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writes:I'm a male virgin. I've never kissed a girl, I've never been on a date and I've never had a girlfriend. I've been told by numerous women that I'm not handsome or as some put it, ugly, even though I thought I was average looking. Guess I can appreicate their honesty.Anyways I've never been one to dwell on being a virgin. I just thought it'll happen, and hopefully it would be with somebody who cared about me and I cared about them.However I feel that as I get older, it'll only get harder. And I'm trying to remain realistic and realize that no woman would want anything to do with a male virgin, espically if she's experienced.So now I'm thinking that maybe I should visit a prostitute. But I don't know.What Would You Suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Listen, you shouldn't care what other people think of you, who has to live with you? You do! It's your life, I know it's easy for me to say it, but people who put you down like that really aren't worth the time you spend thinking about them. You need to respect yourself, not lose faith and turn the other cheek to people who have no integrity. I don't even know you but I already think more of you than those women. Listen to your heart and never forget that in this world everyone has a chance to find true love. There's someone out there for you, someone who will love you for who you are and not what you look like, someone who will make love to you because they can't think of anyone else they'd rather be with. Just hang in there.
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Actually, a lot of women I've talked to enjoyed the idea of taking a man's virginity. A friend of mine bragged about how she'd had two boyfriends and took the virginity of both. It seems that nerdy girls are more likely to feel this way, so if you already like nerdy girls, you're in luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): You can't be serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Not sure if you've done the following:
1. Lower your standards
2. Improve yourself
- Groom yourself as best as you can (cleanliness, haircut and clean clothes go A LONG way)
- Exercise, this will make YOU feel good (VERY important)
- Practise speaking, you want to try to sound somewhat confident
3. Google 'Mystery Method' for some tips on picking up girls, it works
4. DONT GIVE UP!
5. Relax and don't try so hard, women can sense desperation and they don't like it (IME)
Remember! There's a lot of average guys and ugly guys with decent looking to stellar hot girlfriends out there. But if you're just after some ass you don't have to go for decent looking even. Swallow your pride, and maybe some whiskey! Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Please don't. I am 20 and just lost my virginity and all the big firsts. You are too young. You will put a lot of future girls off by having seen a prostitute. I understand if you were like 30 but at your age range? come on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): No No No!!!
that's the worst thing you could possibly do
as much as it sounds like the best option it really isn't
if i started dating a man that at one point slept with a prostitute i would be appalled..
that's just me
think of the diseases you could get!
even if you didn't get any STI's you sure in heck want to test for it after wards and the person you are about to sleep with after (could be the woman or man you could be spending the rest of your life with)
would probably want you to take a test just to be sure for there own safety
as much as you think you need to loose it you don't
wait for the special someone to bounce into your life and make it special for yourself and for them
how proud of yourself would you be if you told people "yea i lost it to a prostitute"
sounds really sleazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Dont visit a prostitute. It's not worth it. One day you will meet a girl who loves you and won't mind your a virgin. Just be patient. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): youre 18-21, I have read questions on here about 28yr old male virgins! I dont think you should go to a prostitute for a few reasons 1.] All they want is money [I think that trading money for sex would make you feel worse because you know thats just what they want] 2.]They might have STD's 3.] It wont be as special
Im sure that you will find a nice, lovely woman one day that will love you and you love her back. Dont rush it, dont sweat it. In the meantime just go out and start talking to some girls.
P.S, and any girls that call you ugly are just shallow, a person shouldnt be judged by how they look. I wish you the best of luck. :]
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (19 August 2010):
 If that's your real age you hardly have anything to worry about just yet. Don't visit a prostitute. You won't feel good about it in the long run. It will be awkward, and won't do any wonders for your self-esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): i don't have expernice in that put i strongly disagree because there is a stronger chance u can get a diease from a prostitute then a person that is not a prositute.
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Stop making it a big deal, thats what drive women away. We dont care if you are or not. If you act desprate we will think that that is the only thing you want from us. Sex isnt what makes a persone, you are what you make yourself.
I have a friend who just lost his virginity at 20 years old, he found someone who realy cared about him and she did not care if he was or wasnt. (she was not a virgin btw) He only found her after he stopped making it a big deal. So I agree with Vintage, just relax and focus on a girls personality instead of having sex with her.
Hop this helps! :)
PS: The meaning of *good looking guy* is diffrent for all of us, so dont worry about what someone has tolled you in the past. Someone els will think diffrently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Don't visit a prostitute. When you find a woman you want to be with, she will not mind if you tell her you are a virgin, but if you tell her you lost your virginity to a prostitute that would seem very odd.
Lots of my friends between 18-21 are still virgins, and if anything,its something to respect rather than be ashamed of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I think you just need to be patient, I believe that there is someone perfect out there for everyone, and soon that right woman will find you. She wont care if your a virgin, she will love you no matter what. Just be patient.
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reader, rossacelt  +, writes (19 August 2010):
I think you just need to start talking to women abit more,you shouldnt have to pay to lose your virginity.Youll get there man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I think you need to relax. Women won't mind at all that you are a virgin.
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