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writes:hi, my boyfriend-26 is goin away soon, i will be joining him after a couple of months coz he wants to spend some time travelling with the boys first... should i be worried? i keep hearing of people who go away and then ring up their other half and tell them its not goin to work out that they should break up. I am taking a year out of college so if this happened it would ruin my year college wise and also id be heartbroken. We've been together two years and very much love each other but is it common for people to realise that they dont want to be with each other when they go away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): My boyfriend wanted time away with the boys, I trusted him, we loved each other, said he would never cheat on the woman who had helped him build up his life again following his divorce. On his first lads way weekend, out of the country, miles away from me, he went to the local 24 hour bars, got pissed every day, met slag from england, cleared off from mates, hooked up with her in her shag villa, she pursued him back in england, we broke up. Simple rule to all women, NEVER EVER trust your man, whatever they say, they get pissed, mates egg them on, they will stray if offered easy sex on plate, even he said what man would refused if offered. Warning bells should sound when a man wants 'space' 'time to think' 'away with the lads'. They will always be slappers hanging round groups of lads on a stag weekend, easy lays, that is when men have brains in their pants!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 I'm sure this is just something he has been planning with his friends and looking forward to some guy time. He wouldn't plan for you to join him later if he was looking for a way out - he wouldn't have planned for you to be included at all - Right? You are probably just worried that his friends are going to egg him on to act like he's single. Don't issue any ultimatums, tell him you trust him and believe in him. Then show him a few of the really cute bikinis and outfits he'll see you in when you get down there to join him! Like CD206 said, be confident and always leave him wanting more!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 I think the stories you read are nearly all of people who go on holiday to get some space and some time to think away from their partners and decide they actually quite enjoy not being around their partners all the time. Your case is completely different because you're going to join your boyfriend. Sounds to me like he just wants a bit of time to connect with the boys first. You say that you love each other so you're obviously sure of his love for you and vice versa so what reason would he have to cheat? Be confident! If you badger him about this you're likely to drive him away. Let his last memory of you before he goes be of someone who is happy and confident enough to give her boyfriend some space from time to time.
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