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writes:I am a guy who has been completely straight all my life, but I have always had a fascination with well endowed men in porn. I have thought about trying out a "big" guy (just oral probably) to satisfy my curiosity. Would this make me gay, or is it normal for many men to just "try" things out of curiosity. Women seem to do this with other women all the time without the stigma of being gay. I guess if I turn out to NOT like it, I'll know I'm NOT gay...right? Or will the act itself make me gay? I guess it's unfair and wrong to go looking for labels, but I'm puzzled by my sudden curiosity and what it means, so I'm looking for opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): OP here...thanks everyone for your comments (except the one guy who is obviously SO straight, I'm convinced he IS gay :)Anyway, I have no attraction for men really. In fact, I find most to be unattractive. I'm definitely NOT excited about men sexually, and I have a very strong suspicion I'm just so porn-obsessed with larger organs, I may be repulsed if and when I actually go through with "experimenting"...but at least I'll know then, right? I was on a website last night that dealt with large labia. I was VERY turned on by it. Big swinging natural boobs have the same effect. A big erect cock does the same thing for me..and if it's a nice shape and all, it can make me instantly hard. So strangely, I seem to have a fetish with big things...maybe not penises at per se.I guess I'm not looking for a label...just looking to see how I fit in with the whole sexual world. I think I have that answer. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I'm straight so I will tell you that since you, "have thought about trying out a "big" guy (just oral probably) to satisfy my curiosity" you are gay. There is no way that I would ever want that, not even for the proverbial million dollars.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): If ur sexually atracted to men then your gay. Wanting to try it doesn't make u gay though. Hope this helps
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reader, *julia* +, writes (24 August 2010):
I don't think there is any problem with it. Women do it all the time and it isn't fair that women can but men can't. It is totally not fair. I'm straight but I feel it is ok to experiment. I also support gay rights. So go for it and best of luck!!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): First off I think its toatlly not fair that girls can "experiment" but guys cant,its a double standard. but anyways I think that its normal for you to want to experiment with other men and if you dont like it then you dont like it and thats it.
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reader, betterdeal  +, writes (24 August 2010):
I definitely feel there is more stigma and taboo attached to male-male sex than female-female sex. There's also a lot of emphasis put on cock size in pornography, with actors with bigger cocks getting more roles than actors who might have better technique but more average sized ones.
Are you sure you're not just aligning with the skewed view of the world that pornography portrays? Have you seen any guys in real life and felt attracted to them in anyway?
And would you be happy with it on your conscience. If you have a lover currently, would you discuss this with her first, to see that you having sex with someone else is okay with her?
That said, it's your body, soul & mind, and if you feel the urge and would like to experiment then do so. Maybe go visit a gay bar and see how you feel meeting other men in that context. And be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I'm a straight girl but I always find myself staring at a beautiful woman even if she is standing next to a gorgeous man. For some reason I find the female body to be more beautiful to look at. But I know that it does not turn me on.
At some point I questioned whether I could be gay or bi, but never in my life did I have the opportunity to act on it, and I probably never will.
This remains part of my active imagination. So it is up to you whether you feel comfortable with experimenting or keeping it part of your fantasy life.
But don't label yourself as one or the other. you don't know how you will feel if you were to try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): Experimenting would not make you gay. Its just experimenting. If you're curious then I say go out and try it. You might like and if you do then you could be bi-sexual. There is nothing wrong with it at all.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 No, you're only gay when you feel you are gay. No act will make you anything. It's all about what you truly think or feel about it. Curiosity can only describe you to be curious. So many people get curious about such things, you'd be surprised. It's all that because it's 'different'. Besides what will it matter eventually? You'll know who you are, right? Labels or no labels. Don't give so much importance to all that and just do what's in your heart.
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reader, Alwayswondering  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Are you sexually attracted to men? Then this kind of makes you bisexual, with a preference for women. However, people these days don't see homosexuals or bisexuals evenly, which makes me laugh because when did i wake and say "ok, I'm going to be straight for the rest of my life". You don't... It happens. But people can't grasp this. Does this help? I kind of went on a tangent. Rate my answer plz!
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