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writes:I am working very closely with a male collegue and what started out to be a bit of fun seems to have gone further than that.There is a 11 year age gap and i am finding myself thinking about him all the time, i am the older one i keep telling myself not to be so stupid.When i look out of the window he seems to be looking in and he has now seemed to have moved hiself into my office.At our works do at christmas he was very drunk and he said he loved me but not in that way, but since then he seems to be more full on.I find myself looking at him and when he is in the room i can feel his presence,. when he talks to me i am starting to feel myself blush
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): I am 15 years older than my boyfriend. The odd thing is he approached me on a dating site. I am of a similar age to you. I had posted that I was looking for older men on the site. I wondered what this kid was doing asking me out. Well, now we live together. I love him, but he could not say the same for a long time. He has since, yet things still seem more one sided. My friends come out and say he is using me.
I say, if it feels good do it. The doubts of how long he will stick around, because of the age difference, are always there. At first he did not want to even hold hands in public, which was very different from how he was in private. He wanted me, yet admitted the age bothers him.
Yet I have had some of the best times of my life with him, and would not give them up for anything. I think you should go for it. Maybe ask if he would like to see a movie with you and keep things casual and see where things lead.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 I guess my main comment about your post is that we're always at our most truthful when we're drunk. Because of the age gap I think you have to wait for him to make the first move if he has changed his mind since the Christmas party. I know this will be hard but presumably you're senior to this guy and therefore it would probably be highly unprofessional of you to make the first move. Can I also remind you that if you do have a relationship with him and then break up it could make work even more awkward.
CD
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