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writes:I started seeing this guy 2 months ago. We have an intense relationship. We have emailed and talked for hours every day since we met. It's not all sexual, sometimes we just have fun and hang out. I commited a white collar crime out of depression. It's been 2 years but I know the case has not gone away. I owe more than $150K. An amount not easily repaid. I'm attractive and in the past the guys I told were not put off but I think their motives were sexual. I have a son, which this new guy has opened his arms and heart to as well. Every day I'm with him I feel like decieving him more since we spend so much time together. I'm wondering when a good time to bring this up is. I fear I might do prison time since I can't repay and lose custody of my son. This new guy I'm sure will not have any part of this if he finds out. I'm scared to tell him because I like him. When is the right time to tell him? Will he leave? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bee4ever +, writes (19 April 2010):
Bee4ever is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou to everyone that responded. After reading your responses I summed up the courage to tell him what I had done and gave full disclosure. He responded in a kind and caring way, held me when I cried. He said it doesn't change how he feels about me because he knows I am a good person that was in a bad place in my life and it's not the person I am now. I never would have had the nerve if not for the many viewpoints. Thankyou again, a big weight was removed today with your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Sadly, criminals who commit white collar crimes seldom go to prison in the US. Odds are good you'll get probation and the people that you stole from will be the victims. $150,000 of theft is beyond desperation, as few need that much money to survive... sounds like once you started you couldn't stop.
Tell him what you did- maybe he'll stick by you, but since I know several people who's futures were ruined by receptionist's stealing them blind, I wouldn't.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 April 2010):
You have to tell him sooner rather than later. The price of committing a crime is that you may end up being seen as a bad apple. I know it was out of depression, but he needs to know because if you don't tell him and the case comes up, he's more likely to be angry. You need to talk to him and just be honest. What he does after that is up to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): It is difficult to determine exactly the legal status of your case because you did not exactly mention much. However, if it is still possible I would try to cut a deal with the prosecution to avoid any and all jail time.
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