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writes:I'm 14 and I'm suffering from resentment, its KILLING ME!The guy that I'm in love with, doesn't love me any more and he's moved on. I hate him , he lead my best friend on and did other things that made me feel small.I stopped talking to him so he has no clue.Me and mum had a fight.I heard her and my elder sister talking about me behind my back on the phone.They were talking about how pathetic and "difficult child" I was.They were laughing at me.I wanted to tell them I was on the other line but didn't cause I couldn't bring myself to do it.I used to trust them but now I cant stand them for hurting me. My best friends keep insulting me about my appearance but they say theyre joking. And just keep laughing.Im really angry but havent said anything because they wouldnt listen.I feel really helpless, I dont know what to do. I DONT TRUST ANYONE and it hurts to think that theres no one I can lean on.I dont know if this is "just the hormones kicing" but I have cried enough.So what do I now about this?.Cause im really depressed.Thanks!
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reader, CandyCurves +, writes (3 March 2010):
CandyCurves is verified as being by the original poster of the question I would like to thank everyone for the advice especially annonymous reader, this was very hepful. May God Bless you all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): Candy Curves,
I understand exactly what you are going through. I had a boyfriend whom I loved deeply and he led me to believe he felt the same way. Six months into our relationship, he left me for someone younger and more attractive. My feelings of hatred and resentment for him were undescriable. As for my mother, many times I felt she didn't care about me, she would constantly pick on me about my weight and tell me if I didn't lose weight, no man would ever fall in love with me. Matter of fact, she would even tell me that was the reason why my ex-husband left me. Let me just say that I carried these feelings of resentment for many years but it didn't bring me any happiness. I finally decided to change my life and I did so by digging very deep and looking at myself and started changing my outlook on life. I took a long trip and made friends with those I meet in my tour. I was able to express my feelings with them and they in turn lifted my spirits by telling me positive things about my personality. It was something I need to hear from others. About a year after, I forgave those who hurt me so deeply, including my mother. I cant't begin to tell you how this has changed my life. I finally feel happy with myself. I married a man who loves me and I restored some relationships I thought I could never restore. It is very important that you look at yourself and learn to love yourself. Once you realize who you are, you will find the strength to forgive and let go. You will then feel the happiness you deserve to feel and others will see. Hope this helps.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Forgiveness is the key to making peace with yourself and ultimately dealing with resentments.
If you learn to forgive, you can also learn to let go of anger and control your temper.
Forgive all those people ,bless them and wish them well.You will break the resentment and anger circle.
If you have positive thoughts, you will attract more positive thoughts.
People who hold on to resentment are hurting themselves a great deal, and they usually don't even see it.
They're poisoning their minds and their bodies with stress and negative feelings, and they're holding back the happiness and contentment and peace of mind .
Try to forgive your enemies and you will instantly feel a heavy load being lifted from your shoulders.
Try hanging those rotten potatoes on your neck. If resentments were those rotten potatoes, what would you do?
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reader, kissyheart  +, writes (27 February 2010):
hey candycurves,even i have been through a lot of painful breakups but when your heart breaks it takes time to heal.your ex-boyfriend show him that you are really happy without him and genunine happiness don't pretend.why are you wasting your life for such a big loser?about your mom is always gonna think good for you she must be frustrated that's whyy she must have blabbered all those things,dear i know you are going through a really hard time but hearts do heal.you will certainly get a guy who will be damn good.you may never know your life will be damn beautiful.just be strong and live your life.
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