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anonymous
writes:How can i get my girlfriend to try anal sex and three somes, these are my fetishes and would like to fulfil them. I've asked her and asked her but she keeps changing subject when i mention them. How can i approach her with the question?
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reader, Johnny Corb  +, writes (16 November 2009):
look man, I'm gonna break this down real simple for you, cuz you don't seem to get it.
If she's not down with it, she's not down with it. Period. Now maybe, what's really going on is that you keep bringing it up, you putz!!!!! Maybe if you just leave it be and be happy with her as a person and what she does give you, then maybe someday you will be blessedly lucky enough that your girl with give you the browneye, or maybe that she'll give you a 3some, but ask yourself, would you want to watch her suck another dick? Would you like that? Cuz thats how she would feel if you ate another pussy. And that's just like the first PART of a 3some. So either be happy with what you have and don't be a douche about it, or just tell her that you two are too different for this to work and just fucking leave, you stupid motherfucker!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): If you have repeatedly asked her and she just changes the subject, the obvious answer to your question is......you can't.I'm assuming you have talked to her about the "nuts and bolts" of anal and threesomes? If so, and she is not responsive, then it is clear that she doesn't want those things, but may not want to hurt you by saying so outright.In which case, your choice is to either accept that its not going to happen with her; or, you end the relationship and seek out another woman who will be eager to participate.Sorry, but there it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): I am a female 26 and been with my boyfriend for 16 months. My boyfriend always wanted to have a threesome but i was just too scared and thought this to be something that porn stars did and hated the thought of him being with another girl.
After watching some porn with him one day i got really turned on watching a three some and told him i would try it. We met a girl of the internet and we had a great experience and do it every so often as a treat, try introducing our girl to porn to see if it turns her on first and if you guys get to try it you will hava an amazing time.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): Furthermore, having anal sex can cause colon bacteria to contaminate the vagina area with these germs to cause MAJOR HARD TO TREAT, UTI(URINARY TRACT INFECTIONS), which can traverse into the urethra, urinary bladder, and kidneys.
Keep it in the vagina or worth risk causing your gr some major unbearable physical back pain and abdomen pain, with hard to treat infections.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): Anal sex is very dangerous, and is very leading to cause easily skin ulcers, lesions and cracks.
The skin on in the anal canal wasn't made for abrasive forces. The only canals of the human body whose skin layer is equip for abrasive forces are the vagina and the ear canal.
The anal canal is for secrection of fluids and aborptions of minerals. There is only one cell layer thick, next to a majority of Veins, and small Arteries, and a TON of immune system LYMPH Nodes.
The lymph nodes are sampling and trying to recognize the infinte germs that is inside of our feces. So with that said, there exist a TON of CD4-T-cells there and the risk for HIV infection is 10,000% more likely in the Anus than the Vagina.
The Anus doesn't secrete fluids to offset abrasive forces and shock as the vagina does, so skin ruptures are destined to happen and you're likely to end up with small undectable liver infection(b/c the veins go right to the liver from the anus), and definitly sepsis(blood infection).
The anal sex should be done at all times with a condom to prevent the manifestations of these illnesses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): hey what i have to tell u is that u have to give her time b/c probally shes not ready for that and probally shes think she may get some desises that why !!!! make sure if she say yes that the poeple u are going to make a three some that they all use protection and after all thas not love cause u leading some one else se her probally thas why she keep saying no dude is not easy for her thas showing her that u dont love her ! think
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reader, AskEve +, writes (15 February 2007):
 You've already approached her with the question and she's changed the subject! SHE IS NOT INTERESTED BUDDY!
Eve
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Though i belive people who are in a long lasteing and sexual relationship should try to please one and other, you have no right to try to get your g/f to do soemthing she obviously feels uncomfertable with. In fact, everytime you mention this she is probably feeling hurt or even slightly betrayed inside due to the 3some thing, and as for anal sex, not everyone is into it and it can be a very painfull thing (esspicaly to soemone who dousnt really want to do it because they will be stense and thus get hurt easyier). Also..... you are rather younge.... and i presume she is too, and for you to think this is a huge part of a relationship makes you sound like a jerk. However, there are females out there who would do either or both happily, and for this i suggest diffrent dateing or sex sites. however, please out of respect for your g/f brake up with her before going to these sites. i belive sex is important and healthy, but should not be the only thing in a relationsip.... good luck... but please be more respectfull of your g/f
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reader, TDMB +, writes (15 February 2007):
 It sounds to me like you need a different girlfriend! You simply can't 'get' someone to do those types of things unless it's their fetish as well. If that really is what you are into you need to find someone who feels the same. It depends what is most important to you, the fetish or the person . . . and yes, cd206 is dead right, if your girlfriend keeps changing the subject it sounds to she like she's tryig to tell you, as best she can, that she's not up for it. What you do next is up to you but please don't try to talk her into doing anything she doesn't want to. If she loves you she might try it but you'll both end up regretting it.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 You can't really. Rule number one is that you should never do anything sexual that makes you feel uncomfortable. Ever. By changing the subject she's showing that she doesn't want to do these things.
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