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writes:Ok, it was mothers day on Sunday and I didn't get anything for my Step-mother. Not because she did something to me but because I just didn't think it was that important. Plus I don't live with my parents anymore and I very rarely talk to them on the phone.I haven't spoken to my Step-mother for a while.So I didn't think it would be a big deal if I didn't do anything for it. Big mistake. My dad just called me to ask me what happened and I said I forgot. He said I'd have to call her and make it up to her. But I don't know how. My older brother and sister sent her flowers and everything and now I look bad. Plus when it was Father's day I got presents for my dad, so it looks really bad. I won't see her until next week when we'll all be in Spain on holiday. Things are going to be awkward now. What should I do? Any suggestions?
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reader, agony aunt j +, writes (20 March 2007):
 i can understand why you might feel awkward, and so might she, but as bad as you may feel just say you're sorry and didn't mean to hurt her feelings. buy her something nice, like maybe a small gift and some flowers, etc, and explain you didnt mean anything by it. show you care about her, because she could get the impression you dont like her as shes "only" your step mother.
and even though your brother and sister got her stuff, dont let that bother you. you didn't mean any harm and atleast now she knows that right?! better late than never, as they say!
hope it turns out ok!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Do you make anything yourself personally? Compose or write? Something that is made by hand is always well-received and appreciated. I still like getting mix CD's from my kids, it keeps me in touch with their musical tastes. You could ask your sister and other female family members to take her for a girls only shopping/lunch out with you as your tribute to her while you are on holidays - (and if you're good at fibbing, you could say that you'd had it planned the whole time...). Just apologize profusely when you see her, tell her how glad you are to spend time with her again and explain that you had not intentionally forgotten - you were wrapped up in school, etc. Expect to repeat it once or twice and all will be forgiven. And where were your brother and sister? My kids even phone to tell me - "Hey - Call your Mom - It's her Birthday". Let them know that you'd appreciate a "head's-up" the next time. If they're already on the phone with the florist, they can call you too so that you don't get dropped-in-the-soup! No doubt they have had to hear the drama and wouldn't mind helping you out with a friendly reminder. You can also buy a small Birthday Calendar - no years - just days - so that you are reminded and all of them are in one place. Hope this helped you out, Good Luck and Have a Great Trip!
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Well, if you haven't seen your stepmother in a long time then I do wonder what is the big deal about it.
Get her something small (a box of chocolates or something) and tell her you forgot about mother's day. Feel free to let her know that the fact that you forgot to pay her attention on a day which is in essence there to make people buy stuff for their mothers doesn't mean that you don't appreciate her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Tell her that you are sorry that you didn't send the card in time for mother's day but that you wanted to give it to her in person... Get her something simple but nice so it doesn't look like you are trying tooo hard to make up for not sending her anything in the first place! Make a book/Dvd/perfume something that you know she will like...
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