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writes:I’m crying out of sheer confusion as I write this, and I really don’t know what to do anymore. I’m a 23 year old female, who has somehow managed to develop very strong feelings for another female (10 years older than me). The problem is that I strongly believe there is something there on her behalf also, but she’s not acting on it... It’s the stares and the hugs, and the general way we are when we are together. But she talks about different guys she’s been with, and about her past long-term relationships with ex boyfriends. Could it be possible that she’s feeling something for me, but is too scared to act on it because we are such good mates? Or is she just a flirty type in general? I can’t make a rational decision, because my head is such a mess... I’m thinking about her constantly, and when I call her, she always sounds so happy to hear from me. I’ve caught her many times staring at me, and when she sees me look, she turns her focus to something else. When we are drunk we hold hands.How am I going to deal with this, without losing one of the best people I’ve ever met. I care about her so much, and I CANNOT lose her. If I tell her I run that risk.Can anyone please help me?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): The way it sounds.
she does have feelings for you.
shes just scared to show it.
or at least tell you.
I would write her a letter,
or tell her you guys have to talk alone.
& you dont want her to think different about things after you tell her,
let her know how you feel.
& ask her how she feels about it.
Or do what i did.
start off a conversation about girls with girls or guys with guys
& tell her to give her opinion on it.
& if she likes it ask her what she would think if someone she knew was like that.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Without the risk, you won't gain anything. The sooner you tell her, the sooner she'll get over it in case it doesn't work out, the sooner you'll be relieved and the sooner you'll be kissing on the beach. Let it fall where it may. Just don't keep it in much longer. cramping everything in will just make everything worse and your feelings will only grow by the sound of it. If you two are as good of friends as you say, then everything will be alright. There's always a chance she doesn't feel the same but the chance you two will stop being friends is so minuscule. Especially put effort in the 'way' you tell her. The moment it hits her will be an important one and really let her know how you feel about you two other than that too. Good luck and I wish your heart all the best. x
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