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writes:hi! I am Ali and lookin for help for my problems so can you help me? Plz! ok!! So i'm 13 and am in love with a girl but i am very shy. I am overweight and have a medium height. I always get nervous whenever she passes me nearby, i think she also loves me bcoz i had seen her many times lookin at me. She is my class fellow and all the day i watch her. I dont feel good on holidays when i dont see her. I want to ask that how could i make her my girlfriend, how could i make her love me?? Plz help! I will be very thankful to you.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 December 2009):
Hi Ali
You cannot go up to a girl and just ask her to be your girlfriend. Girls dont really like that. You have to talk about other stuff with her first. For example, you could go up to her and just tell her you really think the sweater she is wearing looks nice on her. Then you leave it at that. That way, if she doesnt like you back then you can save face. If she is really friendly, a few days later maybe you can say "I hope you dont mind me saying this but your eyes are so pretty OR your hair is amazing" etc. Try talk to her about other stuff nothing to do with being her boyfriend; even about the weather, the teacher, what's our homework today, about your families etc. Try become friends first and all this time you watch her body language to see if she might like talking to you. For example, if she takes the time to talk then that's good. If she always says "I have to go" when there are no classes to rush to then maybe she doesnt want to. Later when you get to know her, just ask if she might like to go with you to try that new icecream place down the road OR come and see my duck in the park that I have named after me or whatever. While out with her then you can tell her you want to get to know her more. There are many stages to this. You can't just go to stage 4 unless you go through stages 1,2 and 3.
One important thing to remember: it does not matter if you are overweight. What matters is if you have confidence or not. If you lack confidence girls will never like you. But if you are happy, proud of yourself and walk with your head held high then all the girls will like you. All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): You'll have many chances at ladies when you grow up. You're too young. Why don't you talk to her more? I don't how the dating thing goes in Pakistan though...
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reader, CandyCurves  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 Aaaawww bless you Ali,
I think think this girl likes you.So one time you should come up to her and talk to her.Tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels.Then ask her out.I hope this was helpful
Best of Luck!
Candycurves
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