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writes:I'm cheating on my husband with his best friend and I don't want to stop. I love him very much and our sex life is great... but I enjoy sex with his friend too. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Sound like you seem to have an air of easy unconcern for what you are doing. As if what you are doing is not wrong. As if what you are doing is acceptable...but then MAYBE you may just have a LITTLE conscience about what you are doing and your mind tells you that what you are doing flies against the face of common decency. That is why you are here asking for advice. Ahhh-what the heck. Go get some moral discipline, go grow a bigger conscience and you'll know what you need to do.
Let's just hope that by the time you figure out what you need to do, your husband hasn't already left you or if he has I would not have any sympathy to see you back here telling the whole world about how he has left you, how life is so unfair, how you thought that no matter what love would see it through, how you now feel suicidal, blah, blah, blah....
Because if this were to be the case...you asked for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): How do you sleep at night, how do you live with yourself, how do you look in the miror, how will you and everyone else live in the future once this explodes with one almighty bang, do you believe in KARMA, well my God I would not like to see what lies ahead of you. What best friend, he is not anybobies best friend not your husbands and not yours, you are an easy port to stop at thats all, make it easy and he will take from you what he wants, he has already taken your husbands loyalty and trust.
He will take what ever he can from you and then when the S--T hits the fan we will see where and what you are left with.
I wish your husband well in the future when he gets over what a low life his wife and best friend are.
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reader, vwomen +, writes (23 April 2009):
 You know what i'm not telling you anything. you will get yours it's coming soon. your husbands "best friend" on the other hand if i had friend's like that...... baby i don't need them type in my life i'd rather have enemies,CUZ IT WOULD HURT ALOT LESS. He should define what a best(friend)is.You............DEFINED LOVE, MARRIAGE, HUSBAND, AND VOWS.NEED I SAY ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Is this a serious question? Some people like to post questions only in order to get a rise out of people. You know what you should do.. even if you don't execute right before wrong, you do know the difference in right and wrong. Tell your husband so that he can find someone who will make him feel special and be as a wife should be. And find a new best friend..
I'm holding back harsh criticism because people on this site are just looking for advice... But really.. you know what you're doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): you mean his former best friend?
You are hurting your husband. Your husband, the man you chose (and who chose you) above all others on the planet and you are getting off on hurting him - for what a few shags... Grow up and think of how this will hurt him.
Star.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): It's been said!
1. You call that LOVE for your husband?
2. THAT is his best friend?
3. Shouldn't the best friend be morally opposed to having sex with his best friends wife?
4. Why are you asking us if you won't give this other guy up?
5. What do you think will happen when your husband finds out?
6. Why would you even start this in the first place? How did it come to this?
7. Are you ready to be alone? Be prepared.
Harsh but all true!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): That is the shittiest thing I've ever heard...Bad enough his wife is cheating on him, but with his best friend? Losing a marriage would be bad, but your best friend too? You and his friend are shitty people for doing that..I feel bad for the guy.
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (22 April 2009):
 OMG, Get your act together! Childish. You have commitment issues and YOU are killing your marriage and a friendship all at the same time. Shame on you!
Pretty soon when you are found out, you won't have to choose..you are gonna be ALONE!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): It's all been said, Honey! What goes around comes around...and payback is a bitch!
it sounds more like you are bragging than asking for advice...you say you don't want to stop...
So what you should do is prepare yourself for the shit to hit the fan! As Icelordess said...you will be the one standing alone!
How can you say you love your husband very much...and betray him this way? I don't get it. I don't think you love either of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): you deserve exactly whats coming to you,you have crossed the line here
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I would suggest standing in front of the mirror and practicing your speech that you will ultimately give to your husband when he discovers your treachery....
"Darling, I just felt so emotionally detatched from you, and you were'nt meeting my needs. Of course I am blaming you, my sweet husband, because I never had the guts to come to you and tell you that I wasn't happy. So I am telling you as I have returned from spreading my legs for your best friend that you have to meet my needs or its over".
Sounds like a pretty good start off the top of my head huh?
Listen Up, Trixie....
The lives that are destroyed by cheating never fully recover. Have some dignity and come clean with your husband and end it your marriage. He deserves someone who will love him as opposed to a bottom feeder like you.
No one deserves to be cheated on EVER! And for you to come here and Happily announce it to the world with your cavalier attitude about it being with his best friend flies not only in the face of common decency, but of common sense.
I hope your husband finds out...then....
a)You get outed at your work,or anything else important to you
b)He severs all joint bank accounts and leaves you with NOTHING!
c) he lets your family and friends all know as soon as possible so you cant formulate some bad excuse out of a Jackie Collins Book and accuse him of Stalking you.
d) AND THIS IS GUARANTEED....the guy you are cheating with...one day he is gonna wake up and think:
"You know, she cheated on her husband with me. Who's to say she isn't going to cheat on me with another man. after all..."
People like you are vultures...I hope you get EVERYTHING YOU DESERVE
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): what goes round comes round, your husband might have cheated on you in the past, and now hes getting it back....or vice versa....a faithful and loyal straightforward person never gets cheated on
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I agree...KABOOM! If you don't want to stop screwing the "best friend", what exactly are you asking us? A pat on the back? What?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Correction...You and the best friend don't deserve him**
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Do your husband a favour and tell him... And to be honest I hope he leaves you and gives his so-called best friend a kicking.
You both deserve each other.
This is the ultimate in betrayal.
Harsh, but I'm sorry I find this quite disgusting.
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reader, elkig001 +, writes (22 April 2009):
 hmm.
who do you love?
not enjoy.
ACTUALLY LOVE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): woman there has to be something wrong with you! how could you cheat with his best friend. the guy he convides al hs trouble to the same guy you are sleeping with! u have made a fool of him probably all the other boys mst knw by nw! u shud b ashamed of urself
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Ditch the best friend!! do you you not feel guilty?? You can't have both..It's not fair on your husband (that's an understatement!) and the other guy isn't much of a best friend to your husband...He doesn't deserve either of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): at this point - there isn't much you can do but enjoy yourself until it all blows up in your face. if/when your husband finds out, you will probably face some anger/divorce. and he and his friend are gonna fight as well. when the shit hits the fan - and it will, it won't be pretty - i just hope that you are having enough fun to make it all worth while when this blows up.
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