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writes:I met this guy online.. we chatted for a year now..and we are in a long distance relationship..we haven't met e yet..but he has plan to see me soon..but then we broke up.. because i think he is cheating on me.. i am wondering why he is invisible on skype every time i talk to him.. i added him on facebook but he doesn't confirm me as his friend... why is that? is he hiding something? or am i just being paranoid? he also have other networking sites..he used to comment to some pictures of sexy women in that said site.. is that cheating? what shall i do? i broke up with him just now, and i feel like i made the wrong decision..i want to reconcile with him,,,but i think hes lossing interest on me...because when i broke up with him , its like it is ok with him.. no effort to tell me not to break up with him,,,so i think he doesnt care if we break up :( tell me people what shall i do? i really need your help.. i need advices please.. thank you
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reader, d'writer +, writes (28 March 2011):
 MOVE ON girl, I could say crystal clear now that he doesn't really care. Please, DON'T beg for love. You deserve a genuine one because your love is true. I know it's easier said than done but it's true that sooner or later you will get over him. Give time to yourself to grieve, rearrange your room or everything around you, delete his number, delete your skype program in your computer, don't try to contact him anymore, keep yourself busy with other stuff to help you get over. One day when you wake up you will realize he's no longer part of your life and you don't care anymore. Goodluck girl, you can make it too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiond'writer :thank you for the advice girl .. actually i just text him this morning and he got online on skype... i was trying to reconcile with him but sounds like him and i cant never be back again... :( i told him to help me ease the pain and if hes not gonna come back with me then i shall move on...then he told me to delete me on my contact list :( he doesnt love me anymore , yeah? ohh gosh! i dont know what to do :( but yeah, u are right.. i better move on and forget him.. i should be strong!! thank you so much girl :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): girl, the feeling really sucks, I know that because I have been there several times...deleting you and and to minding to contact you means he doesn't really care, accept that fact. You would know if a guy doesn't want to lose you. My guy cried and begged me not to go when I told him I was so hurt and I just better go. Stop searching for him now, he's not worth it I'm telling you. I could guess that he has a list of girls online and all what he's doing is cross out and try the others on his list. It doesn't take overnight to get over him, cry if you must, scream if you need to just so that you can release your agony. You need time to grieve so that you can eventually heal your heart and move on. Give yourself a time, try hard not to make any move to contact him. In due time you will realize that he's no longer matter in your life, trust me on this. Don't easily trust men online, always put in your mind that they are on the dating sites for different agendas and you are just one of their agendas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiond 'Writer :
i wish i know one of his friends.. but he never introduce me to his friends..even his family like his mom and his 2 kids.. i have been searching him now, but still cant get proofs :( just made me sad.. i think he is very good in hiding stuff like this... i have been looking at some social networking sites where him and i are friends, but so sad, i just found out that he DELETED me there.. :( so it only shows that he is really hiding something from me :( can u give me another ways for me to get some proofs? anyways, until now he haven't contact me yet..so i guess it is really fine with him that we broke up.. i still waiting for him to call or text me..or even send me a note on skype.. but i think hes not interested anymore :( really sad.. i wish i can move on that fast.. this sucks :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): make a tedious check up on all his friends in every dating site that you know...read their exchanges of comments or public messages...in other words investigate! I could think that he's playing games with other women online, too, and promising them the same. In other words his statements are just copy and paste!In my case, when my guy found me and we started dating, he stopped chatting with is real gf and that made the woman gone crazy, she posted a message on the profile of the guy on yahoo messenger. That's the time I found out about her, the guy admitted it. I kept my mouth shut but I did my investigation more. On the part of other woman she also started to investigate why the guys is not chatting with her anymore, she did her own investigation and found the guy's profile on twitter where she found my sweet message for the guy. She too posted sweet messages for the guy that i found out later. She also started following me and posted nasty messages about my person. The guy was caught in between, I kept my cool even if I was raging inside. The woman is real freak and that made the guy chose me instead of her. Nevertheless, that doesn't make sense to me anymore. The fact that he lied and he lied several times even if he has been showing me that he loves me, made me become more cautious and keep on investigating online all the time. It's not healthy, it's agonizing so no one would think it's really worth it. Try to investigate about him by searching for his name and email address on google or WOT, every data about him you search it and find what you can find out...goodluck girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiond' Writer : thank you for that.. can you tell me how you be able to find out that he has a real girl friend? i want to do that too.. but it's difficult because i can't even have the access to his facebook...
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reader, d'writer +, writes (26 March 2011):
Hi we are on the same boat and I've had several online relationships before. Your case is not new to me as far as your online bf is concerned. It made me realized that I have been looking for love in all the wrong places. I have online bf right now (again) we have been on for 8 months, and he appears to be very sensible. But since my work is online news researcher I did some tedious reasearch about his activities online and I found out that he's been lying to me all along. I found out he has a real girlfriend and it came to a point that women found out about me and she sent me nasty messages on my twitter account. Fortunately, he chose me and I can sense he really has the feeling for me, but that doesn't change my feeling of betraying my trust. You see? most men who are coming online have their own motives and most want to play games and boost their ego by chatting with women. There's a lot of men on the internet, go to a reliable site and open your door to other possibilities. Most importantly try hard not to trust them, play safe, until they actually show their sincerity by meeting you in person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to all who respond.. u were all right.. i should move on.. i know its not easy..but i will still try..i shouldn't be like this if only i had listened to my family and friends.. but i didn't coz i listened my heart..its hard when u not know when to listen to ur heart and when to listen to ur family and friends... well now i know what is the right thing to do.. even i still in pain right now.. :(
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reader, loulou95  +, writes (25 March 2011):
honestly... i think u should break it of. been there done that. Its not worth its much, MUCH more easy to just find someone in person and hve legitamate relationship because until you meet youll never know who he is and from what you just told me it seems like hes just in it for fun and if you sext or send dirty pics to him then he definatley is a fraud...i know his prolly hurty but it had to be said
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (25 March 2011):
My suggestion is that you find a guy closer to home, forget the online romances, and not get so serious over someone you have never met. Someone can tell you the moon is made of cheese You will have no way of disputing this fact. See the difference? You read in the newspaper all the time about older guys passing themselves off to younger than 16 year olds and then wanting to meet. If your online guy actually met a gal closer to him, more power to him. On-line a person can tell you anything he/she wants to say. I would not let my emotions get too involved with a "romance" online! To me, it's more or less filling up time in a person's life! Are you lonely? Surely, there are guys in your area.
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (25 March 2011):
 I would say STAY broken up, and don't contact him AT ALL, no matter what. If he really wanted to be with you he would have tried to stop you. You'll know if he feels anything at all for you if he contacts YOU. Wait for his message first, and only then should you talk to him. If you are important enough to him he will try to keep you in his life. The worst thing you can do is bombard him with questions and accusations, even though I know how tempting it is....it will just make him not want you.Otherwise, think of it as a long road of crappiness avoided. On a side note, being invisible on skype and him not confirming you as a friend on facebook is extremely shady. I definitely wouldn't want anyone I was interested in commenting on other women's "sexy pics".
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 If a guy doesnt care that you've broken up, it means he isn't emotionally involved anymore. Move on :)
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