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writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and for a long time now things have been slowly going from bad to worse. he is obsessed with music and has his own home studio, he spends a hell of a lot of time on his music and it's now got to the point where i only see him for about half an hour a day and when i do see him we mostly just argue. i moved in with him and his family almost a year ago and this is making me feel really trapped. i really get on well with his mam and dad and they sympathise with how frustrated im feeling. im a student on the income of a student loan and a badly paid part time job so getting my own place is totally out of the question. going back to my parents isn't really an option either as i don't get on well with my sister and since i've moved out my room has been turned into a nursery for my neice, so really, i wouldn't even have anywhere to sleep even if i felt as though i could move back in with them. Every time we argue my bf makes out that it is my fault and by the end of the argument i am convinced that i am the one at fault and often forget what the hell we were actually arguing about. i'm at the point now where i am seriously thinking about giving up on everything but with nowhere to go i feel really trapped. i am still deeply in love with him but when i weigh up how much im hurting right now against my love for him, im finding it really hard to decide what i should do for the best. Do I keep trying to make it work? Or, do i give up on 3 years of hard work for the chance of finding someone who thinks i deserve more and appreciates me? HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): or how about a council house? i mean technically you dont have a room at your parents as you said, and its not your boyfriends family's responsibility to let you live with them so i'm sure you could tell the council that you have nowhere to go and they'll give you a council house or flat.
But in answer to your question about whether you should leave your boyfriend for someone else, I would advise you to talk to him first. Tell him how you feel and that you feel like he doesnt appreciate you and doesnt spend enough time with you. Tell him your unhappy and that something has to change because if it doesnt you feel it may be best to end the relationship. He might not realise how much its upsetting you so dont end it until you've given him the chance to change what he's doing. Best of luck xxx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 What about a room in a shared house? Communal living has its ups and downs but it would be preferable to the situation you're in and in most towns and cities you can find rooms for £60 a week which is completely doable on a student loan and a part time job. Your uni may also be able to give you a grant if you're having serious money problems.
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