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writes:[OP original title]so i've always been kinda shy but i guess its just the paranoia of wat ppl think of me gets to me all the time when i try to talk to someone.i can never think straight. i can't focus on the topic at hand.last night i was at a bbq and so much shit was rushing through my head."i shouldn't b here i'm not even really close to these ppl even though i go to school with them.i don't know wat to say. they're gonna talk abou me when i leave.i can't dance and i shouldn't b here". All of that went through my head and goes on a daily basis. nobody notices it all but i wanna talk to someone about it. my parents wouldn't understand bcuz they'll make me feel bad and say its my fault. my friend is way outgoing so she wouldn't get it.and church members... i dont think so. so how can i start a new year at school without being so awkward and wat makes a person awkward? (sorry this as really long)
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reader, CandyCurves  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Heey, I've been through a stage where I've felt I was too awkward and almost anti- social. But as time went by and I learnt about myself ,I learnt that there was nothing wrong with me. The only reason why I acted awkward in social situation was because I wasn't comfortable.You have to learn to feel comfortable in your own skin and when you just be your self (without worrying about what others think of you)
you usually just fit in perfectly.So learn to feel good in your own skin and to not take things so seriously! Relax,enjoy and stop worrying.
And sometimes its not even you that's the problem. I remember feeling so awkward/paranoid/rejected by others and that was simply because those people were horrible people that didn't know how to have a good laugh. I'm sure you have a great personality. Just learn to show it off!
By the way this is coming from a 15year old. I've been there and done that.I know its a bit of a cliché and not what you're expecting, but being YOU is the best thing you could do.
May God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): You will grow out of being awkward, but don't forget that many guys find a little awkwardness and shyness to be very sweet and attractive. Not all of us want to date the life of the party, or to date a girl who is just "on top of it" at all times, e.g, always spot on with the perfect comment. We are imperfect, and we like our girls that way too. A little demure sweetness can go a long way!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Sounds like ur nervous, maybe a lil paranoid.. U have the right to go anywhere u want. Maybe ur like my husband he doesnt like large crowds and he gets really freaked out and starts to twitch a lil and has to get out of there. Its not his fault he just had a traumatic experience in his life. Maybe uve had one? Now to solve it, I would tell ur parents again that u have a lil bit of issues and that u need to see a therapist. that doesnt work talk to ur friend from church, friends are for talking to so why not give her a try...she might understand more than u think. I was a lil awkward and quite when I was younger, I just got through it with my friends talking with them how i feel and around hs i started to open up and start talking to ppl and it worked. Ur not as awkward as u think u are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Okay I dont know if this is what you have but some of the things you said lead me to believe that you might have social anxiety disorder. Its pretty common and I have it too.
Its something that makes you feel like everyones watching you almost, when they are'nt or like your paranoid about what people think about you.
For me, when I'm around people I dont know, I get very nervous at first, and am usually really quiet. Or when I'm in school and like have to read aloud in class my heart starts to race. Things like that.
Again I dont know if that is what you have, cause it could be something totally different or you are just shy, but thats what it sounds like to me. You can google it and like symptoms of it to see if it really is what you have.
Before I knew that I had it I just thought I was very VERY shy, but them I found some article about it and I was like, wow this sounds a lot like me.
There are different levels of it, and there are things that can help. Its not something to totally freak out about I am just telling you what could be.
Hope this helps, Good luck!
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