Advice desperately needed on how to lift myself up and begin again??
Q. I am in desperate need of some help, answers, something. I feel as if I am loosing my spirit if not entirely lost already. I have lost everything car, Home, spouse, career. and have ended up on the couch of my family. which is awful considering as a ...
A. 3 October 2010: Haha those first two answers sounded like recipes.
Whatever you do, DON'T find a new job. I don't know what you'll do moneywise, but here where I live, when you're unemployed, you get a very low sort of existence payment. The state pays it of cour... (read in full...)
I love him but he went and got married
Q. My, guy who i was with 15 years got married on me 3 weeks ago, HE CLAIM HE F UP, i stiil seeing him just like we are still together, but he go home every night to his wife, what should i do?, i still love him much. i truly beleive he is my soulmate ...
A. 1 September 2010: that seems pretty messed up. Why do you behave nicely like you are still together when he betrayed you and chose for his wife? It might be that he is just using you, even if he doesn't realise it himself. If your love with each other is real, then ... (read in full...)
We like each other in a non cousin way
Q. I am 31 years old and I have recently made contact and have been communicating with my male cousin on face book after not seeing him for 23 years. He is 34 now. As kids we were very close and shared a close bond. I have vaque memories of us kissing ...
A. 27 August 2010: I see no problem here! just do what you think is good and see how it goes :)
what kind of advice did you exactly want? because it seems you were so happy about it that you forgot to ask for it :P... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: Forget about all that legal stuff, really, which a lot of people worry about. Legal is nothing, legal doesn't matter or mean anything. If he's mature enough in his head, then he is old enough. People close to him make that decision, not a law or a ... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: Nope, it doesn't :)
just be happy it's going on and accept it. Let your emotions lead the way and give it a good try. Love is love. No matter what the age, it's always ok.
(as long as one isn't too young ;) but I'm sure 17 is definitely ok)... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my friend changed her name when she got married
Q. My friend at work got married in private three months ago, and took her husband's name. It was a couple of weeks before we (her friends) found out. It was all so sudden. We all had to get used to her having a completely different last name, but I...
A. 24 August 2010: How can this bother you? It's so common
Like C. Grant said, try figuring out why it bothers you.
It's all ok, really... (read in full...)
Would experimenting make me gay?
Q. I am a guy who has been completely straight all my life, but I have always had a fascination with well endowed men in porn. I have thought about trying out a "big" guy (just oral probably) to satisfy my curiosity. Would this make me gay, or is it ...
A. 24 August 2010: No, you're only gay when you feel you are gay. No act will make you anything. It's all about what you truly think or feel about it. Curiosity can only describe you to be curious. So many people get curious about such things, you'd be surprised. It's ... (read in full...)
Caught between my husband and the one.
Q. I dont really know how to start. I have been married for 10 years - seperated 1.5 years ago. This is because I found someone else. My marriage was fairly bland and bad, and I always found myself fantasizing about other men. I had married young and ...
A. 24 August 2010: why are you so fixed on that one bad comment instead of all the good ones...?... (read in full...)
Caught between my husband and the one.
Q. I dont really know how to start. I have been married for 10 years - seperated 1.5 years ago. This is because I found someone else. My marriage was fairly bland and bad, and I always found myself fantasizing about other men. I had married young and ...
A. 20 August 2010: The sooner things change the better. The way you keep doing things (ex. only telling him in a few years) will grow more solid over time, so he will feel like it's has always been that way and he won't react well to such a big change after such a ... (read in full...)
Caught between my husband and the one.
Q. I dont really know how to start. I have been married for 10 years - seperated 1.5 years ago. This is because I found someone else. My marriage was fairly bland and bad, and I always found myself fantasizing about other men. I had married young and ...
A. 18 August 2010: Oh if I were you I'd still tell my ex the truth, tell him you can't get back together because you found the man of your dreams. At least it will help your ex move on because he'll realise chances of you changing your mind and going back to him are ... (read in full...)
The confidence game!
Q. Hi, Im very confused about what do confidence means? Does it mean that you have to pretend, that you love yourself, even if you are not? Does it mean,that you have to show people that you are better and stronger than them, so they would not hurt you...
A. 18 August 2010: confidence means that you believe in yourself, meaning to make the right choices, to act where you're supposed to act, etcetera. Confidence is believing in somebody. Example: If you're confident that a sports team will win a match, that means yo... (read in full...)
I don't want to be remembered as shy! Help!
Q. please help freshman year i've moved to a new house new school and a new location.when school began i didnt know much people so i was always with the closest friend that i met.i met a friend that was a grade higher then me and the whole school yea...
A. 11 August 2010: there are a lotof worse things to be remembered as ;) as long as you remember yourself without regrets, you'll be fine. Be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not. Try to be more open, more happy, more active and whatever else you wanna be. ... (read in full...)
Is Internet hook up with older guy safe?!
Q. [Mod Note: OP's own title] Hi, I'm 17 and from the uk. I've known a guy for a year and a half off the Internet. He is older than me (46) and I'm going to meet him soon, he's driving up to where I live and were meeting in a hotel. My friend knows an...
A. 11 August 2010: I would definitely not just do it like that if I were you! Meeting up in a hotel room for your first meet has the smell of sex all over it. Meet in a restaurant or somewhere crowded at least with enough time to change your mind in case you would. If ... (read in full...)
I love her, but she doesn't want to date me. Help?
Q. I am a teenager and a boarder which means I live in the school. My situation is very complex but I would simplify it in here. I started to love a girl in my year a year ago during summer holiday and she is my first love. And I asked her out 5 ...
A. 11 August 2010: I'd say be your own man, women get turned on by men who know who they are. Build up your own world and she will take notice of you eventually. You might also not be the guy she's looking for. I get that notion because she didn't wanna go on a second ... (read in full...)
I want to take it to the next step, but everything clenches up!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for awhile, and I really want to take the next step with him, but I;m a virgin. Every time we start, I tighten up and i mean i know its going to hurt to try. It always ends up with him not being able to enter. I really ...
A. 11 August 2010: Happy thoughts :) even as simple as thinking of your favorite meal :p relaxed is relaxed, you'll get into the mood once you get going. Try a bunch of stuff, use something else instead before he penetrates. Maybe try lots of foreplay, candles, maybe ... (read in full...)
He's changed, but always talks me out of breaking up with him.
Q. i met my boyfriend wen i was 13. weve been together ever since with alot of breakups which didnt even last an hour. since he's come back from a boys holiday hes been acting really different.. its an effort to get him to even kiss me on the lips.. he ...
A. 11 August 2010: just dump him, get rid of him. cut out the people you don't want in your life and with people I mean who they actually are. He obviously gives you bad feelings in your gut. I've experienced my gut feeling is right most of the time. He's playing with ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my neighbor. Can I add him as a friend on Facebook?
Q. Hey, i need to know whether this is the right thing to do or not.. i really like my neighbour, alot! i have for a long time, the problem is, he's married. I understand this and know that nothing can come from but just a silly little crush. I ...
A. 11 August 2010: It's best to forget about him all at once. If he's married it means he's probably way too old for you. Find boys around your own age, it's way healthier and it keeps you safer and saner. But to answer your question: adding him on facebook is ok, ... (read in full...)
Is love at first sight possible??
Q. Do you beleve in love at first sight?...
A. 2 August 2010: Well it's not really 'love' at first sight but the notion of love. More like somebody that feels right for you since the first time you layed eyes on them and eventually they don't disappoint you. That's very possible, yeh. I've experienced that. ... (read in full...)
Please try to explain her text message to me??
Q. What did my girlfriend mean by this? let me explain, so I was kind of clingy before, I have done really well since we had a discussion about it, I said I would not text no where near enough as I used to!, its been 3 days (we dont live together) ...
A. 2 August 2010: I think she means that nothing different goes on. Like nothing changes and she might want to go forward. I didn't get any hint of drifting apart, in fact she texted u first so that's not drifting apart. my guess is she wants to have more fun with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mum hates me and she hasn't even met me yet!
Q. my boyfriends mum hates me! i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18. his mum just hates me and i havent even met her yet! i have been going out with him for 2 months and he lives 2 hours away from me. i havent met his mum or dad yet and when he is talkin or ...
A. 1 August 2010: It seems that her mum just doesn't understand
Simply ignore what she says about you 'because' she doesn't know you.
She's not very smart if she doesn't like you this way so just rise above it. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell our parents, my gf may be pregnant? Help!
Q. My gf is pregnant. Her and I are 14. I'm thinking about telling my family and hers but I dont know how. A bit ago we had unprotected sex. And I'm waiting to know if she is pregnant or not. What should I tell my parents??? Please help...
A. 1 August 2010: It's not your place to tell HER parents at all. In fact, it would be rude of you to do. You can tell your own parents but I advise you wait and be sure she's pregnant first. People do the dumbest things when they're nervous so try to keep your mind ... (read in full...)
I don't desire daily sex, is there something wrong with me??
Q. Hey everyone:) I need some help; i love my hunny and everything and want to be with him, but i find myself not wanting to have sex everyday or everyother day for that matter. I enjoy like the quality time we spend together doing silly stuff but as f...
A. 1 August 2010: Ye, it's possible. Not to worry, as long as you have a good time when you do have sex, it's all carrots and apples. If you don't want to, you don't need to feel pressured. Just make him wait until you feel more like it and it'll be worth the wait ... (read in full...)
He's breaking my heart with his neglecting ways, why would he say he loves me??
Q. I have been seeing a man on and off for the past 10 years. I really love him and the biggest problem is that he dosen't seem to make time for me. He use to call every day some times 3 times a day. Until three weeks ago I just got tired of waiting ...
A. 1 August 2010: Well, one thing I'll change is that if he blows you off, you shouldn't just say 'ok'. You're obviously not just ok with it so don't lie. Speak up because he's getting the feeling that it's 'ok' and that you're fine with it. Demand his attention and ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to overcome his commitment issues?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for about 2 and a half months. We have been really hitting it off. We both absolutely like each other and have soo much in common its like seeing myself in a mirror. he treats me like his girlfriend, he h...
A. 1 August 2010: Take it to the roots, I've deep problems too and the only way I see them fixed is either by a miracle or the actual reason of the problem changes. You can show him you'll be there as much you want but maybe that's not what's going to make the ... (read in full...)
Stay and fight it out, or RUN?
Q. Hi, I have a kinda hard situation regarding my parent/s. The story is this: when I was 6 my mum and dad got divorced and me and my sis went with mum, as is standard procedure I think. Then very shortly after that she met who would become my step-dad ...
A. 19 July 2010: stay and fight, you can get away when you're older but it's not done yet. If it tears you down, I'd suggest you run but I don't get that idea from what you've written. It seems like you're strong enough to let it spin you the right way. For all your ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex
Q. My girlfriend (of almost a year) broke up with me a couple of weeks before we went on holiday stating different universities as 1 of the main reasons. I was really upset but I understood and said I was ok with it. A couple of days before I ar...
A. 13 July 2010: Yes you take it all the wrong way. It's understandable but you should get over it quickly and have fun and move on like your ex does. She's lucky she had it easy somehow and you might not have it easy at first but just do it. Don't resent or be ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. all of my friends have been "snogged"/"been with"/"made out with" somebody. i find this kinda frustrating because i'm the only one who hasn't. all of them say that i'm pretty and sexy but i dont understand why nobody likes me. im 13,a little bit ...
A. 13 July 2010: just be patient and build your personality up nicely
some day some guy will realise how great you'll be and you can start your own story
sometimes the best ones come late in life... (read in full...)
Recently discovered I'm bi and afraid of my parents' reaction
Q. I am 15. I have recently discovered I'm bi. No not bi-curious. And I don't know what to do I'm afraid of what my parents might do....
A. 13 July 2010: Just be honest... To yourself and to your family and friends. It will get you a long way. Pay good attention to 'how' you say it and timing is a lot. As long as they respect you, there is not much to worry about.... (read in full...)
He tells me he'll kill me if I leave him
Q. Yesterday was my b-day and I went out with my girls after while we went back over to where my car was and jumped in the vam (that I gave my fiance)as I'm getting in I reach in the side pocket and pull out (5) condoms you can tell it was a(6) pack ...
A. 11 July 2010: If you tollerate this, it will only get worse. Don't let him near you or the kids when he behaves like that. Report him to the police if he causes damage and if he threatens you badly. I can tell you this: It won't evolve into a good marriage. You ... (read in full...)
How to move on when badly hurt?
Q. Help! Since my boyfriend ended things suddenly three months ago I am getting more angry and depressed as time goes on, rather than feeling any better. I can look back now and see that he was insincere and didn't love me like he said he did. He ...
A. 11 July 2010: nobody can tell you how, you'll have to find your own way and just get used to it and then get over it until one day you don't feel as bad anymore and it will get better and better from then. Just good luck and don't sit still... (read in full...)
I lied to my friends!
Q. i lied to some of my friends and told them i lost my virginity... idk what to do... i trust my friends but i feel like they think im a hoe.. i dont wanna tell them i lied to them, but i dont know what to do.....
A. 8 July 2010: First of all, don't lie. If you don't want somebody to know something, just don't say either way. Ok but that's past now. You lied. You've got three things to do: You tell them the truth, you make a big deal out of this or you make a small deal out ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina normal?
Q. Ok i have a question, um idk if my vagina looks alright. is it normal for your vagina to hang stuff out, its like hangs or something. something in it just hangs, idk if its supposed to be in or out..i need advice help...
A. 8 July 2010: It's very normal, don't believe pictures or videos or whatever you compare yourself to. Many girls have vaginas just like yours and they wonder about it too. Be happy with who you are, it's there. No need worrying about it, you look good.... (read in full...)
Why do I still care what my ex-friend says about me?
Q. An old friend of mine, "Sally" and I had a falling out- our friendship became one-sided and toxic. I was tired of her put-downs and tried to talk it over with her, but nothing helped. She had lunch with a mutual friend "Amy" recently. "Amy" tol...
A. 8 July 2010: She's just the bad kind of friend. Everyone meets at least a few of those in their lives. It gets to you because you care and probably because you are a righteous person. Just bite through it and just ignore all of it. It's crap but it happens. And, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of over 1 year didn't get me a birthday present, how do I tell him this bothers me without sounding materialistic?
Q. My boyfriend of over 1 year didn't get me a birthday present. It's not the value of the gift or the actual gift that bothers me, it's the fact that he didn't give me anything at all, not even a card. We went out to a casual dinner and he paid, but ...
A. 8 July 2010: Just tell it like it is. You are troubled by the lack of attention more than the gift. You won't offend him if you're not going offensive and if he's wise enough... (read in full...)
Relationship that never goes smooth...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been off and on for 3 years. The last time we got back together, I called him and begged for him to take me back though ive been immature, selfish and hurtful in the past. We've been back together for 2 months now and it ...
A. 8 July 2010: He probably has difficulties forgiving you and you should try earn his forgiveness and have it feel alright to him. It seems that it doesn't work the way you do things now. The changes you make are probably good for in the future but you should ... (read in full...)
Falling in Love with the " Other Guy"
Q. I need help. I have been with my bf for over 4 years. We live together and everything. Our realtionship was perfect untill he cheated on me 6 months ago. I rightfully cheated right back on him and hooked up with some random. I thought I was over it, ...
A. 6 July 2010: (sorry i sent it accidently) :D
ys of summer", you should watch it, I liked it a lot and it has a bit of advice in it on how to handle your situation. Maybe it doesn't but hey, I haven't got a lot more to add ;) You're fine, just out of respect,... (read in full...)
Feelings for my best friend....who's also female!
Q. I’m crying out of sheer confusion as I write this, and I really don’t know what to do anymore. I’m a 23 year old female, who has somehow managed to develop very strong feelings for another female (10 years older than me). The problem is that I ...
A. 6 July 2010: Without the risk, you won't gain anything. The sooner you tell her, the sooner she'll get over it in case it doesn't work out, the sooner you'll be relieved and the sooner you'll be kissing on the beach. Let it fall where it may. Just don't keep it ... (read in full...)
Falling in Love with the " Other Guy"
Q. I need help. I have been with my bf for over 4 years. We live together and everything. Our realtionship was perfect untill he cheated on me 6 months ago. I rightfully cheated right back on him and hooked up with some random. I thought I was over it, ...
A. 6 July 2010: Seems like you don't really have a problem. Just make it a healthy break up with your bf. You make me think of the movie "500 da... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know what is a real woman in bed!
Q. My boyfriend ignores me in bed every time. We have sex once or twice a week and it lasts exaclty 10 minutes both foreplay (if any) and penetration, and no cuddling after that or even a shot of another round because he is either too tired or just ...
A. 6 July 2010: Just don't have sex with him anymore. That simple. He doesn't deserve it by the sound of it so you shouldn't let him have it. He insults you in so many ways and you probably don't deserve those insults. Tell him to be a man in bed or be a man ... (read in full...)
So am I setting myself up?
Q. So i hung out with an ex boyfriend over the weekend and we had a great time. he says he still has love for me. I know he cares. anyway i texted him saying i had a nice time w/you and it made me happy to hang out with you. maby i'm analyzing it too ...
A. 6 July 2010: Shouldn't give that much importance to a text message. You're overreacting over it. It's quite possible he never got it or whatever or he just liked it but didn't think of texting back or he's nervous about what to say. Go with what the actual time ... (read in full...)
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