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writes:Hey, i need to know whether this is the right thing to do or not..i really like my neighbour, alot! i have for a long time, the problem is, he's married. I understand this and know that nothing can come from but just a silly little crush. I recently just added his wife on facebook and she accepted, i know he has facebook but im unsure whether to add him or not.. i don't want it to give off wrong signs? I'm only 16 and he is around 35.. i'm not close with them at all but they know who i am and will recognise me! should i add him or not? or will it come off strange to the both of them?thanks alot for any answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): don't
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Well, Im 33yrs old & Im not entirely sure Id be comfortable with having a 16yr old female friend on Facebook.... however I am a little oversensitive to these issues due to my job.
In reality, I cant see much harm in it. However, if you do, just be a bit careful incase he's not the decent person you think he is.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 you like him alot and your only 16? that is completely wrong. the last thing you need is to have an affair with a married man.i would say stay away from him..if he is close to his wife he'll laugh off the whole facebook request and you may seem like an idiot or he might actual accept.i dont know wat to tell u good luck.
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reader, im ur angel +, writes (11 August 2010):
it would be totaly fine to add him, they are just going to think that hey, its our neighbor, gives me a chance to know more peolple. you added his wife so you should add him (and while youre at it add me, lol) its only a harmless crush...
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Uhhm, there's nothing wrong with adding your neighbors on Facebook, especially if you get along well. You could have added his wife and him at the same time, so he didn't suspect anything. But I'm pretty sure he won't misunderstand your friend request, since it's the INTERNET we're talking about here. The INTERNET worth nothing in a social relationship between people, so don't be scared, you can add him.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 It's best to forget about him all at once. If he's married it means he's probably way too old for you. Find boys around your own age, it's way healthier and it keeps you safer and saner. But to answer your question: adding him on facebook is ok, it's harmless, it just means you consider him worthy being your friend so yes you can do that if you want to. Just to be clear about this; you won't find any happiness over there. At your age you probably don't know the whole picture. You barely even begun to understand but that's why I let you know. Be healthy and go find happiness with someone close to your own age. Adult minds are overrated and way too complicated ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Honestly I think yeah go for it and add him I mean its not like oh cool your 35 and married and I dont know you, your my neighbor and you know who I am, who knows it could bring you guys closer together as friends and your crush would wear off.
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reader, Allybaby  +, writes (11 August 2010):
Theres no problem with adding him on facebook , espically because you know nothing can come of the cruch . so i dont see any harm in adding him . :) xox
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