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How can I compete with my wife's new sex toy? It gets more action than me

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Question - (20 February 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2012)
A male United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I got my wife a new toy. It seems the toy is getting more action than me. However, she has NO problem giving me oral sex. I seem to get more oral sex now and she seems to use her toy more.

Is this normal?

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A female reader, charliesdevil73 United States +, writes (21 February 2012):

charliesdevil73 agony auntCan you use the toy together? I started developing problems in the bedroom area a while back and as my wedding gift my husband bought a toy for us to use. My husband loves to use it on me, and I get the satisfaction I really want.

And don't think she likes the toy more than you because she doesn't. Just try using it together if possible.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012):

Sounds simple to me. It happened to my wife too. I wasn't able to give her an orgasm using my penis. After about 10 years of marriage, we moved to a country where I could buy her a vibrator. It was awesome. She got multiple orgasms by using it. And to my surprise, she was more willing to give me oral and anal.

As Honeypie said, your wife is feeling satisfied, happy and full and she is thankful to you. So, she is willing to give more in return.

Don't feel jealous to the toy. If you want, you can ask your wife to make love to you first and use the toy after. I'm sure she will agree. But I advise against it. The toy will make her muscles relaxed and her vagina wet, making her as ready as possible for you. And since she has had her pleasure before, she is now more concentrated on you. Isn't that great?

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (20 February 2012):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntCould be just that it's a 'new' toy and people do like playing with new toys until they get old. After that, the old favorite takes over again. How long has this been going on?

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (20 February 2012):

person12345 agony auntI agree with Honeypie. Do you mean it's getting more action solo or during sex? If during sex, can you use it on her? A lot of times with a vibrator it's not that it gives better orgasms, just that it's easier and faster.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (20 February 2012):

Miamine agony auntIt's new and different.. You do know about new toys, we want to play with them a lot until we get bored or break them. In this adults are no different to kids, whether it's a vibrator, a new car, a computer or them speaking weighing scales. Give her a little time to experiment, and then explain that she needs to put it away sometimes, because you need her too. Gently mention it before hand so she can prepare herself to think about fun sex things to do with you alone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012):

Alot of women haven't had an orgasm by the age of 30. Not to impune your abilities, but if a woman doesn't know what she wants, than she can't tell you what she wants. The toy probably gave her an orgasm, and she realizes what can give her an orgasm, which is oral sex.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (20 February 2012):

Honeypie agony auntIt could be she is actually getting more gratification now and that usually goes hand in hand with being more "giving".

Talk to her.

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