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writes:I had to break up with my bf and havent heard a word from him since. He has messaged me and is apparently too scared to talk to me, or call me. i feel kind of hurt by this, as we've shared so many years together and he doesnt have the guts to pick up the phone yet send text messages at 2 am. I feel like I don't know him anymore. Does he still care for me...? What do I do for the best in a situation like this?
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reader, CandyCurves  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I repeat what I said previously ,he cant just forget you.So possibly there might be still some affection there.I can understand why you finished with him. If your ex really loved you he wouldn't of treated you like this in the first place.
I think he might possibly want you back( you have been together for a long time) and he probably misses you.The only reason why he's afraid to talk to you because he's scared because he's guilty. He knows he didn't treat you right.He fears that you might reject him again. Dont feel sorry him( that's where the we go wrong). He's learnt a valuable lesson- he shouldnt take you for granted. If you would like him back, I would say break the ice and start talking again.But Im going to warn you now.I would stay in control of this relationship.That's just my interpretation
of what has been said, I'd advice you to listen to your own gut.Always works for me
Best of Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni broke up with him, because he can't stop hanging out with his friends, it's like this huge attachment. There's always a new group he hangs out with almost every month and I just get pushed to the side.
the last straw was when it ws my bday, a week before that he barely talked to me, then when i was patient enough to wait for the weekend. He told me he was depressed, and i asked him over what, and he wouldnt give me a straight answer. then my bday comes along.
1) he doesnt get me a gift, complains about the last 2 birthday gifts he gave me and then decides to tell me we haven't spent enough time together to knwo what i wanted.. i didnt want anything, a little thought liek a flower or something simple would have been fine. I actually bought him a bday present for his next bday in JAN.
2) he ignores me for 4 days RIGHT after it. i even sent him an online message since he was on, and not even a reply back or hey im sorry i was busy , i had friends over.
then i decided to call him like late at night, and hes out at some club.I called again and he didnt pick up, he didnt even want to go somewhere quiet to see what's wrong.
so i got mad , told him its over and his explanation was he was sorting stuff out with his friends and spending 2 days for him for his bday.... and this "friend" they just met like 2 weeks ago. I've known him for 3 years. i can see where i stand pfft.
thats what i dont understand why hes so scared to confront me or call me and he has the nerve to tell me he was spending time with his friends to work out their differences.
so there, thers my story. feels better to let it out. thank you anyways in advance
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reader, Wontonbomb +, writes (13 December 2009):
 So you dumped the guy, possibly breaking his heart, and now you're upset because he doesn't want to see or talk to you? The best way to move on from someone who hurt you is to cut all contact and let time heal the wounds, which is probably what he is doing. Just give him the space he deserves and in time when he is feeling stronger and more secure he might contact you.
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reader, jasmin nisar  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 y did u have to break up with ur bf in the first place? this is usually what happens when relationships breakdown or breakup the dumped dosent want to talk to the dumpee and thats proberly whats going on here just stand back and look at it from his point of view u dumped him so y dose he need to awnser the phone to u anymore? u may still care 4 him but men dont see things the way women do the best thing u can do in a siuation like this wait 4 him 2 contact u
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reader, CandyCurves +, writes (13 December 2009):
He cant forget you this quickly, of course of he has feelings for you (especially if you still do).Hes Just really scared to approach you after whatever happened between you to. You need to give more info about why you had to break with him, if you want a better answer:)
Candycurves
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