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writes:me and my husband have been together for a while and he has a child from a previous marrage and one from me he is 6 months old and i want another one i want them close together i only want tos o why not get it all and over with but he does not want anymore and see he is 29 and i am 19 we are really in love and i told him it is not far to me to say no .am i wrong to ask for another baby does another baby really make that big of a difference.we only have one kid living with us and i am a stay at home mom please help me it i all i think about i love kids so much Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 It's lovely to have them close together. However, I strongly suggest waiting until the baby is a year old because being pregnant twice in one year isn't good for you. It puts a lot of pressure on your bones and can eventually lead to osteoporosis. Plus you won't lose your mental health doing it this way and there'll still be less than two years between them!
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Hi i can completely understand you wanting another baby as i was the same when my son was about 8 months old, i too thought it would be nice to have them close together. My husband was not interested thou and said the usual sorts of things we can't afford it etc. Don't get me wrong he was a doting dad to our son.
We later had a daughter when our son was 5, and it was lovely as i had spent lots of time with our son, and then when baby girl came along i could do the same with her as the older child was at school. They are very close also and love each other to bit's. Give yourself time, there is no rush. Maybe in a couple of years your husband may feel different. I have no regrets about having 5 years between my 2.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Does another baby make that much of a difference? Well, yes. More money, more time, more effort. Another life long commitment to a human being. He's already got two kids, I'm not surprised that he's not jumping up and down for another one.
I do suggest that you chill on the baby thing for a little while. Take time to get to know your 6 month old and love him for a little while. Give your husband some room and grow and breathe and enjoy his children without adding new stress and a new bundle of joy to his life. Babies are great, but very, very time consuming. You should know. I think he'd be overwhelmed with a young child, an ex-wife and a child with her, and a young and pregnant wife. That could be too much for him to handle.
It takes two to make a baby. Give your husband time and devote your love for children into your child! Help him grow and develop, teach him colors and letters and shapes. He's a little young for that, but it's never to early to begin the learning process!
xxIndia
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