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writes:A few months ago after I got together with this guy while in South Africa for a few months (didn't have sex with him), we were laying in bed just kissing, making out and talking about lots of different things, deep things (his father who died- both our fathers were very good friends up until his father's death). Well, we talked about a bunch of things, and definitely had a good time making out. What I thought was kind of weird after I thought about it, is that he asked me if I would ever have an abortion? This may sound very naive of me, but would he have suggested we have sex had I said yes (I would have an abortion)?
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reader, agony aunt j  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 It sounds to me like you really like this guy - you said you were talking about deep things which is good in a relationship. you should always understand each other. perhaps he was asking you this not because he wanted to rush you into it but because he was wondering when you do have sex what precautions would be taken? some men dont like to use condoms,so maybe he wanted to know what you'd do in the situation. talk to him about it, though, its clear you can have responsible conversations together. ask him what he meant but try not to make it into a big deal, just be honest with him and explain how it made you feel.hope all goes well:)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
If you were talking about really deep things together, maybe he was just trying to keep the conversation at that level. It is a really deep and personal question... and if that's the kind of mood that was set, the question makes sense to me. My gut tells me that he was just trying to ask you a question rather than get into your pants, but if it was out of the blue... maybe that was his intention.
If you had a really nice time with him, don't let this question ruin it.
xxIndia
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