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writes:hey this is a very wide question but hopefully itll mean i get more peoples opinions on it!! what you think happens when people die, is there life after death?my dad died recently and i cant help thinking whats happened to him so i'd like to know what everyone thinks happensthanks so much xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Clarey +, writes (19 February 2008):
 Of course there is something after death. If you think of the millions and billions of possibilities of what that could mean, saying there is nothing is just one of them and so is completely unscientific. If you imagine yourself as one cell on this planet could you have the imagination to think up all the rest of what is here? That is what we are, cells in the universe. Whatever exists over and above us is so huge and incredible that we can't think what it is. We all die and we all go to the same place. There is nothing to be afraid of. Wherever your Dad is, is where you will be. He created your life and you are linked to each other by that life force and energy. That is what I think. God bless.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (29 May 2007):
Hi! Is there life after death? I'll not talk about the Bible, Although it does have many good points when it comes to understanding death. I'll not say that I,m sorry that you Father passed away, as that would be a lie. Just am sorry that he isn't present in you life. Yet he really is, but you just can't see him in his Spirit Form. However having been beyond what we call physical. this I do know, that your Father is more alive now in the Spirit World, than he ever was in this old world. I know having been there, and also talking to a lovely lady from that Spirit World. She Was An unhappy Spirit, who just couln't let go of things of this world. Then one gets to hang around this old world for a while longer, till we can let go of our materialism. I too was more alive out of my physical body, than this one of flesh and bood. And Yes, You will be together in the Spiritual World of Now, And our Pysical Death is but the doorway into That wonderful eternity of togetherness.
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reader, agony aunt j +, writes (18 March 2007):
 hi sweetie. to start off i'm sorry about your dad. i'm lucky enough to not have really lost anyone apart from my dog so i cant say i know what you're going through. Also, i cant tell you what to believe. But i can tell you what i think.
i dont think i believe in god and all that stuff, you know, jesus rising from the dead, ect. but for some reason i do believe in an afterlife. i have experienced myself strange things, like hearing footsteps by my room and everything falling off my table at once(very spooky!) but whether this is coincidence i dont know. I dont think there is a hell, i'm not into all that paranormal suff where peoples souls get trapped! but i do think there is a heaven - maybe not one high up in the clouds, where there are angels in white dresses with halos on their heads. but i do think that your father is probably watching over you right now. just because you lost him doesn't mean there aren't any good things in the world. i think you're dad is anywhere you want him to be, and as long as you hold his memory he will ALWAYS be in your heart. you might not have a religious faith, but never lose faith in him and he'll always be around, even though you cant see him.
Be strong, hun, you'll get through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): I wrote about the Judaeo-Christian understanding of death. It was meant to be of comfort, strength and confidence to her in her time of terrible grief.
'Nuff said.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I have faith that there is an afetrlife. In my job I have been privileged to witness the passing of many people and whilst it is heartbreaking for the family and sometimes we carers, it never 'feels' like the end.
I understand how hurt you are about losing your Dad, I lost my Dad very suddenly 4 years ago and it still grips me now. I cope by knowing I will see him again.
This is my belief and it is what helps me and gets me through. I don't believe in the 'fire and brimstone' God, I believe in a higher spirit who cares for and nutures his 'flock'.
If you believe you will meet your dad again then you will.
I hope the pain gets less and I hope that you will soon remember the good times without tears of sadness. I can still hear a song on the radio that reminds me of him and it makes me cry beacuse I miss him so much. But I can guide my thoughts to remembering 'good' stuff.
It is hard. I hope you cope.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 March 2007):
 Hi
I cant believe that some of you are quoting the bible and that there is a hell.
This poor little soul has lost her dad, and needs some comfort.
Just how bad does someone have to be to go to hell by the way (what a load of rubbish).
You just remember him as he was, and the love you have will live on, he will always be in your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Even in physics it does state "energy does not die, it just trasforms".
So there is a continuance.
I do believe that we are more than the physical body. I do believe that we are spiritual beings on Earth to experience mortal experiences and not mortal beings experiencing spiritual experiences.
We are made up of a physical body that is mortal and will grow old, get sick, and die. We are also made of a spirit that was formed from energy from a Greater Power of Intelligence and that our Spirits are indestructible; will live on forever.
I believe and do so with great conviction that your Father live on and is amongst loved ones, still living and growing and learning.
We all have purpose. We have greatness in us all and can do many a good things.
There is a God, a Father in Heaven that desires us to be happy and beyond temporal happiness.
This God is loving and merciful and is good. He is to be respected and loved and in turn he gives us daily blessings.
There is a life after this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Posting biblical text about salvation to a teenage girl who is mourning the loss of her dad? That is despicable behaviour - you should be ashamed of yourself.
To the question asker, I would think and talk to him in your thoughts. I lost a best friend a few years ago and I personally felt a lot of reassurance by feeling that his presence lives on, it is a very comforting view that is personal to me.
Things will feel less painful. Just keep in there and don't be scared to talk about your dad to your family or friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): I too am sorry about your dad.
The Judaeo-Christian understanding of death is that for the ancient Jewish people God "breathed" life into a human (and all other) beings. When death occurs, the breath stops. You die completely. No concept of a soul that lives on.
the teaching about souls basically comes from Greek and Roman beliefs who saw death as "releasing" the immortal soul from the body. The concept of an immortal soul does not exist in Judaism.
However, for many Christians (and others) the idea is that God created us and gave us life in the first place, and that what He once created, He can and will RE-CREATE in another body. (Not talking about reincarnation here). The emphasis is that it is all up to God and God's immeasurable love for us, so that we are to "rest" in that love, and to trust. We (I) trust that those we have known and loved are somehow closer to God in a way that is very different to the life we have now in our bodies, but that we are loved and are safe. The promise of the Resurrection of Jesus by God - and we are not talking about the resuscitation of a corpse - is that what God did for Jesus, God will, out of his infinite loving compassion, do for us.
Perhaps it might help you to think of the love your father -and your mother - had and still have for you, beginning to relax into trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): other may argue, but there is a heaven. and well, a hell. i really really reallly dont want to tell you that your father is in hell. and i dont have the right to say that, because i dont know. but just let me say this:
John 3:3: Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
----To be in heaven, it says, you must be saved, or born again.
Ephesians 2:8 and 9: For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.
----To be saved, it doesnt include being good or doing good works. doing good doesnt hurt and is a nice gesture, but it wont help you any bit to get into heaven.
Isiah 53: 5 and 6: But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
----God sent his son into the world to die for us and upon him were our sins laid. so instead of always confessing our sins to a priest like Catholics do, all we have to do is trust in the Lord and our sins: past & future, are forgiven and put on him.
John 3:16: For God so loved the world he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life.
----All we have to do is trust in the Lord and you will be in heaven forever.
I hope this helps you understand the afterlife, and maybe even where your father is. by the way, im very sorry about your father, i know how you feel.
if you or anyone else reading this has any questions please please email me:
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reader, stina  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Actually - I just changed my mind...if you want to visit the discussion and debate sites, by all means I think you should do that. It might help you to come to a decision in what you are as far as religion/nonreligion/philosophies are concerned. ^_^ (Just remember to fact check and read any sources cited by anyone!)
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reader, Kurt +, writes (28 February 2007):
 By the laws of the universe energy never stops. Like a light from a star can be seen here on earth a million years away, after it has burnt out. If you believe your soul to be energy that fuels your life then by those laws it goes on.
So if the laws of nature support the idea of life after death, to be atheist (and to believe dead is dead) is not to understand the basics of science.
As to the realm of what religions teach about the dead they vary from one to pray for your dead family members all the way to being joined together for all eternity.
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reader, stina +, writes (28 February 2007):
Hi Anonymous,
It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks when it comes to something as personal as what you believe as far as religion (and all the things that go with it) are concerned. What matters is that you have researched and found an answer that you are comfortable with. Perhaps instead of hear what people have to say, you need to read up on religions and non religions to see what fits your lifestyle, etc. Just make sure what you read comes from a credited source (not an internet discussion board or debate site). Maybe stop by your local bookstore or library and take a look around the Religion and Philosophy sections.
Take care.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Both my parents have died, so I kind of know how it feels. If you think about it we each hold a tremendous amount of energy in our brains and bodies. This is what I think of as the soul. When we die the energy has to go somewhere. Where it goes is a mystery but I believe it's in the ether in some form. If you need the energy of the person you loved then I think it finds a way to come back to you, whether it's as a bird, a moth or a feeling. I believe that energy is always there for you. There's been a lot of research into what happens to energy on the planet and there's some evidence to show that it's still around when people die. Far too complicated to explain here, but a comforting thought. I believe that the spirit (or energy) of my parents is out there and that there's a connection between my energy and theirs, even if I can't always tell. I hope this makes sense!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Sorry to hear about the loss of your father. When we die the only part of us that stays alive is our soul. We could come back as another person or animal (reincarnation) but we stay in heaven or hell (depending on how we were in our former life) until we are sent down to earth again. If you were sent to hell after death then you'll come back with a bad life with lots of problems but if we in heaven then you get a better life. There is a queue in both heaven and hell which means that everyone has to wait their turn. The longer you've been in heaven or hell the shorter your life until you are put in another (whether you are going to be a person or an animal). People in heaven get to watch their family and friends live through life meaning that your dad will be watching over you.
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reader, CherryVanilli  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 when one dies, his spirit goes up & his body is left to decay in the earth...
when his spirit goes up, everything he's ever done in his life is written in a "book" since the day he was born, till the day he dies, & if he's been doing good deeds in his life then he goes to heaven, if he's done bad deeds in his life then God forbidds; he goes to hell, but because God is merciful on us, he forgives the sins specially when that person is good by nature, or has a good daughter like urself who prays for him...so be certain deep down in your heart, that God is more merciful than a mother to her child, & although ur dad's now gone, he'll never be gone from ur heart or mind...so always be a good person in ur life & do good deeds, that if ur dad was alive he'd always be proud of u...& hopefully u'll find love & care in other ppl & always be strong, cos death is just a part of life cycle, & eventually we r all gonna die someday, only God knows when, so make sure that u become a very good person so that when u die (after a long time hopefully) u'd be in heaven like ur dad :)
take care & always smile cos ur dad would not be happy if he'd seen u crying, righhhhhht??
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reader, kt +, writes (28 February 2007):
 hey, sorry to hear about your dad. i am a christian so i do believe in life after death and heaven. i dont know if you are christian but i believe that although your body can die your spirit can't and im 100% sure your dad is watching over you, whether its from heaven or from right beside you.
hope this helps xx
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reader, tinklinglaughter  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Hi Anon! I'm sorry about your father. Naturally, you would need a little help coping with the grief and loss. I think there is a lot of comfort (and answers) to be found in the books 'Many Lives, Many Masters' and 'Messages From The Masters', both by Dr. Brian Weiss. He is a psychiatrist who, when trying to cure a patient of her many fears, found a link to past lives. The books suggest that we have lived many times in the past and will continue to do so in the future until our soul has learned all that it must and then we can choose to come back to help others. Our life plans are more or less pre-determined by our souls (before we're born) but are subject to free will when we are in physical form. Also, souls are born in groups because of 'karma'. So someone you are close to in this lifetime, might have been someone close to you in some previous lifetime(s) too. Someone you have lost in this lifetime will again be with you in another one. I find it very reassuring because it means this lifetime is not the only chance you get to love them. There will be more.
Do try and pick up a copy of these books if you think it may be helpful to you. Hope everything works out for you. Feel free to pm me for any more info. Take care..
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (28 February 2007):
Hi,
So sorry to hear that.
I am an athiest i guess. I believe in being good to people, I dont think you need religion to do that. There are to many wars caused by religion.
But i do believe someone you love can never die. They will always be alive in your heart.
Never let your memories go, and your dad will be with you always.
Lots of Love X
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Shandy Pop, in Chinese folk lore, when someone close to you passes away, a moth may appear in your home. When my grand father died in 1991 and my grand mother in 2000, both times, a moth flew into the house. It was uncanny. My dad said that the night his dad died, he felt a 'nudge' when he saw the moth fly in. I guess, something like a goodbye nudge?
Ah, I've only heard my dad cry twice in my whole entire life. It wasn't pleasant at all to see someone who is normally strong willed and have gone through a lot do that. [frowns]
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 First of all, I'm sorry about your father.
I think that while you're alive there's a certain amount of things you need to do, it might be something really big (save the world) or something really small (like giving a good piece of advice to a friend at the correct time) and unless you've finished your tasks by the time you die, you will come back.
If you've finished your tasks you will become part of the world-soul (nirvana, whatever).
The tricky part is of course that during the course of our life we're never aware of what it is that we need to do.
It's a very interesting question you've raised. I'll check back on this thread later to find out what everybody else think =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): I haven't died so i don't think i can help you here.
When i was 19 my best friend, my dad died, i was devasted. Days later a robin came and sat on our bin outside the kitchen window. No matter what i did the bird stayed for ages. I always thought this was my dad coming to say goodbye. (he died tragically of cancer at the age of 57, i didn't get a chance to say goodbye). Years later i keep seeing a robin if i was going through bad times, it was purely coincidence but it left a nice feeling to think it might of been him.
We all have different views on the matter, but i WANT to believe that there is more to just dying and going away forever.
Take care.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): If you're religious, then whatever happens after death is dependent on what your religion dictates in their scriptures. If you're spiritual but not religious, death can be interpreted (sp?) in many different ways - it depends on how you relate yourself to life, the universe, aliens, and such. If you're an athiest, death is just the end, and whatever life he had left would have been carried on in his children and the things he had influence in.
What do you think?
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