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writes:Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i dont know why but she is ignoring my messages if i say something like "hello" or "how are you" and she would only talk to me if we are in a party with other people on xbox live also the same for gaming if i ask her to play she says things like "im busy" but if she is with other people she used to invite me sometimes. also the slightest thing i did wrong and she raged at me. i mean i joke around alot and she hated it but when it is was someone else she didnt care also she only messaged me to moan about me. i dont understand what i have done wrong and have asked her many times but she just wont reply anyway today she removed me and i guess our friendship is now over. i always think about her and i really like her and it made me feel really bad when she was annoyed with me. i just want to know what i did that was so bad and why she now hates me. in a way i just want to forget her. as well as losing a friend and the girl i like i am ill at the moment and recently had surgery so this is the last thing i need. Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 And the fact you are disrespecting her wishes shows exactly the opposite of what you are saying. If you liked her, you would respect her wishes and move on.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (13 October 2012):
I did not think you were a creep before, but now I do. The reason is because she is not *acting up*. She does not like you, she has told you her feelings, and it is best to move on. The more you pursue this, the more she is going to find you offensive and bothersome. This is called "stalking" here in the U.S. Have you heard of it? If a girl or woman tells you she does not want to be your friend, she does not want to talk to you, or otherwise indicates this from her behavior...you stay away.
It is sad that when a girl shares her feelings with you and it does not match your qualifications, you consider it *acting up*. Stay away from her, or you will be asking for trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, first of all i never asked her for anything. i liked her and it was making me miserable because i have tried since i was very young to suppress all emotions and feelings and it was working until i met her. It sounds stupid but i did like her i knew it was wrong because she is 13 but i cant help what feelings i have and it was not easy to forget about it so i told her that i liked her to get it of my chest and the moment she said no i felt terrible because of the feeling but a few days after i was over it since i am not someone who gets easily attached to people or things and i just wanted us to be friends i never wanted us to be together. i don't care for relationships, to me they do not mean anything. i did not want her to say she likes me too. about a week after i told her we seemed to still be good friends like nothing had happened witch is how i treated it because it did not matter to me that i used to have a crush on her. all i want now is for her to talk to me and tell me why she is acting up now instead of forgetting my existence. also if anyone here thinks im some sort or creep. im not i liked her because she seemed to understand me and she was different in a good way not because of her appearance.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Cripes! She is 13! She isn't old enough or mature enough to understand fully what you meant, other then the fact that it either creeped her or or scared her off. SHE thought you were a friend, turns out you weren't, you were HITTING on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): It's hard when we tell someone you like them to take that back, it can also mean if the person isn't mature enough to realise that maybe friendship can be salvaged to always wonder what your intention is..You could as a last attempt say to her that you defo just want to be friends, and that's it, you will not expect anything from her otherthan that .. And see what she says . I don't see what she doing wrong she includes you in when she in a group but is weary because of what you told her, for one on one chat., which if you think about it you can get..Move on .. Text your male friends get them on Xbox that what I would be suggest if you were my son.The other thing would be your far too old for her at sixteen and she at thirteen? As a mother that would be my advice but you can try the apology route and see of she willing.. But I think you kinda burned your bridges by jumping in far to early, so only a kid...Take care and hope your on the mend
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (11 October 2012):
She's ignoring you because she told you she doesn't like you in a romantic way and you are still pursuing her. You need to respect her and listen to what she is saying.
Plus, she is only 13 years old. That means she's in junior high school. You're chasing after a junior high student and you could be intimidating her.
I am sorry that she does not like you, but you must stop chasing her and find someone else. She has told you her feelings now it is time to move on.
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