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*igers09
writes:Well, I am 19 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is 21, and we have been dating for 2 years, and altogether I've known him for about 5 years. Recently we opened up and told "dark secrets" He told me about how he use to be friends with this guy and one night they got drunk and his friend went down on him. I feel really silly asking for help, but this was before we met. I just feel he's not telling me the truth or maybe I'm just judgmental? He said the guy tried to get him to date him. But my boyfriend felt wrong and ended the friendship and haven't talked to him since. What should I do? Or don't do anything? I mean he trusted me enough to tell me, I just wish I knew what was going on in his head. -Very confused tiger =(
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (3 December 2010):
 I feel this type of thing happen much more then we would like to admit! Plenty of men has had some type of sexual experiment with another male in SOME type of fashion! However they very seldom find somebody whom they can talk to about it. I was shocked to find out I had so...many male friends that had been abused as young boys by men! That was something I thought was done to little "GIRLS" Not true. Does that make them gay? NO. Does it make them have GAY TENDENCIES? ABSOLUTELY NOT! It makes them a VICTIM of sexual abuse. In your friends case,they both had been drinking? Is that a good EXCUSE for they're behavior? It happens...I can't judge him. I can say this His PENIS wasn't just POKING out..it was a process to get to that point before the actual act could go down!!! LOL! So..that's just food for thought! That takes me to what Bee4ever said " He wanted to gage your reaction" I totally agree w/that!!!
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reader, Bee4ever +, writes (3 December 2010):
You have a wonderful boyfriend who's willing to share something most men wouldn't admit. If he was gay he would prob keep this secret to himself. The other side of the coin is that he may have told you to gage your reaction. Either way, move past it and keep your relationship open and honest. Only time will tell if there's something more to the story but don't jump to conclusions for no reason.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 dont worry about it hun. obviously you guys have a good relationship with eachother. he trusts you enough to tell you something that no man would ever admit to. yes it happened but he ended the friendship when his friend pressured him for more. what a man does when he's drunk isnt always him. it wasnt him going down on another dude right? and besides women experiment all the time without being actually les so why freak out? its all good! lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): All sorts of stuff happens when people get drunk. Your friend might have a problem with alcohol, and may not be ready to admit it.
He could also be closeted homosexual and won't share it or act on it unless intoxicated, and you could be married to him for 25 years and not know that he was meeting men for sex under bridges and in restrooms every weekend.
Bottom line, don't assume you know everything yet, his initial opening up may just have been baby steps in that direction.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 You dont "do" anything, he is still a straight man, he had one night and it dont sound like he liked it much so i dont think there is anything for you to worry about and like others said i think you should feel honoured that he feels comfortable enough to tell you that
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): You should be flattered! He shared something a straight guy could potentially find embarrassing.
Also he was drunk which means he had a diff perspective on the situation. Don't worry about it
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Lots of guys experiment with other guys without being gay. I think he may still be embarrassed about it, unsure about it, but I think it's a HUGE point for him that he shared this with you. HUGE.
honestly, I would let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): he was embarrassed. he was drunk so it doesnt mean anything. maybe you should talk to him and laugh it off and forget about it.
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