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writes:is it wrong to feel that there is no point to life? I sometimes feel kinda down i guess because, i don't have a great social life, partly because at school i hang between two groups and am consequently not as close to everyone in those two groups. And people say that things get better, but, and i know i sound pessimistic, what if it doesn't? The reason why i don't have really close friendships in one group at school is because of a change in friendship groups a few years ago and i still haven't settled in any group, even though i'm now in my senior year. I can't wait to finish school, but it's quite likely things won't get better. I think not fitting in entirely has made me more shy even though i'm usually a bubbly, extroverted person. I hate being shy but i can no longer help it, i feel like someone i'm not and i feel like i'll always be this way now and things won't improve because of it. Am i right in thinking so?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Feelings are never wrong they are feelings. But acting apon bad feeling are wrong. So no it is not wrong to feel that there is not point to life. It seems a lot of people have or are feeling this way and they are right to feel they way they do. it will get better you just have to push through it. evaluate yourself and make a reason for yourself. I guess the words live and let live are the best aproach here. But the meaning behind this is that you have to live. I know how It feels when you do not let yourself live. it gives you a very deep depression. just getting over the pain you feel by fighting it is the only thing i could say to do because that is what i am doing right now. finding the right people that make you feel happy just being happy that is what counts but you have to do it in moderation that way you are happy all the time and not wasted by mistakes. feeling happy is the only thing that you need in this world all the drama and stuff will come but that stuff is only there to make you stronger just keep fighting it you will find what you need want or desire in the end. How do i know Because that is what i am doing right now trying to live.
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reader, agony aunt j  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 i have been in this situation and its horrible isnt it. you just dont feel like you fit in, you make friends with one group and for a while feel as though you really fit in but then you realise you dont. then it happens with another group but again you feel you're not meant to be there. It's hard because if youre constantly with new people you're always the new one there - you dont always know whats going on with people and know them as well as the others in the group do, so therefore you feel kind of left out.but believe me, a lot of the time they dont think of you as a tag along or anything, they just see you as a mate. alot of it's all in your head and you realise that sometimes you do have a good day where you feel like you fit in fine. the only advice i can really give you is that when you do get the right friends, the ones who love you for you, keep hold of them! dont let em go, because they're for life. and aswell, as you get older you'll begin to understand that people get more mature and accept you for who you are, so you'll fit in just fine! Just try to focus on your studies and dont let this rough patch bring you down - be your normal bubbly self like you said you can be and if people dont like that side of you then thats their loss. You're special in your own way and i can honestly say i think this is just a stage - you'll get through it.
just never change youself for anyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter was just the same at your age, made worse by the fact that we changed regions four times and they had to change school, My son was great, he is a good mixer but my daughter hated it and she did suffer a lot! Once she got to college and had a steady group of good friends she settled down, we didn't move house anymore and she became more stronger. Sometimes school can be the worst kind of environment for shy people. You may find it a lot better once you leave, but don't weigh everything on that. I'm sure that your life will get better in the future. Once you get some good friends together and you can form a circle of mates, life will get better, i am sure.
Take care
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reader, lamo +, writes (12 March 2007):
 no everyone has felt like that. i have but. you got to go on everyone lives 4 a reason. you got to wait to c what coming round the next coner. i hated when people say that to me but it is true. i took alot of wrong coners and still am. if you r feeling really really down think of it this way there is only one way you can go that is up. hang in there life will get better you will find something that will make life wroth living. i feel like i dont fit in with my friend a have loads of then but always feel like i am the black sheep of them mainly coz im a big girl and the rest are skinny. but i got this friend who will do anything for me and she love me for who i am. when you leave school you will find that you friends change like when you go to college or work and you will feel different. things do change
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 I can't promise you that things will get better, but I can say that it's likely that they will get better.
Let's put it this way: When you go to school you're thrown together with a bunch of people who are there because they have to be there, and most of them will probably not share your interests.
When you go to work or university, you will be with people who have at least one thing in common with you: they feel strongly about what they're studying or working with. It's easier to find friends there.
Plus, by the time you start uni/college/working the people around you will be a bit more interesting; you will be older and have more experience of life and you will find a different perspective on life. And there's more space for a person to be a bit different and not try to be cool or like the rest. Maybe the locker room drama and who's hanging with whom is not that important anymore, and you will have space for other things in your life.
If you want to find new friends, maybe you should try a summer painting course (if you're interested in painting, that is) or go for a language trip (study Spanish in Mexico, for example). It's a great way to meet new people.
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