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writes:Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to deal with all the "cute" red head jokes and nicknames my whole life and so do people actually believe that it is such an unattractive trait or is it simply for humor? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): Snap! Im a natural ginger and i get millions of 'gingerist' comments thrown at me every day. However most of them are just friendly jokes and not meant to be mean. In fact I even join in and make jokes about it myself! You're lucky to have such a rare, interesting look and it makes you stand out from the crowd. Embrace the ginger! :) xxx
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reader, williamherbert  +, writes (7 April 2012):
i love red hair and pale skin it's a wicked combo. But to be honest i go for what's inside. You could be rainbow haired with polkadot skin, and as long as u had a great personality I'd ask you out. Don't let them get u down remember all bullys r cowads
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (6 April 2012):
 Everyone is different, if they weren't the world wouldn't be as beautiful. There are so many different races, colourings, body shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful in their own way. Sure different people have preferences and "types". Some people will prefer a blond or brunette or darker skin, but equally some people would take red hair and pale skin over any other as their preferred "type". But at the end of the day, people are attracted to other people, not just for the colour of their hair and skin, but for so many other reasons, such as personality, sense of humour, how they meet in life, what the person does, how the person makes them feel, sometimes for no apparent reason you are just attracted to someone, "chemistry". And if someone rejects you because of your hair and skin, they are essentially racist or at least shallow or narrow sighted and not worth dating anyway, their loss...
I know red hair is very unusual because it comes with the palest skin tone and it is the only hair colour that is not a variation of brown, as it has red tones in it! This is why it stands out so much, as well as the freckles. Children and teenagers are so afraid about not fitting in they make fun of kids who are different to themselves in order to bond with kids who are more similar and remain part of "the group". They will pick any perceived difference. This makes them feel safe. As an adult we usually(hopefully) grow out of this and learn that difference is what makes this world wonderful. If everybody looked the same we'd get tired of looking at each other :) I went to Vietnam. I am a curvy girl with the palest skin, freckles and red hair and I was constantly being told I was beautiful and asked for my picture. In some Asian countries people use bleach in skin products to get paler skin. We all want what we can't have... silly, isn't it???
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Some people find it attractive, some don't, just because it's a matter of opinion. I'm a natural blonde, and I love to bash on blondes, and make blonde jokes, because I think it's funny, and the girls who dye their hair blonde at my school kinda act like a stereotypical blonde anyways, so it's funnier!
But anyways, I know there are many guys out there who have an attraction to redheads, so don't worry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): I'm bald and hear bald jokes all the time. As for redheads with pale skin they're my type so I can only say I love them, I love pale skin, freckles, the lot.
OP jokes are jokes. Everyone has a stereotypical feature that can be used as jokes. Blondes, brunettes, fat, thin, male, female, tall, short, straight, gay, yet all those "types" of people are attractive anyway aren't they?
It's not an unattractive trait.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I would find you smoking hot.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I think it’s humor. My fiancé is very very fair although not a redhead on top (his beard grows in red howerver) but he’s so pale and so light sensitive that I tease him that he sparkles in the sunlight…
I was a bottle redhead for 20 years… I love it…
Wear LOTS of good sunscreen and guard your skin… I do not get the whole redhead is evil problem…
Be PROUD of your coloring…
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Honey, I'm a blond (and not out of a bottle) and I have gotten stupid blond jokes all my life. I laugh it off, some of the jokes are rather "cute". I went though a period where I tried EVERY hair color you can imagine from black, brown to red and I always let it go back to my natural hair color, though these days I have a few chucks of red and caramel in there too among the dirty blond.
Red hair and pale shin is NOT a bad thing. Give it a few year and guys will not be calling you names they will be chasing you around.
Be you, be proud. Marilyn Monroe was a red head, Nicole Kidman, Julianne Moore,Kate Winslet,Alyson Hannigan, Marcia Cross, Tori Amos just to mention a few GORGEOUS redheads.
Chin up!
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Are you kidding?? I think pale skin and red hair is hot! It's unique, one of a kind, simply hard to find. People like to make fun of you because you stick out, they blend in. They don't like when someone looks too different from the herd. Take my word for it. I'm a mix guy with long hair in a ponytail. I get teased, called girly names and even ignored by certain people who are afraid to talk to me because of the names I'm called. But you know what? I would honestly say that I'd rather be shunned for being different than be loved for being someone I'm not. I guess this is why I never cut my hair. I simply love having long hair.I say, forget what other people are thinking about you. I'm sure you're very attractive. That one guy that looks at you constantly thinks so as well. He'll love how unique you are and would find interest in your style. Take my word for it. I thought I was weird and. . .too girly, infact. That was until I met a girl that loved me for who I was. I couldn't have been happier.Good luck. Never change to blend in with humanity. Wear your natural red hair like no one else could. Would you feel better if you dyed your hair and the same people that were teasing you started being nice? I would personally be disgusted with myself and them. It all just seems so fake. True friends will love you no matter what you look like.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 You gotta be kidding. Personallly , I've got plenty of mileage out of my long , red ( fake- it comes from a bottle ) hair and smooth pale skin ( that's natural, instead, and stays that way- I hate tans ). As far as I know, red hair / light complexion is deemed an appealing , intriguing combination and it's more likely to attract compliments than critiques. Maybe the jokes are a way of flirting , of trying to get your attention.
Of course, it depends, some carroty shades of red aren't that great , but it's nothing that a good hair stylist can't correct. Ditto for the white, there's glowing,creamy, healthy white, and there's livid, " I just got out of the hospital " white, but this too, can be fixed with self tanning products .
Most of all, - common place yet true- beauty comes in all different shades, sizes and shapes . And it's better being imperfect but distinctive, that flawless but anonymous.
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reader, MistressNataliee +, writes (5 April 2012):
Red hair and pale skin is beautiful, these poeple are jealous. It is an old thing that people take the micky out of gingers whereas more and more people are finding it attractive. There will always be some people who deem it necessary to take the pee outta someone else.
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reader, landomando +, writes (5 April 2012):
Yes people make jokes about having red hair and pail skin.. depending on the color of red it usually is really sexy!at least I think lol I think being light skinned color is kind of a turn off. I think you should try to get a tanning membership, or change your hair style if you are feeling that uncomfortable.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 People make jokes because they just follow the group but the jokes will fade with time. I am personally attracted to the natural red hair and I know a lot of people who are as well so no it is not an unattractive trait. It's just that jokes are easy to be made so people make them. Try your best to remember that it is a blessing even though it may be a few more years before you actually see the full blessing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): I have lots of male friends that find red heads super attractive! I wouldn't worry about it.. Maybe the people that are teasing you are actually "flirting" with you :) I am 37 and looking back to the worst moments in my life with boys and now realize that they were actually flirting with me, which is a very strange way to show affection, I know, but they get better at it with age.. believe me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): It's not about the pale skin (although there seems to be a preference for tan these days with plenty of people that still prefer pale skin) or the red hair. It's about YOUR face and your body shape if you want to look at your appearance objectively. If your face is covered in zits, or you have a really unattractive face, it doesn't matter what your skin tone or hair-color is. Likewise, if you're 300 pounds, most men won't care what about your coloring.
The bottom line is this: if you're attractive, you're attractive no matter what your skin or hair color you have.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I think some people find it attractive and some not. I am a blonde. I am not dumb but I have to put up with dumb blonde jokes all the time. Try not to worry about it
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