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Is this classed as rape?
Q. if a male is 17 and a female is 15 and they have sex and get pregnant, is it rape?...
A. 10 April 2010: Doesn't matter if it is male or female the law is the same, and it doesn't matter if the girl gets pregmant or not. Sex by force, against ones will is always rape no matter the age, male or female. But when it deals with age of concent laws, age, ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?
Q. hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...
A. 22 March 2010: Sometimes I think I hear or presieve things differently. It sounded to me like ya'll aren't having sex that often and you both think it has been poor and it doesn't get any better, also your wife doesn't think you want her. My original advice ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?
Q. hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...
A. 22 March 2010: I have to be straight forward. Does your wife orgasm? It would be very difficult to cry while you were climaxing. If she doesn't, I have some great advice on how to improve your sex life together. How much time do you spend giving her oral sex, ... (read in full...)
Am I being bullied?
Q. There is a man at work who may be bullying me. At first he was really nice and charming and went out of his way to make me feel special. He knows that I am in a relationship but he spent a lot of time telling me I was nice / attractive. Then I ma...
A. 22 March 2010: What was it of his you misplaced? It might not mean much to you, but it may be a very big deal to him. If I were you I would replace what ever it was of his you misplaced along with a sincere apology. You seem to have dismissed it a little to ... (read in full...)
I have large labia minora. Please help, and give me your opinions!
Q. Hi, I'm 16, and i have large labora minora (outer vaginal lips) i worry constantly, and what happens when it gets to the stage when i'm going a bit further in relationships? Please, male and female, give me your opinions. and i know its normal,...
A. 22 March 2010: It is wonderful we are all so uniquely and amazingly different. The important thing is not how you look but if it works. If you are so large it is painful in some of your clothing or during sex, ther is surgury to reduce the size, but I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Is it time for a break?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. The first 3 months were like the moon and stars aligned and it was made of things that novels are written about. At the beginning of the new year, our blissfulness wore off. His future ex (he is ...
A. 20 March 2010: Yes it can. You are doing the right thing for everyone concerned, including yourself. If ya'll are truly in love you can do whatever it takes and I think right now you both need a break. If it's love it will survive a separation and if it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Back and forth online argument and I don't think that I should apologize.
Q. Evening peeps! I would like some opinions on my current situation please. On facebook recently I put as my post " Im 99.9 per cent sure children are more messy than dogs,lol!" Now this post was regards to my mate who'd I'd just gone to visit. S...
A. 20 March 2010: I don't think you did anything wrong either. But, people do get offensive over their personal choices. Still they are personal choices. Parenthood is a choice and people who chose to be parents think there is nothing better and for them there ... (read in full...)
What do I do here... as her friend?
Q. Okay my best friend is 14 and her boyfriend is 18 and they have been dating for like two years now their relationship is great but when they went to italy together he wanted to have sex with her I told her to not do it but he keeps insisting that ...
A. 20 March 2010: It really hurts my heart to answer questions like yours. Your friend is still a child. No matter how grown she tries to be, she is a child. She should have never been in a relationship with that boy, a friendship O.K., even still he is too old ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of being bullied and being a little person in the dark who gets pushed around by life.
Q. I really, really need help. I'm so scared that there is something profoundly and irreversibly wrong with me. I'm very fearful for my future because of some experiences that I've had in the past few days. I'm afraid that I'm destined to be a...
A. 17 March 2010: Your life isn't set in stone. You are in controll of your own destiny. If you don't like where you are or what your doing then chamge them both. If you are not receiving positive reinforcement and encouragement from the people around you, change ... (read in full...)
Cut short on pleasure.
Q. Okay, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him more than anything and am 'head over heels' as they say. However i feel like im being cut short when it comes to sex. Im definetely an oral type of girl and i orgasm every time, dont get me ...
A. 16 March 2010: I would insist on oral first, then sex or not at all. He is the selfish one. I recommend you buying two books. You can get them on Amazon.com. The first one is titled, "She Cums First" it's about your getting oral or clitoral stimulation first ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to have squirting orgasms?
Q. i been with some of my ex's in the past, and they made me cum but i all ways wanted them to make me squirt, n they try, but i cum instead of squirting, how can i get my self to where i aquirt?...
A. 16 March 2010: Can a woman ejectulate like a man? Yes.. sort of.. women have what is called a skene's gland.. during arousal this gland can fill with fluid, if the anterior wall of the vagina is stimulated correctly, muscle contractions during and orgasm will ... (read in full...)
Is this true?
Q. My girlfriend's mum told me... a woman sleeps with a man, has an orgasm and thinks shes in love. The man just thinks he had a wonderful night. Is that true?? ...
A. 16 March 2010: I think in general women are in love with love and if you can through a great orgasm into the mix you've got a good little cocktail. When it comes to sex and men, they a complete alcoholics and the addition of love is secondary.... (read in full...)
Do you think he's just distancing himself to insure that emotions don't get in the way?
Q. I've been seeing a man the past 8 months casually. He has become a business client to me, but we've also been having casual sexual encounters when we have "meetings." A little business, a little pleasure. It's been fun. He would frequently text me ...
A. 16 March 2010: Here are some old phrases you need to remember. "Don't s**t where you eat. Don't s**t where you sleep. Don't dip you pen in the company ink well." This phrase means "do not have romantic or sexual relationships with any co-workers or with people ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's just distancing himself to insure that emotions don't get in the way?
Q. I've been seeing a man the past 8 months casually. He has become a business client to me, but we've also been having casual sexual encounters when we have "meetings." A little business, a little pleasure. It's been fun. He would frequently text me ...
A. 14 March 2010: I think in the beginning you were exciting and new. Your not new any more. With lots of men it is just about the conquest not about the relationship. You served your purpose and he's ready to move on, or spice it up by adding someone else to keep ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 14 March 2010: I don't think you have anything to worry about. When blood is drawn they sterlize the injection site with alcohol to kill any germs on your skin and they use new clean sterile needles to draw the blood. For a transfusion they use the same care at ... (read in full...)
I exercise and do sports constantly but can't seem to lose weight!
Q. Hi, Aunties! I'm in a great relationship with one of the best guys in the world. I'm beyond lucky to have him, and I love him very much. At only 16, I know that I'm going to be told I know nothing of love... And that's probably true, but I'm very...
A. 13 March 2010: It's very easy. Just tell him it makes you happy to know that he thinks you are beautiful. Then say, thank you for loving me enough to say so. Then compliment him and give him a big kiss. You are just letting him know you appreciate his love and ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 13 March 2010: That was information I found when I researched testing for STD's and what types of test you needed. My interpretation of the information was that it can take that long for them to be detectable in the blood. Meaning depending on which std you were ... (read in full...)
Why is everything I'm doing to make myself happier always so stupid?
Q. What is this indicating for my future? My boyfriend of over three years and I have been discussing marriage and babies for about a year now. And every time I tell him I want to work as well to bring in a second income and have only two or three ...
A. 12 March 2010: From what I can tell your not married and your not pregnant and you don't have any children. If you want to work then get a job, if you want to write, then write. You do not need him to validate you as a person. But one thing I do agree with him ... (read in full...)
He's losing weight and I'm less attracted to him...
Q. hi i have been with my partner four 5 years almost, i am attracted to men who are more weighty than slimmer men. when i met him he was slightly over weight and it suited me just fine. now however he is beginning to lose weight and although i do lo...
A. 12 March 2010: It sounds a little selfish of you and you seem a little insecure. If you care about him then answer this; what is best for him?... (read in full...)
I exercise and do sports constantly but can't seem to lose weight!
Q. Hi, Aunties! I'm in a great relationship with one of the best guys in the world. I'm beyond lucky to have him, and I love him very much. At only 16, I know that I'm going to be told I know nothing of love... And that's probably true, but I'm very...
A. 11 March 2010: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That is true for you both. To him you are beautiful, do not deny him that, learn to see yourself from his eyes. He has a runners body, he sounds very thin to me, not my taste at all, but he is yours, like you ... (read in full...)
Are STD tests normally so expensive?
Q. Ok, I just recently visited my girl, and while there one thing led to another and we got reckless. I ended up having unprotected sex with her, and I haven't ever had a blood test for STD's. So that is weighing on my mind bad. I would never b...
A. 11 March 2010: Sorry you spent all that money. There is nothing she or you could have caught that couldn't wait on a visit to a free health clinic. I found this information about testing for std's. I don't know if a blood test picks up everything.
Testi... (read in full...)
Penis panic!!!
Q. Hi, i am an 18 year old lad and i am a bit worried about what i have seen on my penis. When i pull my forskin back there are little red dots on my bell end and ive never had this before so am just wondering if there is anything wrong? I dont sleep ...
A. 10 March 2010: I am gussing you are uncircumsized. I think it is a cleanliness issue. Whenever you shower or bathe make sure you pull the foreskin back and wash thoroughly with soap and water. Make sure you are cleaning yourself well after intercourse. If it ... (read in full...)
Is my penis too small to have sex?
Q. hey me and my girlfriend have planned to have sex next weekend but my penis is only 5.5 inches long what should i do ...
A. 10 March 2010: As you get more experience you will find out that more girls orgasm with oral sex (tongue and clitoris stimulation) easeir and mroe frequently than with intercourse. You should be more concerned with std's and pregnancy than the size of your penis. ... (read in full...)
How do I end this affair? And should I tell my wife?
Q. I'm a married to a lovely wife with 2 fantastic children. I never thought cheating on my wife,never. But last January i met a single woman during a work project, we have a chat and we exchanged our phones. till there i was doing my job, nothing was ...
A. 10 March 2010: The moment you exchanged numbers with this woman you had decided to cheat. You cheated in your heart first. Confess your sin to God, ask for his forgivness and his help in healing your marriage. End the affain, tell your wife (you owe her that ... (read in full...)
Long-term damage from anal?
Q. Hi I was just reading some questions about anal sex and it said that anal sex can damage you in later life. Well I have had anal sex and have been doing so for a few years. I don't do it very often - about once a month. I was wondering if I could ...
A. 10 March 2010: I agree with all of the great advice. It can be a dangerous choice with significant health risk. ... (read in full...)
He puts his ex and son ahead of me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. We really like each other a lot. He has a son with another woman and I know that I can't compete with that, but here's the problem. He says that he is tryin to get along with her so that he doesn't ...
A. 9 March 2010: Quote: "He says that he is tryin to get along with her so that he doesn't have to pay child support because he can't afford it." Everyone is assuming that what he told you is the truth. It could be no more than a lie he is telling you in order to ... (read in full...)
He puts his ex and son ahead of me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. We really like each other a lot. He has a son with another woman and I know that I can't compete with that, but here's the problem. He says that he is tryin to get along with her so that he doesn't ...
A. 8 March 2010: I have to agree with the others. You are not and can not be his priority at this time in his life. Cut your losses and find someone that can devote themselves strickly to you. You will only get hurt worse if you try to compete with his ex and his ... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Well I'm with you on the crazy part. You are in for one heck of a rude awakening. Good luck and I mean it. I hope she will be all you think she is and I hope she continues to make you happy. My remarks were strickly hard love.... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Quote "but she too reckless to be a hustler, Celtic. Rule number one of a hustler, never endanger yourself." Sorry, she isn't endangering herself if what she is hustling is a daddy for her four or now five kids. You are still not thinking ... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Sorry guy you get what you ask for and a whole lot more. Not as if you weren't warned or anything.... (read in full...)
Tips on controlling my outburst during an orgasm
Q. okay, so here it goes. i am 13 and have recently started masturbating. i have orgasms every single time and its hard not to moan or sometimes scream with pleasure! i usually do it when my parents are asleep or when im by myself. do you know any...
A. 4 March 2010: Sorry q1605, Masturbation party of one:) As far as the screaming, do it when your at home alone and then let it rip. If your not alone keep to deep moan or groan, with the door locked and music for noise control. Enjoy ... (read in full...)
Tips on controlling my outburst during an orgasm
Q. okay, so here it goes. i am 13 and have recently started masturbating. i have orgasms every single time and its hard not to moan or sometimes scream with pleasure! i usually do it when my parents are asleep or when im by myself. do you know any...
A. 3 March 2010: Running water from a bath tub faucet or from a hand held shower head over your clit. The stronger the flow of water the greater the stimulation. A bath or shower will never be so satisfying. It's better than a vibrator.... (read in full...)
How do I get over the fear of getting a girl pregnant or catching an STD?
Q. OK, so I've pretty much accepted the fact that most girls today do not wait until marriage to have sex, and if they are not going to wait there is absolutely no reason I should ether. So my next problem is how do I get over the fear of getting a ...
A. 3 March 2010: I agree with Laura1318 The only 100% safe method is no sex. And who wrote the law that just because their are girls will the spread their legs means you have to accomidate. Moral standards and accountability. Be afraid, be very afraid. Do a ... (read in full...)
Anal Intercourse...what to do to avoid pain and weird things from happening?
Q. Hi yall the name nessa. Anywho I have a slight problem. So my bf's been asking and complaing...he wants to have his noodle doodle up my a*s and to me that's just going over the limit... I don't know what to do I want to satisfy him anyway I can but ...
A. 3 March 2010: I agree with all the post. If you are not comfortable with the idea then don't do it. Some time ago I watched a progran call talk sex with Sue. She was a nurse with a call in talk show you could ask any type of sex related question and she would ... (read in full...)
I hate my dark, dark skin
Q. I am Cuban and I am dark skin and I like to think that Im exotic with my foreign tongue and look. But all my life I have had people be mean and criticize me for who I am. The media in America portrays majority of the people being beautiful as white ...
A. 3 March 2010: You are correct that a womans beauty is measured by the stick thin white models seen in todays fashion industry. It is unrealistic to use these women as a standard for beauty. Do not compare yourself with other women. Women of all races and color ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with feeling ashamed that I wasted time with him?
Q. i feel ashamed. this guy and i were about to be an item until something happened. everybody knew that we went for dinner every night and what not. everybody knew we were close. anyway, we're not talking anymore now. i hate all the places i we...
A. 26 February 2010: Why would you feel shame? You meet a guy, you see if it works and if doesn't move on, grow. Don't worry about the past, look forward to what life has ahead for you. Go meet someone else you will make mistakes, thats life, but one day you won't. ... (read in full...)
I am jealous to the point of being enraged! How do I control my feelings?
Q. i know this is not healthy and i know i shouldnt be bothered but this feeling in me is as though i get stabbed right at the core of my heart everytime i see this girl in my college. this guy and i used to be really close and almost get into ...
A. 26 February 2010: Your jealous. But any man or relationship that makes you feel ugly or worthless is not worth pursuing. Move on, find someone that makes you feel good and proud to be you. Life is too short to spend it feeling horrible about yourself.... (read in full...)
Why do people have such big regrets about losing their virginity?
Q. I'm an almost 18 year old virgin, and I've heard other women say that they've regreted their first time and wish they had waited. I don't understand. Why did they regret it and what did they wish they had waited for? I've been a bit upset about wh...
A. 23 February 2010: I would have to tell you to wait until your married. Your virginity, you as a pure woman who has saved herself for her husband is the most precious gift you can give him and he will treasure you and that gift forever. Marriage is a Holy union, it ... (read in full...)
First time sex... I don't know whether I should do it or not.
Q. Hi, my question is on first time sex and its not going to be easy to answer, but basically I was wondering whether I should do it or not. I know this must sound a little odd, but I was watching a Family Guy episode last night (don't knock it, it a...
A. 20 February 2010: I would have to say wait until your married. Your virginity, you as a pure woman who has saved herself for her husband is the most precious gift you can give him and he will treasure that gift forever. Marriage is a Holy union, it means more than ... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 17 February 2010: I have to agree, you need serious help if you think love is involved. You both sound a little desperate. Stop, turn and run the other way as fast as you can. Stop all contact with her and start thinking with your head and not your hormones. Love ... (read in full...)
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