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*jneg
writes:My boyfriend stares at other woment constantly. He makes sure they know he is looking my making obvious suggestive eye contact with them. I am hurt and embarrased by his behavior. I have told him how I feel and he promised to do better. That didn't last long however. He is slowly getting back to his old habits. We were at a club the other night and the woman sitting at the table next to him stood up dancing at her chair. He looked over at her, smiled and said, "There you go!". She then proceeded to dance sexually right in front of him as he looked her up and down with a big ol' smile. I was sitting right beside him and they both didn't seem to mind at all. He tells me he loves me. We have dated for a year and half. Am I wasting my time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): If he really loves you he would never have done that.. I myself dated a man just like that.. But I told him how it made me feel and gave him a dose of his own meds to the point he had to ask me to look at him... when he asked why I told him that I didn't get his undivded so why should he get mine.
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reader, ajneg +, writes (20 April 2009):
ajneg is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for such quick responses. I will keep you updated on my situation. I am definitely not going to put up with it and will "grow some balls" and do the walk out thing next time it happens. I know he is a good person... maybe I'm just not the one. Will soon find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): id have got up and walked out, noway would i have sat there and watched that.
After you told him the first time how it makes you feel and he still does it, then he cannot be considering your feelings now can he.
Tell him once again how it upsets you, be calm but direct, make sure he knows its a deal breaker, and if he still goes ahead with it then you have to ask yourself if he is worth the bother.
Good luck x
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 i think he will always be like this, youre obviously concerned as to what would happen if you werent there too?? To be honest i cant believe the cheek of some women flirting with a guy whom they know is with someone its cheap. I dont think he has much respect for you and appears very independant in the relationship, i think talking to him would just go over his head - could you not get up and just walk out without saying a word?? be prepared for an argument though but i think he need a short sharp shock - just walk off and leave him tell him your fed up and if it continues you will leave him.. seriously i think its just on his nature. Get some balls and stand up to him!
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Wow, been there and done that. I don't think men will ever understand just how distasteful doing something like that is. Its a very big disrespect to the woman you are with.
I know, it makes you feel as though there is NOTHING special about you, if he likes the way they look, then why is he with you? I have wrestled with the same questions when my ex would do it.
Ultimately there is nothing you can do. You told him how you feel about it and he continues to disrespect you. Maybe you need to ask yourself not if there is something wrong with you, but what is wrong with him???
If you need more help, feel free to contact me in private if you don't want it all out there!
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