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*andyCurves
writes:how do you be happy and single. Everyone around me is with someone and I feel really depressed. Any tips? Thank you x
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reader, Chantelle x +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Look closer at people in the relationships and see if they are truly happy as just because people are together doesnt mean they are happy. Being single is great as you can live life to the full and enjoy it without causing problems.
You will find the right person, someone is out there for everyone.
Hope this has helped alittle. Good luck. xx
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reader, SaphiraGold16 +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Just enjoy being single enjoy time with friends and family, doing the things you love and you'll find the right person when your ready.
Just because your mates have partners doesnt mean you should feel pressured to find a boyfriend it really doesnt matter and you'll see that when your 16-19 :)
xoxo
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reader, gaurav1jha  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 I too was in search of a similar question
Although most answers are suited for single females but Laura1318, really a motivation thought :)
Thanks You :)
Btw Hope you don't mind if i copy it :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Lots to do when you're single! Have fun, do whatever you like, go on vacations with friends or family, you wont have to include your bf, you wont have to miss him, you dont have to think about what he will think about this or that, you dont have a bloke that wil break your heart and hurt you and call you names... Plenty of positives in staying single. See it's actually quite hard to find a boyfriend who's mr. perfect so there will always be arguments. Lucky you, you don't have to deal with that! No pressure for sex, no pressure for anything. Just relax and enjoy life, you can enjoy everything couples can but more since they have to always bring each other. You're FREE! Enjoy it while it lasts.
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reader, CandyCurves +, writes (19 February 2010):
CandyCurves is verified as being by the original poster of the question I would like to thank you for the advice, they have made me think twice. I know especially at this age I should be thinking about developing my own character, which I'm trying really hard to do, focus on more important things. But everywhere I go,everything reminds me how unhappy I am without that guy.I feel really lonely ... thanks again
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reader, Moon13  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 You wanna know something funny, we've all been there, well all that are older than you.. we've all experienced that at one point or another, and trust me it doesn't end quickly.. it's in different chapters of your life, love comes and goes, when you think that everyone else has it better, it really isn't that way at all.. truth is life is a rollercoaster, and we all have our ups and downs, all we can really do if find it in ourselves to love ourselves most especially in our down times. You need to not worry so much on the little things, and keep yourself busy with more important things like family, friends, school, projects, activities, and most importantly having fun! What i'd give to be your age again and do things all over. Enjoy your teen years while you can, and stop feeling down on yourself. It will pass and you'll be on the rollercoaster going up high again.. loving life.. :) keep your chin up..
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Happiness does not depend on others. You create your own happiness.
Whether you are single or attached, you can still be happy.
Go and do those things that you like and help others and you will find happiness.
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reader, gigi_fire +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Dear Friend,
There is a very famous saying in India which says Pigs come in herds and only Lions walk alone.
Just because everyone around you is going around with someone else doesn't mean you should go too. You can do what you like doing the most. You have more of me time which you can devote to things you like to do. Everything has its own time and you need to wait for that time to come.
Being with someone doesn't necessarily mean that the person is happy. Every relationship has its own set of ups and downs. Trust me, when you meet the right person you will know.
Why don't you take a hobby you have been neglecting for sometime(I know its quite cliched advice!!), but who knows you might meet someone who shares your interests.
Happiness is a state of mind. You can look at the glass that is either half full or half empty, else you can try to fill it up. The choice is yours.
Take inspiration from this song:
" Be, what you wanna be,
Taking things the way, they come,
Nothing is as nice as finding paradise and
Sitting in the summer sun.
Living live the easy way,
Got your way to let it run,
Nothing is as cool as drifting in the sun light,
Sitting in the summer sun."
Best of luck my friend!!
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reader, lovevivi +, writes (19 February 2010):
 I feel the same way, even the girl that most people have something against (me included) has been happily with someone for a year. Although I wouldn't wish her or any other couples ill will, I'm honestly jealous of the fact that I can't be happy and have that.
I've recently started to volunteer around the community and tried to take my college plans more seriously and it's definitely kept me busy. For me, helping people is what makes me happy so I've been ok with it. Over time, you learn to be happy when you realize that you're your own person and you don't need a mate to be happy. I know this sounds hard, believe me, I know. I'm not fully happy and sometimes lapse back into my depressive state but it's important to count your blessings.
So, biggest tip, just pick up something you like and make yourself useful. Keep busy! If you enjoy drawing, maybe take up an art class or sketch everything you see if you can't afford that. Go out and pick flowers! The weather's getting warmer and by summertime, you could have someone to give YOU flowers.
Best of luck to ya.
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