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writes:My boyfriend and I had a beautiful, sweet and happy relationship but then I had to leave him after four months of being together in a relationship. But he insisted to have a long distance relationship so I agreed because I really love him. We were all over each other even during our long distance relationship. I knew his passwords on ever account that he had and vice versa. After couple of months though we decided to delete our facebook. (it was my idea because he never used his facebook anyways and I never used mine as well) But then we broke up after ten months of being in a LDR. (after he confessed that he was flirting with girls) I made new account in facebook as soon as we broke up and he found out so he made one too. He added me up as his friend so I accepted it. And I saw that during our LDR he was lying to me on a lot of stuff. (I saw pictures of him) There were a lot of times that he told me he had to work but he was out with his friends and with other girls. When he talked to me asked him about those pictures and he admitted them. He said he was very sorry and he was asking for second chance. I told him to think about it for awhile. I told him to date other girls and do whatever he wants (even though it'll kill me)During the time that were separated he was still messaging me and telling me that he's still inlove with me. He was telling me stories about the girls that he dated and flirting with and telling me that they were nothing like me.After five months of being broken up he called me and told me that he tried but he still loves me. Now we're back together. The thing that really change now is that we're not all over each other anymore. I don't know what he's password is and he doesn't knows mine. I like it that way. Although, I'm kinda worried. I don't know anything that's going with him (we're not currently friends on facebook) because he doesn't tell me anything about him, going out with his friends. I was thinking of making a fake account on facebook and add him up.Is that a stupid idea?
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 You shouldnt go back to him. keep out of the relationship, you can do better i'm sure :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys are amazing :) Thank you very much for your advices.
I really should trust him, but the bad thing is I can't give my full trust on him anymore. He just lied to me so many times and I don't deserve that. I deserve someone better.
We actually just broke up yesterday. He told me straight up that when we weren't together he slept with other girls. Of course I got flipped out. How the hell is he expecting me to react on that situation. So I told him, I needed a break and time to think about it. He said he understands but then after couple of hours I wanted to talk to him but he doesn't wanna talk to me. It was just all stupid.
Thank you guys again for your answers. I really appreciate them. :)
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (25 March 2011):
He doesn't sound like husband material and he doesn't sound like teenage boyfriend material. Tell him you have trust issues and see how that goes. You don't need someone who doesn't love you enough to tell you the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Just add him as a friend from your normal account. If he refuses then I wouldnt trust him. Relationships are built on trust 1st, everything else comes 2nd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): sweetie get rid of him . it sounds like he is playing games with you . sounds like alot of trust issues .not good . if he can not be straight with you than be done with him . its not worth driving your self crazy over him . because it sounds like this going to be ongoing thing . not good . if your gut says somethings not right listen to it . because your gut feelings are right most of the time . good luck , i tell you sweetie i dated a guy and my feeling were right something wsnt not right so i made a fake profile on a dating site we were on and caught him after he lied right in my face and told me he just wanted to work on our relationship . sounded to good to be true wow was i right . i dumped his ass . if you have to go through the fake profile sweetie its not worth it you might find something you already know in your heart or it
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Im gonna be totally honest here and say yeah that is an unbelievably bad idea...you should be able to trust him enough to not have to do that.However in saying that why are you guys not friends on facebook? to me thats weirdAnd lastly...its exactly the kind of thing I would do and have done unfortunately...I wasnt sure how my bf really felt about me and I did that and ya know what he never found out it was me and he never once flirted or anything with the fake me (who was stunning) and I never got much from him besides the fact that he loves me and thinks im beautiful. Id never tell him either because I know it will ruin my relationship with him (I did that almost 2 years ago) but it was such a bad idea and I regret it now. Think about it alot before you do anything...are you willing to accept the consequences to this or willing to know his response to the fake account.
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