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*nacks12
writes:I have a strange situation that i can't talk to anybody about and I dont know what to do.I have been married for a few years now, to a gorgeous woman. I however, am not the best looking man in the world. I have always been self concious about my looks. I'm not delusional and I know a part of the reason she married me is because I am successful and have money. She does not work, as she is a housewife. Our sex life has never been that great. I am self concious about my penis size and wonder if I am good enough to please her. Sex has become less and less frequent, now she tells me that she just doesnt feel like it. What 27 year old woman doesnt feel like sex!? Now she just lets me masturbate in front of her. IT has been months since we have had sex. I had i suspicion that she might be cheating on me while I am at work. So I placed hidden cameras around the house. My suspicions were true, as the tapes showed that she is having sex with SEVERAL diffrent men. I became very upset at the sight of my wife with another man. However,something strange happened. I became extremely aroused watching the tapes. Everyday when i come home, I would watch the new tape of my wife with a man. Watching these tapes have aroused me more than anything else in years. I have masturbated to them. I am going through a roller coaster of emotions. I am upset, angry, yet turned on.I have come to the realization, that i can never sexually please my wife the way she wants. I love her very much and I dont want her to leave me. I would do anything to keep her happy. I decided that I am okay with her affairs. My question is... should I tell her I know and that Im okay with it? Or should i just keep things secret and not tell her. I feel so ashamed, but i love her, and dont want to lose her. This is obviously something that i cant talk to family or friends about... I dont know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): Well I'm guessing we all get our kicks differently.
So OP thank u for the update: I have read of husbands like you (men who get off being humiliated, voyeuristic cuckolds??? I hope my terminology is correct???)
So you just watch your beautiful wife having sex with other men? And she doesn't have sex with you at all? And she only married you because you have money? And you allow her to do whatever she wants and you have begged her not to leave you? All I have to say : to each his own!!!!
Phew!!!
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reader, N91  +, writes (17 March 2012):
 Dude, you're being used. Have some self respect. Leave this woman and find somebody who loves YOU and not your money. You're being treated like a doormat and it's frankly quite embarrasing.
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reader, knacks12 +, writes (16 March 2012):
knacks12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's been a while, and I thought I'd update for those of you who responded to me. I apreciate your thoughts and suggestions.
It's been over a year since all this happened and I am still with my wife. I told her, I knew about the affairs and that I am okay with it. I told her that I love her and just want her to be happy and begged her not to leave me. She says she loves me too but just needs to have sex with other men. We don't have sex anymore at all, but I am okay with that.. she lets me watch her with other men, and that is good enough for me. I know this is not conventional and not what you wanted to hear, but I am happy and she is happy.
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reader, Bee4ever  +, writes (24 November 2010):
I worried about you. What has been going on? Have things gotten better?
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 She married you for yo money.now shes sleeping with Different men in your house but not you and you still ok with it?come on,you are being used here.leave her and find yourself a worthy woman who'll respect,love and appriciate you!
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reader, Bee4ever +, writes (3 November 2010):
I think you are cheating yourself the most by not loving and respecting yourself. A relationship is more than having a trophy wife. It doesn't matter that you don't consider yourself the most good-looking or the best lover out there because someone out there will. You have an empty marriage with someone that is using you. Your happiness should be worth more to you. I know right now you find the tapes arousing because of your lack of sex life but keep in mind that your wife is not even remotely respecting you by entertaining all of these different men. I urge you to take up a hobby to meet different people. Hang out with your friends that really care about you. You sound like a nice guy and deep down you know you deserve better. Good luck.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Is that really fair to you? She continuously lies to you, she betrayed you, she took your love for granted. She does not love you at all. Why remain with her simply because your are aroused by her sexual affairs? There is nothing to be found in this relationship except for something I can only describe as deeply pornographic.
Tell her you know about her cheating but do yourself a favor and leave her. Find someone who will respect you and love your for who you are and not what you have.
I hope that helps.
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