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writes:Hi there,I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years. I am from australia last night out of nowhere, the singer of one of my favorite bands (an american band who are quite famous and have played shows in australia with my boyfriends band) added me, and started a conversation instantly on Facebook chat, asking what i do for a living (graphic designer), asked if i wanted to design their bands tshirt ( i have a feeling he said that to be friendly). his band are coming in dec and he asked which show i was going to go to. he then asked for my mobile number, that didnt work so then he asked for my whatsapp which didnt work, then asked for my kik (free messaging service) since he lives in america and iam in australia it would be cheaper to chat. he was rather pushy in asking me for my number and even when he said goodbye he said, 'text me whenever ok?'. throughout this conversation i was not being flirty at all. also i know his facebook is a real account since my boyfriends band mates are friends with him, vise versa)i had a little fangirl moment, the singer of my favorite band talking to me and because of that i gave him my number. should i feel like i have done something wrong? the thing is, my profile picture was of me and my boyfriend when he added me. is he just being friendly? or should i discontinue talking to him? does he sound like one of those guys who like to chat up girls who are already taken?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 Instead of looking at this like he is interested in you romantically, you should look it for what it literally is. You are a graphic designer and he asked you to design something. I would think a member of a band (of all people) would have no fears about asking you out if that is what he really wanted. After all, these guys meet girls all over the world.
This is a great professional opportunity for you, and I would look at it as such. Don't read anything into it and hope there isn't anything more to it if you love your boyfriend.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 "also i know his facebook is a real account since my boyfriends band mates are friends with him, vise versa"
If so then this guy should know that you are a taken woman. If you are unsure about what signals you were sending out you can just inform him that you have a boyfriend next time you talk to him (if you end up talking to him again).
I do find it odd when strangers who you've never met in real life want to add you as friends. I don't really understand why anyone would be interested in doing that, unless he just looked at your picture and thought you were hot enough to have sex with casually. Other than that, why would he add you?
Or, maybe he knows you are with your boyfriend, knows you have common "friends" on facebook, knows your profession already, and wants you to do some graphics for him for free. Even though their band is popular doesn't mean he can't be broke.
Just be cool about this, I'm sure he knows you're taken for. Why he added you and asked for your number I have no idea, but time will show.
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