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writes:i want a baby but im only 12 years of age.im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2.i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 ummmm your 12. How are you going to pay for a baby? They are very very expensive. How do you think you would be a good mother when you can't even drive/vote/drink/sign legal contracts make a good choice about schools ect?
i suggest you DO NOT have a child now as although you don't feel it you are still a child yourself.
Get a hobby.
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reader, peace-and-love  +, writes (8 June 2008):
Try working at a nursery or babysitting. Try not to think about this - it'll probably go away when you see what screaming lumps babies can be.
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reader, im a horny 12 year old +, writes (8 June 2008):
look love ur only 12 you sholdnt ave a babynow i kno how u feel seeing all these mum pushing thier buggies , i am 12 too and love babys but wait until ur 18 ull thank me later belive me and + ur mum will get arested coz its illgal to have sex under the age of 16 think about it and reply
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reader, Short timer  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 what is wrong with you. .dont do it babysitting and caring for your own child are two totally different things.1. you dont have to watch your cousin all the time with your child you do2. you cannot finacially support yourself on your own right now3. babys take up all your time4. you need schooling so you can get a decent jobdont be silly and mess up ypour life.(Mod note: language cleaned up)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): STOOOOOPP... what an a stupid thinking baby......., are you out of you head now? or you are just kidding with this question..
you are 12" NO WAY FOR BEING A MOTHER AT THIS AGE.... you need a doctor for your head... you are absulutetly needing it....... just run and find the doctor nooowwwwww... gladyz..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): no way you are far to young you cant look after a baby and do homework and prepar for exams you wil never cope with it all ypur not even in your teens yet and have no boyfriend i think its rediculous a very stupid idea enjoy your life finish school first then go out clubbing with ya mates and find a decent boyfriend dont just get pregnant with anyone find the right one please take my advice
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou +, writes (5 June 2008):
 First of all, sweety, you are very young and shouldn't be having thoughts of having children at such an early age. It takes money, time, energy, and alot patience to raise a child. If you have a child now, you'll miss out on sooooooooooooooo much. You'll be babystitting while your friends are outside playing and laughing and enjoying life. Live your life and having a baby should be the last thing on your mind.....after marriage.
PEACE!!!!!
AND SEX SHOULD BE THE LAST THING ON YOUR MIND, ESPECIALLY IN A WORLD FILLED WITH MANY DISEASES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Ermm...more to the point, you have no period let alone a boyfriend.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Eyes and Uncle phil always provide a good laugh with good advice follow it
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reader, VictoriaJK  +, writes (5 June 2008):
Having a baby at 12 is TOO YOUNG!!! I'm almost 18 and I know I wont be ready to start a family for at least another 7-8 years. You're frankly too young for any type of commitment like that, and that poor baby's life would be absolute hell. My parents had me when they were 20 and even with high school out of the way and university started we barely made ends meet and I was constantly in day care. They were 24 when they had my sister and still we struggled. If they struggled through all that (with my mom who helped raise her 4 siblings since she was 10) there is no freaking way that you could handle it. I'm sorry to be so harsh about this...but you're just a kid and you've got your whole life ahead of you. You're not even a teenager yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Have you considered adoption?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): to "eyes wide open" that was the best reply so far
HAHAHAHAHAHA.
and as for the should i have a baby nonsense im not going to even answer it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 June 2008):
 You can't even click on the right age bracket so how the heck do you think you could take care of a baby?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Sweetheart, listen to me. If this post is indeed real.
Money - you are on no stable income.
Education - you'd ruin your school life beyond what you can imagine.
Home - you are living with your parents, not even in a home of your own.
Family - how fair would it be on your parents? Not at all. They'd end up paying for it, I guarentee.
Sleep - simply, you wouldn't get any!
Father - the father would simply not be there, never mind give a damn about his child in the world.
You could have a child now and it would be hard, tiring and unbelievably difficult. People would look down on you, and it would grow in an unstable home. Or you could wait just a little longer and have a gorgeous husband that went through a beautiful and inspiring pregnancy with you. You could stay up and feed the baby at night, feeling tired but overwhelmed with love for your family.
Honey, wait. Please. I know you think you're good with babies, but having one of your own is a whole different kettle of fish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): You shouldnt even be having sex, never mind wanting a baby. you are just a child yourself, and dont come back with some huffy bloody answer, i am right! Ok so maybe you arent haveing sex but hey, why dont you get a pram and put a doll in it, sorry to sound so blunt, but honestly! They are not easy, it is hard work. I brought up my third child on my own and i was a lot older than you. Grow up first, meet someone and fall in love, then get married and then when both of you want to, start a family.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): You may think you're ready,but you're not.No matter how much you babysit your cousin's baby,you're not.You don't
have her baby all the time,so you don't have to worry about the baby's needs.A baby is hard work and can change your life forever.Wait until you're married.You need your education.The only way you can have a baby without a boyfriend is to go to the clinic and get a random man's sperm.You probably would want to know who your baby's father is,wouldn't you.Please wait!Have a baby now and I
promise you,you will regret it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Dude! Take a look at the situation! You're still in grade school!!! Of course you're not ready for a baby! Just because you babysit your cousin does NOT mean that you are ready to be a full time mom. Once you become a mom, everything becomes about the baby, not you. One of the worst things you can do to yourself is have a baby while you're still in school, not to mention the baby.
This isn't something that you can just decide to do on a whim. You can't back out, once you decide to do it! it's a commitment that will last around 18 years, cost thousands of dollars, and change your life dramatically. I have no idea what's going through your head, but I can tell you, your parent's job is to keep you out of harm, and help you have a good life. I really doubt they'd approve. Do you really think no one would notice your dramatic gain in weight? What about the baby? Where would you deliver? Where would you keep it? How can you be a mom with so much school left? You're frontal lobe isn't even fully developed!
Teen pregnacy can really hurt someone, but pregnacey before you become a teen? That's unthinkable, really. You won't live the best years of your life!
I won't even tell you how to get pregnant without a BF, although I'm sure you'll find out. But for the love of god, if not for yourself, do it for the baby, and don't do it until you are actually ready.
Do you know what kind of a life the baby would have? It would be bad, I can tell you that. Very bad.
Are you even through puberty yet? I don't know if you even COULD get pregnant, even WITH a BF.
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Well I think you first need to wait a little bit. You may be ready to have a baby, but you need to think about the baby first.
You'll need money to feed him, diapers, toys etc ... I was told that during the first year, the baby can cost about 20 000$ (That's like buying a car).
You also want the baby to have a good dad, everybody need a female and a male model.
So make it your goal to find a good guy first, when you think you found a good one (usually you know after 2 years or more when being with him) and you have enough money to take good care of a baby, start the process of making one.
It takes planning if you want to be a good mom. So take a few more years to think about it, start deciding of names, colors of his/her room etc...
Hope this help
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Moderators, where are you, your keep letting the insane run wild in our asylum......
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Hi Miss anonymous aged 22-25,
You are an idiot, can't you find something better to do with your time than play these silly games?
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Sorry about the double reply but it would also be very illegal for you to have sex and if it is with someone over 18 he could get a hefty jail sentence.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Hunny, your only 12! Im 15 and I love kids too, but there is no way I could handle a baby on my own. Kids are a lot of work and MONEY. Right now you need to concentrate on school (yes boring I know) and get some good grades, then maybe go to collage get some degrees, univrsity maybe? Its all so much fun. Then you can get a good job and have a great life AND give your children a brillian life. You dont want to bring a baby into a life where it will not get all the equipment it needs. Im not saying you would make a bad parent, im sure you would be great but it takes so much time and effort, and im sure you would want the best for your child?? Dont you love hanging out with your friends? Well with a baby you wont have much of that. You will have to put its needs first. Boys.. well im not saying they are all like this but some guys wont wanna be tide down with someone with a kid. At this age people are PREVENTING pregnancy. Also.. at 12 your body isnt mature, having a baby could damage you. Im not a doctor or anything but you dont want to damage yourself (maybe even the baby??) and possibly risk no being able to have kids later on. But if you dont have a boyfriend, there is no possible way, because I doubt anyone is gonna give a sperm donation to a 12 year old. Wait untill your older and your in a loving relationship :) Message me if you wanna talk hun xx
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (5 June 2008):
You're only 12, you sholdn't even be thinking about sex at your age. You may love and be good with kids but parenthood is VERY hard work and you still have a lot to live for before you become a parent.
Think how having a baby would affect your school work and going into college.
Plus think about how your family would treat you and if a boy did get you pregnant I doubt he would stick around for long.
Live before you create life.
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