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writes:There's this really cute girl at my violin class (I'm home schooled so i don't see many girls) and I'm 12 and she is 10. My friend Jason who is 30 (met online) says since she is still basically a child I should wait a few years. Do you think i should just wait till we are teens? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I know you didn't Amarian,
But you are older than this girl, and soon you will be thinking about sex. Again, I tell you that you can be friends but you can't be girlfriend/boyfriend untill she's a little older.
She sounds so wonderfull, I can understand why you want to be with her. But she's still a child, you will grow up soon and will start to want things that she cannot provide. She's too young. If you can, wait for her untill your both a little older. If you can't then try to find somebody older that has the same qualities as her.
You show good choices when it comes to picking a partner to be with. Keep doing this, it is very admirable. You like 30year olds and 10year olds just for the strength of their personality. You are a very rare, special person and I want the best for you in life. Forget about your friends, they don't think like you do. Put off this boyfriend/girlfriend thing for a little while untill she is older or you find somebody nearer your age with the right personality and everything will be ok. Take care of you.
PS: Your parents must be very proud of you, I know I would be if I was your mother.
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reader, Amarian +, writes (12 June 2008):
Amarian is verified as being by the original poster of the question I never even started thinking about sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Forget about what your friends are doing, some of them are doing wrong. Anyway it's your life and you got to live it in your own way, not by following what the "sheep" think is right.
This girl is too young for you, she's only 10years old. Wait until your both older, and forget about sex until your over age.
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reader, Amarian +, writes (10 June 2008):
Amarian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol people...let me point something out...Jason,is JUST a friend who i play shaiya with and talk on yahoo messanger and ask for advice sometimes...I dont even feel a need too ever meet him in person.Stop getting all jumpy about him.Also-im asking if i should ask her too be my gf NOW or wait untill teen years because most my friends have gf or bf.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (10 June 2008):
 i think hes just asking if he should wait to start dateing until hes in his teen. well once again i think your a good age to have a girlfriend, besides its good for yourself esteem. i didnt have my first girlfriend until i was.... well actualy now that i think about it, i was 13. i thought i was older then that lol. so yeah your at a good age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Amarian, I like your friend Jason, I think he gives good advice. But be carefull ok, it's ok to be online buddies, but you don't meet him or give out personal details unless your mother/father says it's ok and they are with you.
This girl seems really nice. It's just that I'm worried because she's so young. Of course it's fine to be friends and keep in contact, but I'm worried that you could start falling in love and this will be difficult and make things hard for both of you.
I think it's ok to be her friend, but wait untill your both a lot older untill you start any of this boyfriend/girlfriend, love business. Take care of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Wait until your older. She is much too young for you at the moment.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Then what is your question? What are you asking us? What is it you think you should wait for?
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reader, Amarian +, writes (10 June 2008):
Amarian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know were both children.But it was a figure of speach.
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reader, Aeval +, writes (10 June 2008):
I hate to point this out but until you are the legal age you are both children.
Why the rush to grow up?? Enjoy your childhood....
It will just get "funner" from here on in.
Good luck
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reader, Amarian +, writes (8 June 2008):
Amarian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso jason i have known for 2 years and he never even asked for my real name.If he took any shots at me for my info or anything hes on block list.Im not stupid.
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reader, Amarian +, writes (8 June 2008):
Amarian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i keep sex into a fantacy.I never intended too do any sexual things for years.That is if i didnt just wait till marrage.The reason i like her so much is because she acts VERY mature for her age.She has a unforgettable look.And she is so...fun?Dunno just being around her makes every thing funner.One time she asked if i like her because i was mostly hanging around her and not the rest of the group. I acted as though i didnt hear her. Dunno why i typed all this XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): First of all STOP talking to "Jason". He is too old to be your friend and he is a stranger. This can be a very dangerous sitution for you.There are many sick people out there who prey on children. Please tell your parents or another family member you trust about this man Jason.
At your age you should be friends with the girl in your class and nothing more.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (8 June 2008):
i think she might be a little young but your a good age to have a girlfriend, so if shes the one you want then i guess theres no reason to wait till shes older.
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reader, lushlass93  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 you are only young so going out dosnt mean much so if you want to you should but if you are looking for a girl to be serious and things you should wait utnil you are older for that
good luck xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): wait to have a sexual relationship! but you can have a friendly one now x
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reader, _Confused_96 +, writes (7 June 2008):
 u should definatly wait until ur teens, she wouldnt appreciate it if you got her pregnat at this point in time, it may be tempting but you still hav plenty of time! wait a few years and see how things get on, and trust me, im a girl and im 12, so i know how u feel and how she would react as well, if things work out in a few years time, maybe when shes 14-15, then maybe u can move things up a level, but hey, theres no worries in waiting!
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reader, lexilou +, writes (7 June 2008):
 My son bless his cotton socks has had 'girlfriends' since he was 5, he is very cute and very blonde and a lovely lad. At your age having a girlfriend means different things then when you are older i.e. you wont be going out on dates to pubs and restaurants, making out etc etc.
So given your innocence and age then there is nothing wrong with asking her to be your girlfriend and hanging out together. Enjoy it x
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