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writes:heyI'm in this relationship since 4years and we both love each other alot and everythin was great until we had a breakup 2months back it was becoz of the family issues now we are together again and everything is the same as it was before but when we had a breakup in that argument i said to him that you were with me just becoz of sex etc it was only becoz i was angry now when we are together he is sayin i wont touch you i dont want to give you the same feeling again then you'll say the same things again that i was only with you coz of sex..is he proovin his love? i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): You hurt him, and he remembers it every time you want to have sex and get close. He may think in the back of his head that perhaps you meant "I'm only with you because of the sex, and if someone better came along I'd dump you in a heartbeat." (Were you?)He's not all the way back, and neither are you.So, healthy mature sex is a healthy part of a mature relationship. That is where you need to head.I'd talk, talk about being hurt, about hurting others, about love, sex, touching, what you like, what you like from him, what you want from him, what you want to be for him, what you can be for him, about anger and what it does to you (fear, loathing, etc).Talking is how mature relationships are formed.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (25 March 2011):
He's teaching you a lesson.
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Guys HATE it when girls say "You're only with me for sex". It is the single most infuriating thing a girl can say. If he just wanted sex, he'd go pick up easy girls at the local bar that he didn't have to buy birthday presents for. Relationships are not cost or time effective when it comes to sex accquirement. He is therefore not with you just for sex so cut him some slack and apologize for saying it and tell him that you didnt mean it, you regret saying it, it's not true and you miss your love life. That should fix it :)
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