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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now...Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especially down my leg, its an embarressing and awkward moment for both of us, is there a way to prevent this always happening? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 March 2012):
 If you and your boyfriend are embarrassed by the mess that sex makes, then you really are too immature to be doing it. It's as if you both want to pretend that sex didn't happen, or sex has no smells or no discharge. Sex is primary to make babies, and that's why it involves sperm. You both need to take responsibility for what your doing, and that includes cleaning up afterwards.
Use a condom, that way the sperm goes in there and not in you. Also good for protecting you both from STD's Also, you need to go to the toilet straight afterwards to pee, this will help protect you from vaginal infections.
Again, why are you and him embarrassed, you both done a pile of sex things together, kissed and touched lots of places, and were as close as two people can get, (only a baby can get closer) Go toilet, wipe yourself, and get him to clean up the bed for you.
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reader, Cassidy72  +, writes (1 March 2012):
It's normal and as others suggested, get something to wipe. Gravity will do it's thing.
Sometimes you can leak for hours, which can be embarrassing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): I'm 18, been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I'm on Birth Control and we don't use condoms....
Though I have the exact same thing happen to me, it's frantically quit embarrassing, especially when you can feel it that bad that you think it's leaking on the floor .
I after sex, always rush to the bathroom, pee and yeah I think I'm okay, but then a couple of mins after, It leaks out again.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 January 2012):
 Even if you are on BC, you really should use a condom, BC pill doesn't prevent STD's, condoms can. BC pill can fail, if you have sever diarrhea, get antibiotics. It's never 100%. Using both is just smart.
I can't see why it's awkward, there is no other way for it to go but out. If you guys use a condom... it stays right in there. ... problem solved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): It's supposed to leak out. And its gross. use condoms OR this one suggestion I got from a website once said, keep your panties close by to mop up the mess. Also you should be going to the bathroom immediately after sex, as it lessens the chance of contracting a urinary infection etc, and gives you a chance to clean up. No post coital cuddling, you have your health to be concerned about. I'm sorry life isn't like the movies, its a lot stickier and more awkward
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2012): Totally normal, don't worry about it.
Keep some kitchen roll in a bed-side draw, and wipe up after sex. Job done
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 January 2012):
 It happens to your friends if they don't use condoms, they just don't talk about it. Unless their boyfriends don't produce semen, it happens to them too. It happens to everyone who has sex without a condom. Otherwise where would the fluids go? This is why while I was on the pill I still used condoms if we were having a quickie or we were having sex outside or away from home. Way too messy to deal with if I couldn't shower!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 January 2012):
You can't without using condoms. I assume you are using another form of birth control, either the pill, shot, or IUD or something?Anyone who find this embarrassing is not ready to be having sex without condoms. It's a little unpleasant, but it shouldn't be embarrassing. And if your boyfriend is the one making it embarrassing, then he needs to be the one to prevent it i.e. wear condoms. What did you/he think would happen to all that fluid? There's nowhere for it to go. You can put a towel between your legs while you cuddle or relax or whatever after sex. It's also helpful to just go sit on the toilet for awhile until it all drips out, then to rinse off.
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reader, anon-xo +, writes (22 January 2012):
anon-xo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am using another form of birth control, sorry I didn't make this very clear, the only reason I asked this question is because none of this happens to my close friends etc, I was just checking I was "normal"
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 January 2012):
 Yes, you definitely should be using birth control. the last thing you need is to get pregnant.......But for goodness' sake, keep a moist washcloth close by and hold it in place as you begin to sit up - then as CindyCares says, head for the bathroom......
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reader, anon-xo +, writes (22 January 2012):
anon-xo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was just generally curious if I'm normal, that was all... and no I don't use a condom but I am on other birth controls I'm not stupid, I care for my future and understand getting pregnant at this age is stupid, but thanks for all the comments
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (22 January 2012):
 I don't see how it is embarrassing. It's natural for that to happen when a man cums inside you. Personally, I usually put my undies back on before I stand up and use the bathroom right away.
Honestly, at your age, I think you should be using a condom anyways. Getting pregnant at your age could make your life very hard. I won't lecture, but just be safe.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 January 2012):
 Why is it so awkward and embarassing ? As Honeypie says, it's just the law of gravity. Are law of physics embarassing ?...
Keep a tissue handy . Dab yourself ( discreetly , without making a major production of it ) before, or as soon , you stand up. Reach your bathroom, turn the water tap, freshen up, - done.
Btw, since you are not using condoms- I take it nonetheless you use another form of birth control ,right ?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 January 2012):
Use a condom. At your age that would be the smartest anyhow.
Where do you think it would go otherwise?
And no, you can't expect the laws of gravity to exempt you.
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