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writes:Is there realy such thing as love at first sight or is it just lust? Do men say they love you after a couple of dates just so they can sleep with you? Come on guys be honest have you ever done this? Reply to this Question
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (12 June 2008):
 No, what you have is attraction or even lust at first site that if you are lucky enough DEVELOPES into love later. Since the feelings were there from the beginning you can call it 'love at first sight'. When the relationship fails or fizzles after a bit then you can call it just lust or attraction at first sight. Really they are both the same thing, just one developes one way and one developes the other. Real, true love only comes over a long period of time and getting to really know the person, faults and all. Shared experiences, both good and bad are neccessary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Yeah I believe in love at first sight...But I am the type of person who either I hit it off with you or I don't...And its both with my lovers and my friends...I don't go for this middle ground of "well, I am not sure, I think I smell a rat, but let me ignore my instinct and give it time and test it out to see if it works out"... NO. I trust my instinct...if something is not quite right, then it probably isn't.
When I meet a lover, its usually because the attraction was instant and the chemistry was unquestionable from the very start (first five minutes)...
And, I personally have told guys that I loved them (when I really didn't) just to charm them...and I know I was wrong but that was back when I was younger...
My advice to you is be more confident in yourself...don't worry so much about what the guy wants or what he is thinking...focus on what YOU want. Is he really worth your time? Do you think he is just using you? Do you want to be used? Its up to you...All I can say is that ACTIONS speak louder than words.
And don't give it up so easily. Make him work for it...if he wants you he will...and if he doesn't, he's not worth your time anyways...
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Mine was definitely at first sight and he isn't a hunk (me either). But when I looked into his eyes I just knew there was something great there. After we started talking we have never stopped, even for a single day. We recently got married after being together for a year and a half and living together for about a year.
Even when it's love at first sight it doesn't mean you have to have sex really fast. In fact, if it is love, he will definitely wait for as long as it takes!
Good luck!
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reader, les +, writes (12 June 2008):
Yes, it def is true but you have to be very very careful because lust at first sight is more than not confused as love at first sight. And although they feel very similar, the two are very very different.
So if you think you or someone else fell in love at first sight, be very careful that both you just arent horny and it wont dissapear in a couple of days/weeks.
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 I've really had stories like Bella Babe's and i think its true even though i have not experienced that personally. i hear that it has to be at first sight and not after a couple of date... i also understand that those love at first sights do really turn out to be great relationships... its like a kind of a telepathic connection that can not be explained except by the 2people experiencing it. if there is such a doubt that even prompts you to querry, then it MAY not be love at first sight, probably something else... that i'd also be interested to know.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (12 June 2008):
I personally dont believe in love at first sight because I think that you have to know someone and know their faults to love them. A guy can be hott from a distance and then when you get to know him he might be stupid or mean. However there is a qoute that I love that I do believe in (I have to paraphase because i dont know it word for word but it says) "Many people dont believe it love at first sight, but it is in this moment and this moment only that love begins" Meaning that you cant love someone if you have never met them in the first place.
As for your other question depending on how much you share on those first few dates and the time between them it is possible to fall in love. The sad truth is that every woman dreams of being in love and sometimes men use that fact to use women and get them in bed.
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reader, Bella_Babe57  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 YES!
i was a victim of love at first sight, 2 years later, still in love with him. you just know, as soon as you see them.
If a guy says he loves you after a few dates, he is probably just horny.
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reader, Aeval +, writes (12 June 2008):
 I think some boys say the L word to get you into bed yes.
I think there is also love at first sight sometimes.
having said that...
I first met my other half and couldn't stand him... thought he was arrogant and awful....
Long story short, he moved in about a week later....hee hee
Happy and in love, getting married soon.
I know its not much help but I guess you kinda have to judge it on your own, it depends on the person.
Just don't do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.
Best of luck to you
Aeval
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