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writes:hey there. I'm a 15 year old girl and I just found out that I'm pregnant. I'm preggers with my ex boyfriends baby who my parents forbayed me to see a long time ago. my ex boyfriend want anything to do with me or a baby. I've decided I'm going to keep it and that I'm going to go get a job and try to make a life for myself. but idk how to tell my parents. pleaseee help.
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reader, miss d  +, writes (21 October 2009):
 hi i got pregnant at 16 i was in collage and had a future planned but it is not as easy as it sounds i have a partner i have bin with him for 3 years and we struggle to do it all i had to quit collage and stop my future palns for a good year now and its going to be longer and if your on your own its going to be harder for you . everyone thats a teenager thinks its a good thing to get pregnant and have a child but its not as good as it sound.
yes you give birth and see them learn to walk talk and all other things and it is amazing to see that . butu probably wont be able to keep your job and you lose alot of contact with your friends cause there going off partying and doing other things wen your at home with baby so you cant go with them and most probably they dont wanna stay in bein bored all the time with you . and once you have had the child it might be harder to get a boyfriend as you wont be going out that often and people your age that are boys wont wanna be tied down with a baby .
so just think about it maybe you be giving the child up for adoption for some people who will be able to take care of the baby properly and that can afford to . it will be hard to do it but better that way and then you can have fun wile your still young .
and your parents just get them together and sit them down tell them you have something to tell them and they may not like it and ask them to go easy on you before you tell them . then just get it over and done with they will probably be dissapointed and upset and angry at firs but give them time they will calm down and talk to you about it but they will be there for you no matter what even if it dosent seem like it at first .
hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): You need to go to planned parenthood!
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (20 October 2009):
 There really is no easy way. You need to either tell your parents straight out or tell a trusted adult that can intervene for you and talk to your parents with you, like an aunt.
At this point you need to start getting pre-natal care for your baby as well as yourself. AND your parents need to be aware that they will have another mouth to feed.
I know you have every intention of caring for this child but lets face facts you can't do it alone, your parents are not finished raising you.
Please don't wait, the sooner you tell them the sooner you can start to manage your life and prepare for the future.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2009):
First of all, you need to choose the easier of your parents to speak to. I had a friend in the same situation, and she decided to take her best friend along and speak to her mum (because her mum was the easier of the two). So get a great friend to support you, sit the easier of your two parents down and just say you're pregnant. No doubt you will take a lot of heat for it, but it's also important you're relaxed because your stress will affect the baby. You could also speak to a doctor, because they will be able to help you as well. Good luck.
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