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writes:I am going out with a boy I have been chasing up for a year now and finally he says he loves me a lot and I really do believe him as we wouldn't be together otherwise as he has never had a girlfriend before and he used to blow girls off a lot, which is why it took me a year to get together with him properly.I have a problem as I feel as though everything he does either annoys me or makes me jealous but I get a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach whenever I feel like we aren't going right and I always miss him a lot whenever he isn't there.I also know how much of a jealous person I am but I don't know how to control it!!.. eg. he brings a girl's name up in a conversation - I get jealous.. or he says hello to a girl he knows when he walks past them when I am with him - I get jealous..I am starting to think that I am being ridiculous and maybe I am getting annoyed with everything he does because I am a very jealous person.. oh my goodness!!.. I really am confused!!.. How can I control my jealousy??..help??
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reader, liv1143  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 i have the same problem!!! i completely trust my boyfriend, but i cant stand it when any of his female friends even comment him on myspace. sure he doesnt flirt back, but it drives me nuts!! txt me so we can try to help eachother :) (707) 393-8862
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (22 September 2007):
 i think your are quite insecure and that is wh yyou feel jealous about minor things which are not really posing a threat to your relationship.
you wanted this guy so much that now you have him, you are petrified of loosing him, which ironically is exactly what you are going to do if you continue with this jealousy.
sometimes, when you don't have something, you imagine what it's like, and then the reality of it is not quite how we thought it's be, hence the annoyance your describing, if little things annoy you, maybe you should try and talk to him, because if you let a hundred little things build up, it leads to one big explosion.
best of luck.
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 We all get a little jealous from time to time, but you seem to be pushing it to far. It took you a year to get with this guy, im sure you dont want to ruien it, and thats exactly what jealously will do. Who cares if he says hi to other girls, he knew them before he was with you. and the most important part of that is, whos arm is he on when hes saying hi.. YOURS. Keep in mind hes with you not anyone else, so if anyone should be jealous its the girls hes saying hi to, because hes not single and hes with you. Get some piece of mind and just try to let it go. Hes with you clearly because he likes you, so just be happy together!
Good lUck
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (22 September 2007):
 frist i think you need to take a deep breath and calm down
you were chasing him for a year now you get with him and you want him all to your thats normal but i think you need about losing him to a simple foolish thing like being jealious over a no big deal hi to another girl and just messing up your happiness and she if it helps you any
but as for the rest i think you need to calm your nerves
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