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writes:Okay , so I have been dating this guy for about two months now and he has already told me that I am the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life . I also know that I want to do the same . He is getting back into the army and wants me to move in and live on the base with him . Do y'all think that this could be a step in the right direction ? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Ok so you've known him for a while, at least that makes it better. But no. Don't move. If you rush things then you'll ruin them, even if the man is the one rushing into things. Him being too eager can be a sign of him not knowing what he wants, but getting carried away in the moment. With this mentality, one month after moving he could be kicking you out and saying this isn't working.
So no, don't move. Remain in a relationship, but see how things evolve when he's on his base and you are at home. Then take time to think about moving, and how that would work for you as well. You need to keep your independence, have a life of your own, even if you move to him. And on a base, well, how would you spend your time, live your life, HAVE a life? Friends? Work? Anything you can do in your spare time?
Make a real solid plan that fulfills your needs as well, before you move. And wait at least 6 months into the relationship before you move in together. For now, if you move to his base, you should get a place of your own... Moving in this early can ruin the entire relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've known him since I was little .
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (9 November 2011):
Not really. 2 months is too short a time before making such a huge step. But if it's what you really want to do, it's your decision. Just want to point out a few things for you to take into consideration - how far would you be moving? Would you know anyone there? Are you leaving a job or school behind? Can you get around there? Etc etc. If it wasn't a big move, it would be much easier to deal with - even if it doesn't turn out well. Oh, and how will you be supporting yourself? Or will you be relying on him to do so?
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 That is a terrible idea. DO NOT go live on an army base, you barely know him.
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