sorting it out earlier. anyway as time went by ...
A. 7 September 2007: Yes I have, and It did go somewhere... I know what you mean by not wanting to say something strong.. thats why I suggested you just say something like "Is there even a point in us talking, because if this isnt going anywhere I dont think we should ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me nasty names and expects me to do all the household chores
Q. I love my bf vry much but he disrespects me by calling me names like bit** and then expects me to do all the chores in the apt just because I don't have a job yet. i've just started to attend languages classes because the language is a barrrier from ...
A. 4 September 2007: Leave, is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?? Because if it's this bad, it will never get better sweetie it will only get worse... Just get out and find someone who will love and respect you 100%. Take care and good luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt buy me presents and ignores important occasions
Q. Ok, in terms of problems this maybe isnt huge but it is playing on my mind a bit. i have been with my boyfreind for 2 years now...and he just doesnt treat me with the same care and attention he used to. Yesterday was my 23rd birthday....and i got ...
A. 4 September 2007: Yah I would not be impressed. This is not about forgetting or money. If you love someone you atleast, ATLEAST get them a card, and still I dont think thats enough... Birthdays and Valentines day are days that you celebrate with the person you love, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and its eating me alive!
Q. I kissed someone else as a result a baddd judgment moment and 2 many drinks (wich is no excuse), and it’s eating me alive, a love my boyfriend very much and don’t want to hurt him, but I don’t know if I should tell him, and don´t know what to do, I ...
A. 4 September 2007: Well lets see, would your boyfriend tell you? Probably not as he is a guy... Guys usually do stupid stuff then feel bad about it and realize they shouldnt... So they think its ok not to tell you because they dont plan on ever doing it again. You ... (read in full...)
I want to spend my life with him, but I need to be able to trust him
Q. wen i first started to date my bf i was warned about him and people would say that he's no good, but i liked him so much i carried on going out with him but it always played in the back of my mind. i got told that he was interested in this girl and ...
A. 4 September 2007: Im was in a smiliar situation and trust me its not you that needs to change... My boyfriend used to put his phone on silent or turn it off when we started dating and even up to 8 months into the relationship... It never much bothered me as he always ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. We slept together but he hasn't said about getting back together yet?
Q. Hi I need some help in a confusing situation. Me and my ex broke up about seven months ago because of a stupid misunderstanding, we were both very stubborn about it but hurt feelings got in the way of sorting it out earlier. anyway as time went by ...
A. 4 September 2007: Next time he texts you I would ask him 'I just want to know if theres even a point to us talking. Is this going to go anywhere because if not I dont think we should be speaking'... if you let him know that either you want something from this or your ... (read in full...)
Ive been in a relationship for 3 yrs but ive found out my guy went to my cousins for sex. I was told it didn't happen but I dont know what to do?
Q. I am in a relationship for 3 and half yrs two years ago my bf kissed my cousin. now i have just found out when i was out of town for one night he called to her house again looking for sex. it didnt happen or so im told anyway. i love him to bits ...
A. 4 September 2007: Iam In a very similar situation, My boyfriend and I have been together for over 1 year, recently his ex contacted me saying he was sleeping with her and talking to her... I found out he lied when he told me non of this was true and he was talking to ... (read in full...)
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