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writes:I think my friends have interpreted some of my comments the wrong way, yet when I try to explain they just deny that I meant that.First, my friend told me she went for an audition for S CLUB JUNIORS, a mid-late teens pop group, and I said that I didn't know how she thought she'd get in, because at the time they were starting up she must have only been about 7! Another of my friend is always complaining that she's got fat legs, and often says people are big headed, so she joked that she thought she had really nice legs.. and apparently I looked at her funny, (however I'm sure I didnt) and I said, the only reason I would have looked at her funny would not be because I think she's got fat legs, but that she's always going on about how she hates her legs so I was surprised that she was saying this, as she also takes the mickey out of people being full of themselves.What can I do to stop my friends thinking I think that they're bad singers and that they are fat?Please help!?!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Karina +, writes (14 February 2007):
only thing that i can suggest is for you to sit your friends down one at a time and reassure them that you never meant that for one moment and that it wasnt meant how it sounded. Let them know that you consider them good friends and dont want to lose them over something that was taken in the wrong way
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (14 February 2007):
You could always say, sorry if you thought i was being rude or offensive but i honestly never meant it that way. Have you ever though they are doing it to piss you off ? They really could be doing it to be awkward and horrible to you. They seem really childish, so find some friends who arnt immature idiots.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 February 2007):
 The problem here is two-fold. One is that your friends are being oversensitive and the other is that it wouldn't hurt to say things in your head before you say them out loud so that you can hear how they might be interpreted. I'm not unconvinced that I wouldn't have taken what you said about your singing friend in exactly the same way. Just apologise to them maturely. Tell them that you never meant to imply that they were bad singers or had bad legs and that you just didn't think before you spoke but you plan to be more careful in the future. They'll get over it. These kinds of dramas are common but come and go quickly enough!
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