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writes:How do you let go when you cant?ive had my fair share of idiot boyfriends in the past but this is is lovely, weve been together for a year and a half and he is lovely, kind, sexy and gorgeous, he treats me like a princess and i know he feels the same way i do...we havent got a good sex life and its going downhill nearly everytime we try, i dont want to loose him because i do love him we argue about it and im feeling more and more distant everytime we tryi feel our relationship is a chore at times to him, and he is only interested in Xbox, he never wants to go out and been a normal teenager and i do. Im looking forward to turning 18 soon and i want to go out get dressed up and have a good night and he dont, im starting to doubt if i want to be with him not because i dont love him and thats what makes it soooo hard because hes not a bad boyfriend but hes admitted hes too lazy half the time to make an effort, we dont go out, i have to nag to do something simple like going cinema. I feel our spark has died and even my other half admitted that he thinks were going to end sooner or laterbut i dont want to let go should i? i dont want to give up because i know we love each other, i know we care about each other! Can i save us? Or shall i excpet that my fingertips cant hold onto the cracks in our foundation for much longer...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 He treats you like a princess how? You want to go out and he does not want to do what you want to do so you don’t do it? How is this treating you well?
Relationships are about compromise. We go see a movie I want to see… then we go see the one he wants. We eat sometimes where I like and sometimes where he likes….
Yes folks have to put effort into relationships but NOT to make them a chore.
If you keep arguing about the SAME THING then you are not resolving the issue and I think that it’s a fundamental personality issue that will not be resolved.
He’s a VERY bad boyfriend hon. He says he knows it’s going to end and he’s right, it is. You are very young to think that it’s going to be a forever relationship. At 17 you are figuring out what’s going on.
My first boyfriend was mine from age 15.5 till I was 18 and then I left. It was hard to do but it was for the best.
Love does NOT conquer all. Love is NOT all you need…
It’s pretty much coming to an end now… and you need to accept that it’s going to be over. Maybe do it now before you birthday so you have time to find some new friends to party with for your 18th birthday.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (8 June 2012):
 If you already feel that he thinks the relationship is a chore, it's time to say goodbye. I know that is blunt to say, but it's true. My boyfriend did the same thing. It was emotionally exhausting for me to be with someone who didn't even act like a friend much less a boyfriend. I did everything in the "relationship" and it got old really fast. I know where you're coming from!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 June 2012):
 You have pretty much admitted that things are just not working out the way they are at the moment, but you are still holding on to hope that he will change and stop being lazy and start going out with you and doing fun things together. But if I am honest it is very unlikely that this is going to happen. He has already admitted that you are both going to end sooner or later, he has giving up on the relationship, he cannot be bothered making an effort any more, I think he is just waiting on you to finish things because he is to much of a coward to do it himself. Okay there might be love between you both but that is no where near enough to keep a relationship alive.
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reader, adamskidude +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Having doubts? you could just move on. You're 18, go out and have fun if that's what you want to do.
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