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writes: I know it is hard to describe ,what I'm trying to tell. I'm not even hoping for full understanding.But ,I'm hoping someone maybe familiar with such an issue.My problem is ,that my life has sooo much horrible things in it, that even the therapist feels, that he can't get it. And it is not because Im talking nonsense, but when I'm telling the truth.It sounds unbelievable.. The question is, when your life seems to be out hand , on the level, that nobody can get it. And they always try to say why all those things happens,but they can't get it,because I know they are nice, but its hard to believe it. So I have decided, I can't even tell my problems anymore,but I just want to know where can you turn with almost impossible to understand problems? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): If you are religious at all, or even curious about religion, maybe this would be a good time to start going to church and talk to a priest, minister, rabbi, whoever.
If you are 100% against doing that, the only thing I can suggest is to find a new therapist.
Good luck, I know it is no fun having a life that sucks. (((hugs)))
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): well my problems are,
-I have 3 children, 2 of them are addicted to heroin, since they were 15.. nothing helps them .yet there is no other addiction in the family..
-my husband suddenly become impotent ,no medical reason found
he was only 43
-what ever we try to do to change thing just get worst,
overdose,crime, horror
-my 3. child is very ill... very rare problem, and tried to commit suicide several times.
There is no mental illness in the family otherwise.
My house burned down ,a few moth ago and all my documents in it....
i had a car crash someone run into me at the red light.
people blame me for drug addict children ,yet they have no idea how much we have done for them.
We are honest, sober responsible married m0re than 20 years
years.
no family wants to support us,because its so much they can't believe there is no one to blame..
the list goes on..... and i know you don't believe me do you?
the list goes on... several smaller ones....
See,its really wacky. Do you have an advice?
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reader, jasmin nisar  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 there is always a awnser to a question and always a solution 2 a problem i can see u dont want to disclose your problems anymore but keeping them boxed up inside will not help u it will just make it worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): How can she turn to God ,if she is not religious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): I agree that you shouldn't just take one therapist's word for it. That one might not be able to help you, but there's always another one who will. Talk to your doctor (if you've already done that, talk to him/her again) and get a referral. You may want to consider an antidepressant if you haven't done so. A year on one can make a heap of difference (it did for me--it literally changed my brain chemistry, long after I stopped taking it, making me a happier person). It was only much later that I could look back and think "Wow, was I ever down!"There are also 24-hour crisis lines that you can call. They're usually located at the front of the telephone book.I hope this helps! And, even if you're not religious (which I'm not), still it wouldn't hurt to talk to a minister, pastor, priest or rabbi. It could be very comforting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I know what you feel.People just can't get it ,if it didn't happen to them! Try not to focus on your problems all the time, take some small brakes away from your problems! Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): God is always there for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): Your therapist is terrible.
Contact your local association of psychotherapists or your family doctor or a friend or a priest that you know and ask them for a suggestion of a therapist with skills. Any therapist that tells you that your problems are beyond their scope is no therapist and are most likely incompetent. Instead of telling you they cannot help you they should at least recommend someone more experienced that can help you through your problems.
Unless you were picked up by an alien from alpha centauri who probed you in is spaceship your problem is not beyond understanding. You need to write down what it is your problems are and take the account to a competent therapist to help you sort through your incredible problems.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 December 2009):
Any therapist that tells you have a lot of problems and should set up a direct debit with him is just milking you for cash.
Find a new therapist, or better yes, just write down a bullet point list of all your problems, stick it to the wall and then start working your way through them completely unemotionally, and working on practical solutions as if they were some one else's problems.
When you stop seeing the whole big mess and freaking out about it, and start breaking down all the little bits then you may find it's actually not that bad.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (11 December 2009):
Why don't you try telling us the details and we will try to understand... You can post anonymously here and we have heard some terrible things. Just this week we have dealt with a 13 year old being raped, a woman finding out she is married to a rapist who raped their children, a step father who tried to make his step son's wife pregnant while he watched.... Click on your original post to update it and tell us your story. But if you don't want to, the only advice I can give you is: you can't change what has happened in your past, but you can take the pain and transform it into power for a better future for yourself.... All the best.
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 I know it can be hard when you feel like there is no one you can turn to. Do you have a church you attend? I'm not trying to preach here but honestly I find in times like these I just tell GOD and it all seems to work out; and HE won't go blabbing it out to anyone.
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