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writes:I was wondering if anyone could help me. I had a miscarriage in january and my and my boyfriend are wanting to do something on what would have been my due date in a few weeks to remember our little boy. I am having a really hard time and the closer my due date gets the harder it gets for me. My boyfriend want to do a balloon release, whitch is a good idea but i was wanting to do more but cant come up with anything else. We are hopeing that by remebering him that day that it will make it alittle easer on us and give us some more closer!!! Any help will be apprecated!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, chvyrdnck +, writes (12 June 2008):
chvyrdnck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wanted to thank everyone that has anwsered my question and for all the good advise!!! Im trying my hardest to make it through this really had time!!!
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 I am sending a big hug your way!I recently experienced a miscarriage (although I was only 8 wks along) and I know what an incredible sense of loss it brings. I had a close friend in a similar situation to you, she was having alot of trouble feeling 'closure' - she and her husband actually bought a plot in a crematorium and put their baby's remains to rest there...just the two of them. She wrote bub a letter that noone else read...and placed that along with a little toy she had bought when she first discovered the pregnancy into the box. They just held each other and cried...she said it really made a difference to have a "proper" way to commemorate their baby's existence. She tells me she has found things getting easier since they did this. My heart goes out to you - I hope you will feel well soon.
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reader, Aeval +, writes (5 June 2008):
 I was in a similar situation a few years back, I am sorry for your pain, I understand exactly how you feel.
The simple fact is nothing is going to seem good enough, however I planted a tree and paid for a little sign at my local botanical garden.
Years on and the tree is going strong.
PS, I promise it really dose get easier.
XX Best of luck
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Maybe you can have kind of a service with your spouse in which you write a letter to your baby boy with about what meant to have him in your life even for such a short period of time. Maybe include something acknowledging that would have been his birth date. I think you should also include some type of letting go ritual in which you acknowledge his existence and your love for him and the that you need to let him go so he can rest in peace.
I am sure he was able to feel your love for him! Best of lucks!
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